Huge dilemma

[Megson]

I kinda like this guy. And he likes me and he wants to be more than friends. BUT, he's mexican and speaks mostly spanish. He knows some English, but we could never have an intimate, deep conversation without the help of a translator.

Also, he's at least 10 years older than me. I'm 18, and I think he's around 31-ish... A lot of people are telling me that he's way too old for me and that it'd be creepy if we dated.

And finally, we're coworkers and it tends to be frowned upon to date coworkers.

SO, what do you all think? Is it a completely lost cause? Or does anyone think I should go for it? I could use some advice!

[KimuraWannabe116]

All I have to say is. Dont let him take advantage of you. Also that huge age difference is concerning too.

[confusedteen33]

There is probably too many conflicting things already going against the relationship, I would say don't do it

[STEALTHy]

If you can't really talk with him, then you can't really know him. I think you shouldn't but then again we're all just people on the internet. If your friends and family highly advise against it. Then I would follow their advice.

[germangirl]

I think language shouldn't be a problem for love and age neither. If your really like him, I don't know why you shouldn't date him. But YOU have to feel comfortable with that! If it concerns you that he's older, or if you're afraid of not being able to have a real conversation with him, or if it concerns you what other people might think, than it is probably better if you're not dating him.

[emily-candace]

I think you are just asking for trouble, why can't he find someone his own age, are you even out of school?

[LexiNicole1994]

I kinda like this guy. And he likes me and he wants to be more than friends. BUT, he's mexican and speaks mostly spanish. He knows some English, but we could never have an intimate, deep conversation without the help of a translator.

Also, he's at least 10 years older than me. I'm 18, and I think he's around 31-ish... A lot of people are telling me that he's way too old for me and that it'd be creepy if we dated.

And finally, we're coworkers and it tends to be frowned upon to date coworkers.

SO, what do you all think? Is it a completely lost cause? Or does anyone think I should go for it? I could use some advice!
Well if u like him and he likes u try havin him teach u some Spanish or u teach him sum English. Find a common ground for a relationship.

[LexiNicole1994]

I think language shouldn't be a problem for love and age neither. If your really like him, I don't know why you shouldn't date him. But YOU have to feel comfortable with that! If it concerns you that he's older, or if you're afraid of not being able to have a real conversation with him, or if it concerns you what other people might think, than it is probably better if you're not dating him.

Good Advice Alicia, you did well with ur grammar better than me lol!!! Add me as a friend I am new my name is Cassie Nicole I'm 17 female from California.

[LexiNicole1994]

I think you are just asking for trouble, why can't he find someone his own age, are you even out of school?

Emily I got ur private message but can't respond since I'm new and haven't gotten enough posts or anything. Hit me up on fb though fb name is Lexi Nicole Branson.

[emily-candace]

yeah I know I was just trying to help you get new posts. I can do facebook too, its early here and I have just gotten up. trying to focus my eyes this morning. LOL

[Conqueror of Hearts]

There was a guy who I met on my job....he's also about 30,31 years old and I liked him but I would never be with him, cause the age difference is just too big. Ppl can say that love doesn't care about age, but you have different opinions, views etc. He should find someone his age who can really be with him, and with whom he can plan future etc. So I think that you shouldn't do it.

[Grand Admiral Thrawn]

The language barrier would be a problem in any potential relationship, not to mention the huge age difference. Stuff like that, especially the former, matters if you want to have a healthy and really intimate relationship with someone. If you can't understand him and vice versa, what's the point?

Also, if most of your friends and your family advise you against it, I'd say you should listen to them, for your own good.

[Megson]

The language barrier would be a problem in any potential relationship, not to mention the huge age difference. Stuff like that, especially the former, matters if you want to have a healthy and really intimate relationship with someone. If you can't understand him and vice versa, what's the point?

Also, if most of your friends and your family advise you against it, I'd say you should listen to them, for your own good.

The language barrier is less concerning for us, really. I've been learning Spanish for 3 years now and he speaks enough English that I understand him and we can have conversations. I just don't know if we could have "intimate" conversations.

The age gap is the biggest problem everyone seems to have with this...

[Miri]

If you have to ask the question in the first place, I feel like you may believe that starting a relationship with this man is something to be concerned about. Also, if it felt "right", I don't think you would care about other people's opinions.

To me, it sounds like there would be a lot of conflicting areas in a relationship, but do whatever makes you happy and comfortable.

[Synyster Shadows]

I say don't go for it. He's too old for you and the language issue will take a long while to clear up

[jaxian rhyder]

I wouldn't but its ur life not mine