Coming out over text

[mrsarett]

Do you think it's ok for me to come out for the first time over a text?

[pvanhouten]

To who? A friend? Parents?

[AusBoy19QLD]

To who? A friend? Parents?

This.

Friend - Yeah
Best Friend - Better over phone/In person.
Family - In person for sure.

[Mob Boss]

Puberty For Boys :arrow: Teen Sexuality
You'll find better answers here as this is pertaining to sexuality. :)

[steellord321]

I haven't so take what i say at face value, but i think a text is too impersonal. If they're worth telling at all, you may as well do it in person. They will appreciate that more. Unless you don't see them often.

[DepartInSecret]

Personally I believe that the only way to come out to friends and parents is in person. I think that telling people any other way is just to impersonal. The only people who I would come out to through text or Facebook would be people who i know but aren't that close to. Coming out in person I believe is more rewarding to you and having done both it is the only way i do it now.

[Zakky Boy]

I agree, I think coming out in person would be better if they're a good friend, and definitely if they're your family. It's more personal and might help you come out to other people in the future

[Pano]

I would do it in person but that's your choice.

[Jamesison]

I think the best way to do that is in person.

[Abyssal Echo]

text is tooo impersonal so I agree with the ^ poster its deff something you do in person.

[LiamC]

I came out to my 4 closest friends by text, one by one and slowly but surely. It worked, because I know the type of people they are allow that. It depends who you tell, how that person is etc. but it is better face to face.

[PinkFloyd]

I'd sat that the best way is in person. That's my opinion though. You are the one that needs to make the decision.

[teen.jpg]

I WOULD say the best way is in person, but th only way I've come out has been over the phone so do whatever you want with it.

[Starscream]

The best way is to come out to your closest friends in person.

[Foamy]

To start, come out in person to someone. Then, when you become comfortable enough, you can come out through text or facebook or something

[joshM1996]

i agree with everyone saying do it in person, i did it to everyone ive told over text and i do kind of regret it, like it feels great telling them, i just wish i told them in person. for me its because i have difficulties talking to anyone about anything personal in person but if you can build up the courage to do it in person, do it.

[Wisconsin]

Okay, I have to disagree with those saying no because its too impersonal. I did it, and I have a very good reason. I'm the type of person who doesn't let people in my head very often if ever. They rarely know what I'm thinking, or what I think about anything. So coming out to almost everyone over a text/facebook was the only way I could do that. In person, I would find a reason not to say it, like I had for the past five years. My girlfriend found out over a text, my best friend did, and any family who knows, they found out over facebook. My mom saw it, didn't believe it, so she questioned me. I told the truth to her face. Ever since then its been easier to talk to her without lying about certain things. So if you are like me and can't share your thoughts and feelings easily, over a text would be fine. Once people know, you'll be so much happier, no matter how you came out.

[spikey3088]

more details and probably not

[Ethan1369]

The second friend that I told of me being bi, I did it over text and it was perfectly fine and so I don't really think that it matters but if you are close to the person I think it would be more polite to tell them in person.

[Jevon]

I think It would be best if you did it in person...but I guess text could work

[IAmNumberZero]

I came out to my parents over text during school. It only led to a minor panic attack and avoiding going home for as long as possible. And then we all ended up having a lengthy conversation about it as soon as I walked through the door. If you have a decent relationship with your parents, just do it in person, because eventually you'll have to talk about it anyway.

[Troy35216]

i will just say this. i have told only one person and that was the one person i trusted most in the whole world and it went terrible. 100% disaster. i would give anything to be able to undo it. i know that is not the way for everyone and maybe is even rare.
BUT
if i had done it by text instead of in person then he would have proof of what i told him to show to anyone he wanted to. the decision of who else finds out wouldn't be up to me anymore it would be up to him. so if you text it, just remember that the decision of who finds out next is not up to you anymore. he or she can forward that text to anyone or show it to anyone. not saying they will, but they CAN. you can say that you know they would never do that. well I "knew" my friend would never do something like that and would be safe to tell and so on and i was never more wrong in my life.

[IAmNumberZero]

i will just say this. i have told only one person and that was the one person i trusted most in the whole world and it went terrible. 100% disaster. i would give anything to be able to undo it. i know that is not the way for everyone and maybe is even rare.
BUT
if i had done it by text instead of in person then he would have proof of what i told him to show to anyone he wanted to. the decision of who else finds out wouldn't be up to me anymore it would be up to him. so if you text it, just remember that the decision of who finds out next is not up to you anymore. he or she can forward that text to anyone or show it to anyone. not saying they will, but they CAN. you can say that you know they would never do that. well I "knew" my friend would never do something like that and would be safe to tell and so on and i was never more wrong in my life.

Listen to this guy. He's right.