Confused need help plz

[Lifesreject]

OK i am really confused over this guy. I mean real confused.

OK so Harry {he was Harry in a previous post so he can stay that} and me have a history which i am not going into but you can see on previous posts. We have kinda been texting each other a lot recently and i have seen him a few times, well quite a few times.

We we were texting each other the other night and he was saying how much he wished i was with him what we could do when we next saw each other when we were alone together. But then i went on his bebo and plastered all over it he has got pictures of this girl i have never seen before. And comments saying how fit he finds Scottish girls and how much he loves their accents and wished he lived there.

I know this is not right that he should be really seeing two people at once , but i don't know what to do. I don't know if i should talk to him or just leave it with him. I'm really confused.

I really love him. I mean i have been in love before but never as bad as this. I think about him all the time. a mean i even dream about him.

[paki123]

Who else is he seeing?

[Lifesreject]

well he is seeing me and this Scottish girl is coming all the way down to meet him.

[Gumleaf]

well do you know if this scottish girl is actually his girlfriend? or is he just mucking around because he has a thing for the scots?

[byee]

It's ok to see 2 people at once, it's not ok to 'go' with 2 people at once. he needs to maybe 'see' both of you for a while, maybe just meet his Scot, to determine who the lucky one will be.

No one likes competition, especially when they (you) really like that that person alot (him). Since you already know about his plans with the Scot, I think you might need to at least let him know how you feel here, and ask him what his intentions (plans) are. You can't necessarily control what he does, but you can certainly let him know your rection, which might influence him.

FWIW, Scotland is really far from England for a serious relationship, even if the accent is irrestible and exotic to him. Let's hope he's into reality more than fantasy here.

[Lifesreject]

Well i talked 2 him yesterday and we ended up having a big argument about it he said he didnt know what he was going to do yet which is fair enough but then he said if she came down and asked him for sex he would give it to her. Which made me feel so bad like he had just been seeing me for the sex. I no that seems bad that us having sex sounds bad when we arnt going out but like a said we have a history. And it just upset me so much he was saying sorry a shouldnt have said that im so sorry and everything. Im begoinnig to wounder if he is worth it . Coz a dont want my heart breaking again. Twice in a year is too much.

[byee]

Ahh, you didn't say you had sex with him. That changes things. Even if you're not 'going out', being that intimate with someone often makes you feel differently about them afterwards, even if you didn't plan on it. It's too bad he doesn't have the same reaction to you. However, if he can sleep with you (or his Scot) in the absence of any emotional committment, I'd wonder why you want to continue with him?

[Gumleaf]

Well i talked 2 him yesterday and we ended up having a big argument about it he said he didnt know what he was going to do yet which is fair enough but then he said if she came down and asked him for sex he would give it to her. Which made me feel so bad like he had just been seeing me for the sex. I no that seems bad that us having sex sounds bad when we arnt going out but like a said we have a history. And it just upset me so much he was saying sorry a shouldnt have said that im so sorry and everything. Im begoinnig to wounder if he is worth it . Coz a dont want my heart breaking again. Twice in a year is too much.

you say that you wonder if he is worth it? i would say no. he only seems interested in sex and sex only and not any kind of relationship with you. i really think that if it was me, i would have no more to do with him and let him go off with the scots. the fact that he can't decide would be enough for me to realise that his heart wouldn't totally be in it for you, if he decided he wanted to be with you anyway. i don't think a part time boyfriend would be a good idea.

[Lifesreject]

He choose the scottish girl whom he has never met.

Nuff said