Problem. (raises hand)

[LateForTheSky]

I have a bit of a problem that I have tried to fix but have found NOTHING that even attempts to help me but just tells me it can be difficault.

Right to the point I'm gay and I am jealous (yes i know not very grown up) of my mates, they are all starting to get girlfriends and I feel left out. I would find it incredibly hard to ask out a girl nevermind a guy not to mention I go to a catholic highschool, there is no one near me at home my age who i would even talk to nevermind go out with (theres a lot of junkie alcoholic sex addict kids in my neighbourhood) not to mention I am part of a very immature year group being 13 years old so to be honest I'm scared. I don't know what to do you can say I'm perfectly normal and things will work out but why is it so delayed for me my friends are all growing up round about me quicker than i am and im stuck. I need help, I really love this guy its not just a crush hes my every second thought but I can never get to know him he has an annoying friend who is very popular. that hangs around ALL the time and he disapears at lunch/break times. I dont live anywhere near him and he wont even reply when I say hello on msn. I can handle rejection but to not even get agnolaged is somewhat hurtfull.

[Patchy]

Well I dunno about the girlfriends and boyfriends part

but try and stay with your friends when there not with there gf's as much as you can because then that means your not being left behind.

[byee]

I think you're recognizing that who you are effects your ability to get what you want. I think it is more difficult getting what you want (and deserve), it's unfortunate that people judge eachother on things they have no control over, and are not at all relevant to their worth as people, too. I guess you have to be careful, it's not the same as straight guys lusting after the hot girls, as the worst they have to face is merely rejection of their advances by the girl. There's much more at stake for you.

I think there's a couple of things to keep in mind here. First, it takes a bit more time (and discretion) in finding other gay teens, but they're out there. keep your antenna up, are there any gay teen groups nearby? Even in your school,/neighborhood, maybe with time it'll be apparent who is gay.

Second, is that even though you understandably want an emotional relationship with a guy, there's more to you than your sexuality. You can still make friends, good friends (of both genders) who, although maybe not as satisfying as a 'special' friend, are pretty worthwhile nonetheless (this isn't that different than what alot of straight people encounter).

Things take time, regardless if you're straight or gay. In your case, there's just this added dimension that complicates things. Side step that complication for a while, make valuable connections in non sexual ways, and I think with time, you'll find the person (or at least the opportunity) to find what you're looking for.

[Antares]

Are you openly gay at your school and is this other kid popular?

I know it can be weird to be the 5th wheel but if they are truly your friends then they should have no problem hanging out with you and their gf at the same time. Well at least I would not...But what im saying is that you will be the 5th wheel once in your life. You might as well get it over with now...

[LateForTheSky]

Are you openly gay at your school and is this other kid popular?

I know it can be weird to be the 5th wheel but if they are truly your friends then they should have no problem hanging out with you and their gf at the same time. Well at least I would not...But what im saying is that you will be the 5th wheel once in your life. You might as well get it over with now...

I go to a catholic high school I wouldnt have any friends if i came out, only my close friends know. And this kid is popular good looking, athletic, brainy, funny everything

[byee]

Maybe more to the point is that regardless of your sexuality, if someone (of either gender) isn't interested in you there isn't much you can do. Sometimes, we have to learn to live with not being acknowledged, or having the feelings recriprocated, or even getting the courtesy of a 'Hello'.

It might be time to let go and move on.

[LateForTheSky]

Maybe more to the point is that regardless of your sexuality, if someone (of either gender) isn't interested in you there isn't much you can do. Sometimes, we have to learn to live with not being acknowledged, or having the feelings recriprocated, or even getting the courtesy of a 'Hello'.

It might be time to let go and move on.

But i can't i feel to alone. I cant deal with being on my own friends and family arnt enough for meright now. The main problem is at my age i can't get anything to fill this hole.