Old friend coming to visit...

[Xandle]

So we were really good friends with this family that lived near us, and quite a few years ago now (maybe 8/9 years ago?) they moved really really far away. As a family we try to keep in contact as best as possible and we've seen them a few times since then. Anyway, there's a girl in the family who's the same age as me and she's coming back to visit and will probably be staying with us. I haven't really seen her for a few years but from talking to her, she's the sort of person I've decided I might well have a crush on once I get to know her, so while she's staying, how do I make a move if I decide I like her? As I say, our families are good friends and I don't want to make it awkward so nothing to full on... any ideas?

[unnamed94]

i wouldn't go for it. it would be weird if you decide to make a move considering both of your families are close. it would be even more awkward if they are staying with you. if you make a move and you both start liking each other, the only way you could date or something like that would be if you had a long distance relationship (which im not a big fan of). in the end its your decision and maybe the situation is not how i imagine it is from what you wrote. btw how old are you?

[Xandle]

i wouldn't go for it. it would be weird if you decide to make a move considering both of your families are close. it would be even more awkward if they are staying with you. if you make a move and you both start liking each other, the only way you could date or something like that would be if you had a long distance relationship (which im not a big fan of). in the end its your decision and maybe the situation is not how i imagine it is from what you wrote. btw how old are you?

Yeah, you're probably right... To be honest, though, I'm much more the sort of person who'd just be really friendly and hope that the other person will make a move (which is probably why I've been so unsuccessful in the past). The long distance thing doesn't bother me, though. It'd be really hard, but if she was the right person then I'd much rather be with them long distance than not at all (although I haven't tried it so it'd be hard to say). I'm 17.

[Foamy]

I would decide against pursuing a long distance relationship because they are so hard to keep up with. You two wouldn't be seeing each other for months (weeks?years?) and if that would be the case it just would not work out. And if you aren't the one that ends it, she would. But , close friends or not, I would personally not pursue that relationship.

[GigglyAbby]

I too think you shouldn't ask her out. However -- I think you should consider giving her your IM and/or Facebook info so you can attempt to stay in touch as friends for now [and see where things go in the next couple years].