Is my co-worker gay and does he want me?

[RaRis]

Okay so I am trying to figure out if my attractive co-worker is gay...When people first meet him they think he is gay. People have asked him if he was and he was like"why does everyone always ask me that, I am not". And one time me and my other co worker Julia were playing the "first impression" game with him, and when it was Julias turns on him, he was like, "you thought I was gay huh?!" He sometimes does gay sex jokes, and also with my old co worker who was guy they would always like be overly sexual with each other...saying things like "Me and Marty are going to have babies together" "and were going to have fun tonight" but I mean it sounded like they were just joking. Marty then told us that he was bi, and then the co-worker I think might be gay his name is Chris btw, said to one of my others co-workers regarding Marty, "oh I better stop acting like this towards Marty", but he never stopped...because my co worker told him just because he is bi doesn't mean he wants you...and Chris was like "oh right".

oh and he is 22 and he had his first "girlfriend" for 9 months at 21, and they broke up three times and now their just friends. He also has a very huge ego and VERY flirty with girls that come into our work, getting numbers. He also told me he is a manwhore.

I have always had my suspicions that Chris was either gay or bi... so I confronted him about Marty being bi and them always being sexual, and I was like "Oh now I know why you and Marty were gonna have babies." He got super uncomfortable and was like "I would never ever ever ever ever ever ever go that way". But its weird because (Im clearly gay btw, very sassy he has said I was sassy, flamboyant ect.") he is always saying I am his favorite employee, and when he meets my friends and family he brags about me. He also asked me and my other co workers if he'd be good in porn. One time he was like "I am a pretty attractive person" and looked at me for my reaction. One time I was like I need a NEW BFF and he said "I'll be your BFF, but you don't want to be mine..." I always save some ice tea for him (we work at a coffee shop) at the end of work and one time to my other co-worker he was like "see ryan is sassy but he loves me!"... I also was having a party, and I mentioned it and he was like "Why didn't you invite me... :("

he has done other things towards me that makes me he thinks he is gay and likes me...Like one time he randomly came up to me at work and was like "Ryan thank you for being yourself". Also, one time he was like "can you do my eyebrows Ryan" cuz he says girls say their bushy and I have mine done, and "you need to take me cloth shopping" but I don't know if he just likes me as a friend, and is straight and comfortable with his sexuality, or bi or just closeted gay... I don't know I am confused, he is very confusing....he smiles when he sees me, and notice sometimes when I walk into work he'll say hey and smile and stare at me for a bit.

Ask me any questions, if you think it'd help figuring anything out, I might remember others things he has done.

[Sasha M]

Im straight, and I think the person I have a crush on might possibly be a lesbian. I need the same advice.

[RaRis]

Im straight, and I think the person I have a crush on might possibly be a lesbian. I need the same advice.

Well do you think this guy could be gay and want me?

[Sasha M]

Not nesiserialy for a boyfriend thing. Mabey for some gay smexytime though.

[indoxyl]

my advice is to not take advice from someone who cant spell necessarily

anyway,
chris seems like a really nice guy. from my perspective it does seem like hes flirting with you a little bit. maybe the best way to go about this is to just ask him. i know another co-worker has already asked but maybe another gay guy (you obvs) could help the situation if he is hiding his sexuality

[Miri]

my advice is to not take advice from someone who cant spell necessarily

That was rude, and completely uncalled for.
You don't capitalize the first letter in your sentences or your proper nouns, and you completely disregarded apostrophes, not to mention you didn't end your last sentence with a period.
No one would've called you out on that, until I was compelled to after pointing out your rudeness.

To the original poster:

The only way to know for sure is to ask him, or have a friend ask him. From what you wrote, his behaviour leads me to believe that he is flirting with you though.

[Troy35216]

People have asked him if he was and he was like"why does everyone always ask me that, I am not".
I think there is your answer right there. Either he is not gay or he is gay/bi but doesn't want anyone to know. how many times have people said on this site "if you aren't comfortable messing around, then don't do it"? well if someone else isn't comfortable [messing around] admitting they are gay or bi or whatever then i think people should respect that. if he is gay then maybe he will confide in you one day and maybe he won't. but if he thinks you are trying to force him to admit it he prolly won't be in any hurry to tell you.

[indoxyl]

That was rude, and completely uncalled for.
You don't capitalize the first letter in your sentences or your proper nouns, and you completely disregarded apostrophes, not to mention you didn't end your last sentence with a period.
No one would've called you out on that, until I was compelled to after pointing out your rudeness.

To the original poster:

The only way to know for sure is to ask him, or have a friend ask him. From what you wrote, his behaviour leads me to believe that he is flirting with you though.

you just need to relax