my friend.

[Atonement]

My friend was raped last spring and she only recently told me about it... we are very good friends and all but it is now rather awkward being around her. What should I do? How should I react? :confused:

[Patchy]

Well, if it was my friend I would support her about it try and keep her happy and if she is act like it never happend. if shes a good mate you should stick with her and act normally around her if shes like that with u

[titanic]

Just be there for her. You shouldnt act any differently around her. just be the same. don't even talk about it. but if she does bring it up, then support her, listen to her and talk to her. just be a supporting friend. Other then that dont go acting weird around her, because that might make her feel ashamed or embarresed. just be a good friend that you are.

:) :)

[byee]

What's awkward for you?

Whenever someone shares something that's unexpected or truly traumatic, sometimes it's hard to know how to deal with our own feelings about it. Seperate your own reaction from hers and you'll find it easier to address.

Like anything horrible, be supportive, say something to acknowledge her experience like, 'Oh, wow, i'm really sorry', or, 'That's horrible'. People share this stuff to get it off their chest and to get some support. That's easy enough to give, even if you feel 'awkward' with your own feelings about it.

People experience things in life, a lot of it not too pleasant. As you get closer with them, they'll share it with you, and you'll get used to it, the feelings you get, as well as their experience of it. Just be supportive, and move on. It's just a part of who they are.