4 Months of Dating and neither want to break it off but...

[Wonder Boy]

Im male in highschool going into senior yr. My girlfriend is same age. We went to turn-about and prom together. I was her first kiss, she was my first girlfriend (not first kiss tho). We have had struggles. It is very rough, but I dont know what to do. I want to keep the relationship going, so does she to an extent, but she has expressed concerns. All her friends think she should break it off with me. Her friends think i dont treat her right, we have only been on a few real dates to restaurants and what not but she desires more. We hang out multiple times a week tho at home watching movies on couch, just us two.

I do need to treat her better but I don't know how exactly. I want to w0w her somehow but she just wants more and criticizes. Its not healthy but she will be gone for 7 days starting sunday and i want to give it one more shot. How can we restart fresh? She has cried over me. She deals with depression and ADHD and shes a pain in the tail to deal with at times but shes made progress of getting better but she doesn't take it into consideration that i have to deal with her ADHD and it aint easy. She said "her heart feels like we should stay but her brain says no". She has texted friends saying that she is afraid it will be over in a month and she'll just cry and get into cutting herself (ive helped her thru that and she has stopped but one or two slipups but another reason i want to stay b/c i always try to be there for her).

To be honest she aint the prettiest girl in the world. I think she would have a lot of difficulty getting another man and him putting up with her. She says she deserves better at times but I know she truly wont get better or be able to go 4months plus with another man until she gets her act together. And one more note, recently we decided to only kiss for now on in our relationship, for awhile there were hj or pleasing in that way, but no intercourse. She was the one wanting to orginally expermient with those things. Her friends think i am only in it for the "sex" and my gf questions the idea that I am too, thats why we stopped. I want to prove to her that I am there for more than pleasing myself. I am there for her and I care about her. And she said she doesn't think we could remain friends if we break up.

Just any reasonable advice or suggestions (besides breaking up with her) is appreciated. Thank you all.

[unnamed94]

about the sex: its good that you stopped that to prove her that you are not with her for the sex and nothing else

on you treating her better: first of all, you dont have to give a fuck about what her friends think. if she thinks treating her better is going on dates to restaurants and stuff then i would suggest you think again if you want to be with someone who needs material stuff to feel that you proved your love. if you want to impress her thats great and there is nothing wrong with it.

if someone i was dating told me she deserves better, i would just break it up. if complaining about it is her way of trying to solve any problem then theres something wrong there. she should try to talk about it first.

if you truly arent happy with her, dont stop yourself from breaking up with her (if thats what you want to do) because she has ADHD and she wont find anyone else. you cant sacrifice your happiness for that. that doesnt mean you should break up with her out of no where without taking into consideration she may start cutting again.

talk about your problems with her. tell her everything thats on your mind and let her do the same. then you can start solving your problems or take a time off (or whatever you decide).

[agirl555]

Well if shes mad, kiss her.nif shes crying, say nothing and hug her. But if you want to see if your love is true, set her free. And if shes yours, she'll come back. The avoiding sex thing is good though.