What do I do?

[tubanic]

I broke up with my boyfriend at the begining of the year, when I got admitted to mental hospital. We had been quite close, but it was a taxing relationship for me because of my Asperger's. I had depression and psychosis so I didn't really have time for him. I don't want to upset him, nor do I really know if I want to let him go.
He gets upset when I don't contact him for weeks at a time. He says he cares about me loads and wants me to be part of his life. A while ago, I could say that I had enough to cope with without him, but as I recover from my mental illnesses, I don't have that excuse anymore.
He is well meaning and wants the best for me but he is quite demanding of me and I don't know whether to tell him to get out of my life, or start the relationship again. Help?

[Apophis]

Well, do you want to be in a relationship with him again ? do you still like him ? do you feel that you can only be friend with him now ? those the questions you need to ask yourself. Honestly don't let him demand to much though.

So here's my opinion though, if you really do like him then I'd say restart the relationship again, but just talk to him about how you feel about him being to demanding, i'm sure he will realize that he is being demanding and he will tone it down. Just be honest about it.

If you have lost feelings for him then I'd say don't restart the relationship cause you don't want him dragging you down back to depression again, I'm not saying he's the cause of it but you don't want to get depression again cause you don't want to hurt him. Just be honest with him and tell him that you can only be friends with him and if he can't accept it then well its his loss. But just be honest with him and tell him how you feel.

[Abgail 16]

I don't have that excuse anymore.

This bit worries me.

The word excuse in particular.

If you said you don't have that (reason) anymore it would put a different angle on things.

That might have been what you meant but if you need an excuse not to have someone in your life then they shouldn't really be in your life,also because your health is still a bit fragile you don't need people making demands on you of any kind.
If I have to make decisions like that,I say to myself,what would I decide,right now,this instant then I go with that and stick with it.