Kerser
June 21st, 2013, 10:40 PM
:what: Well I've had this whole situation with my "best friend" [you may of seen my previous thread http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?p=2334335#post2334335] just suddenly distancing himself to the point where he never initiates conversation and sometimes barely acknowledges that I exist, I've given it time and have tried my best to be happy around him and get him back - It's been ~3-4 weeks since it started - but things haven't changed at all, if anything they've gotten worse.
I'm seriously thinking he's just an inconsiderate piece of shit and isn't a real friend, he isn't at all sorry in the slightest or shows any empathy - but that makes no sense as I don't think he's like that and don't know WHY he'd do that - we were so so so close, but there is no other conclusion I can draw from this situation. (He acts as if nothing is wrong however, he still talks to everyone else and when he does occasionally talk to me he's normal)
So should I talk to him as soon as I have the opportunity? I'll only do it when I'm in a good mood, I'll say something along the lines of this:
"you were a great friend... wait let me rephrase that - you were the best friend i've ever had, and it just shits me to tears that we've become so distant... we hardly talk and I don't know why.. our friendship really meant a LOT to me.. - I may of said some things that would of just fucked you off and i came off as a complete gronk acting off insecurity- being all clingy and making you feel.. what? responsible for me... and im really sorry that I put you through that.
If you still don't want to talk to me that's fine - it's your choice but I'd really like to talk things out and figure out exactly what's going on"
SO WHAT I NEED HELP WITH; I really need advice on what to say, like: what points should I really underline & make clear - to give me the most chance of getting my friend back or make him feel sorry idk- it really means a lot to me; I'm not this kind of person to deal with this emotional bullshit I just want to get on with my life.
I'm seriously thinking he's just an inconsiderate piece of shit and isn't a real friend, he isn't at all sorry in the slightest or shows any empathy - but that makes no sense as I don't think he's like that and don't know WHY he'd do that - we were so so so close, but there is no other conclusion I can draw from this situation. (He acts as if nothing is wrong however, he still talks to everyone else and when he does occasionally talk to me he's normal)
So should I talk to him as soon as I have the opportunity? I'll only do it when I'm in a good mood, I'll say something along the lines of this:
"you were a great friend... wait let me rephrase that - you were the best friend i've ever had, and it just shits me to tears that we've become so distant... we hardly talk and I don't know why.. our friendship really meant a LOT to me.. - I may of said some things that would of just fucked you off and i came off as a complete gronk acting off insecurity- being all clingy and making you feel.. what? responsible for me... and im really sorry that I put you through that.
If you still don't want to talk to me that's fine - it's your choice but I'd really like to talk things out and figure out exactly what's going on"
SO WHAT I NEED HELP WITH; I really need advice on what to say, like: what points should I really underline & make clear - to give me the most chance of getting my friend back or make him feel sorry idk- it really means a lot to me; I'm not this kind of person to deal with this emotional bullshit I just want to get on with my life.