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clueless_one
June 24th, 2013, 07:48 PM
Before I start, this thread is about the same incident with the girl I asked out saying yes at first and then saying she didn't want to go out with me. I'm not spamming but am just looking for advice on what I should do. If I should just ask out another girl or if I should tell the girl I like now that the girl I asked out is lying or some type of advice please. Thank you.



I asked out a girl and she said yes, but when organising the date she said she was busy and at the end she said she didn't want to go out with me. Everyone in my school knows that I asked her out and now the other girls might think i'm in a relationship but i'm not and if I ask out another girl they may think i'm desperate and I will scare them off.

The first girl who I now like said she doesn't want to speak to me anymore after asking out her friend. She didn't show me many signs of liking me but she told me now that she liked me.

She only spoke to me during the class where the girl I asked out is in. The other class she is with me, she never speaks to me and sits next to another girl in the classroom. How was I meant to know if she liked me or not from her doing this.

She spoke about things I do. Like how my weekend was.

But she never smiled, said or did anything that showed me she liked me other than asking me to sit next to her during class.

Now she doesn't want to talk to me anymore after asking out the girl I asked out. I wanted to still be friends with me but...



The second girl I like (who I now like because the first girl doesn't want to talk to me because I asked out her friend) has been showing me signs of liking me and still was after finding out I asked out a girl.

Signs she likes me:

She knows I asked out a girl and was surprised saying that I have a girlfriend. On the same day a boy told me that the girl I asked out was lying about wanting to go out with me. This girl (who I like now) said "Talk to her and find out if she has mutual feeling for you and if she actually wants to go out with you. Just to make sure. She is a nice girl, I don't think she will be lying." saying it with a sad face and tone.

The day or two after finding out I asked out a girl, she was talking about our essay project to me and another girl. She read one of the paragraphs and she looked at the girl 3-4 times and to me 7-8 times when reading it. I told her that I thought it was a good paragraph and she was smiling a bit.

She looks at me a few times, on a few days she looks at me a lot.

She talks to me and asks questions about my life (If I have brother or sisters)

She touched/tapped my arm and back when she was telling me something about my school work, which never happeneds with other girls.

her hand was really close to mine (almost touching distance(maybe wanted me to hold her hand)) she didn't move her hand at all. (This was at the same time as the sign above this one)

She also enjoys the sport I like and the girl I asked out doesn’t really talk about the sport.

We were talking in a group and I did something and she said we have to have dinner before we go there and was laughing/smiling

she yelled my name out in a public place (school excursion) when she was with her girl friends and also in class. It was also someones birthday on that same day and her friend offered me some cake and she said that she made it.

unnamed94
June 24th, 2013, 10:59 PM
instead of looking for signs on everything this new girl does, ask her. its as simple as that. if she tells you she does like you ask her out on a date. if she doesnt like you, you still have a friend

GigglyAbby
June 24th, 2013, 11:16 PM
I think you need to either ask her [the 2nd and sweet friend you mention] out or get to know her more before you do so. I can understand why you're looking at signs and not wanting to get hurt but I too suspect she's nothing less than a friend for you. If you and her don't date I think she would be a great friend for you.

clueless_one
June 24th, 2013, 11:45 PM
instead of looking for signs on everything this new girl does, ask her. its as simple as that. if she tells you she does like you ask her out on a date. if she doesnt like you, you still have a friend

I think you need to either ask her out or get to know her more before you do so. I can understand why you're looking at signs and not wanting to get hurt but I too suspect she's nothing less than a friend for you.

Which girl are you talking about?

Also GigglyAbby, What do you mean be nothing less than a friend?

clueless_one
June 25th, 2013, 01:38 AM
I think you need to either ask her [the 2nd and sweet friend you mention] out or get to know her more before you do so. I can understand why you're looking at signs and not wanting to get hurt but I too suspect she's nothing less than a friend for you. If you and her don't date I think she would be a great friend for you.

Thanks for that reply. Also, she thinks I have a girlfriend, but the girl I asked out lied about wanting to go out with me (she said yes when I asked her and then said she was busy and told a friend and I heard her say she doesn't want to go out with me). So if I should ask her out, how am I going to get through this. She is the one who told me "Talk to her and find out if she has mutual feeling for you and if she actually wants to go out with you. Just to make sure. She is a nice girl, I don't think she will be lying." saying it with a sad face and tone.

Does this mean something? Also, if I should tell her that the girl I asked out lied?

clueless_one
June 25th, 2013, 06:20 PM
she thinks I have a girlfriend, but the girl I asked out lied about wanting to go out with me (she said yes when I asked her and then said she was busy and told a friend and I heard her say she doesn't want to go out with me). So if I should ask her out, how am I going to get through this. She is the one who told me "Talk to her and find out if she has mutual feeling for you and if she actually wants to go out with you. Just to make sure. She is a nice girl, I don't think she will be lying." saying it with a sad face and tone.

Does this mean something? should I tell her that the girl I asked out lied?

Is there anyone else is able to help me here and provide some advice on what I should do.

(Please read the first post help in answer. :)