I feel safer yet insecure...

[Trickster]

OK so when i talk to girls any girl my age or a little older i feel fine and i can talk about anything no nervousness or anything:confused:. In fact most of my friends are girls. Yet when i see porn on them just a constant and i mean constant tingle no erection or anything. Like the feeling of when its about to become an erection but stops there. Yet when i talk to certain boys who arent my friend(i can talk to my male friends just fine like my friends who are girls) i cant look them in the eye or talk about stuff. I just get bored so easily and just want to go away:(. But not for all boys though. and when i see porn on guys an instant erection. Whats this happening? Puberty sucks!

[Dolphus Raymond]

OK so when i talk to girls any girl my age or a little older i feel fine and i can talk about anything no nervousness or anything:confused:.

Count yourself among the lucky, then.

In fact most of my friends are girls. Yet when i see porn on them just a constant and i mean constant tingle no erection or anything. Like the feeling of when its about to become an erection but stops there.

Yet when i talk to certain boys who arent my friend(i can talk to my male friends just fine like my friends who are girls) i cant look them in the eye or talk about stuff. I just get bored so easily and just want to go away:(. But not for all boys though. and when i see porn on guys an instant erection. Whats this happening? Puberty sucks!

There's a good chance that this is just hormones - you're used to the male body, and thus that's most sexual to you. Your body doesn't really understand female sexuality and can't recognize it and be aroused by it. But I won't lie to you. There's also a chance you're gay. I won't bother giving you the "there's nothing wrong with it" speech, but as far as I'm concerned, there really isn't.

You're 13, though, and too young to be thinking conclusively about your sexual orientation. Hang in there - what happens will happen - and accept it for who you are. You'll make it OK.

[byee]

I think your sig answers the question! It's hard being 13 (or 14). If you're asking if you're gay because you get an erection easier thinking/looking at guys, the answer is 'no'. There are a lot of reasons why younger guys get aroused by other guys, I read somewhere that it's because it's easier to get aroused/excited by stuff we're familiar with because we're used to it and there's less anxiety with it. Maybe that's what's going on for you, you're comfortable with girls socially, but in a sexual way it's very new and unfamiliar to you. Guys, and penises, well, you're more familiar with that stuff, so it's easier to allow yourself to become aroused.

I'd bet that as you get more comfortble and familiar with girls as more than just friends, you'll find those other qualities arousing, too. Give it some time.

[Trickster]

Thanks and like my sig does say i really dont care if i become gay or not. With the friends i have it dosent really matter as long as i find love. and that makes alot of sense that girls i dont see sexually and i feel guilt y or pervy if i look yet with guys who i see and hang out with, with out shirt off and stuff i dont see it as pervy, i see them with their shirt off and stuff so im used to it. wow it makes alot of sense now. Thanks :)

[Serenity]

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