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[gamei]

Hey guys,
Bit of a situation here. I have recently started working at this place and this girl showed me around the place, we got along really nicely so I talk to her on facebook... but I just think I am chatting to her too much and she is getting annoyed. She doesn't say she is annoyed by me because she is too polite to say that!

I just want to as her if I am talking to her too much without making the conversation awkward, like when I ask her a question, she reads it (cause I know she read it cause it says "seen at ...."), then doesn't reply because she knows it will lead to an awkward conversation.

Is there any type of question I could ask her or anyway to drive a conversation into this predicament without the awkwardness? I do want to stay friends as we work together, not the same days but sometimes she covers for people on my day and I just think our interaction will be awkward!

So, if anyone could give me any advice how to approach this, I would really appreciate it!

Thanks in advance,
Gamei

[Farewell]

Sometimes longer conversations just eventually die down and people stop replying. I've often found that one-word replies such as "Haha" or "lol" are easy conversation-enders. Other times, people may have something to do or take care of and may not have time to hold a lengthy conversation.

My question to you is, how often are you messaging her, if you think you're being annoying? Are you sending upwards of two or more replies before she has time to reply back? If so, that's what I would consider annoying, as it makes you seem impatient; especially if you keep doing it. One message is enough. If you've checked to see if she has seen your message and have to ask her/talk to her about something important, then go ahead and send another reply. However, if it's just casual talk such as "Hey, what's up?", then there's no need to send more than one reply. Talking to her once or twice a day is enough, too.

If you want to ask her if she thinks you're being annoying, I wouldn't just point blank say, "Hey, am I being annoying?" Instead, I would casually say "Hope I'm not being annoying or anything." You can often tell if a person is getting annoyed if you know that they have seen your message, but just have failed to reply. That's a signal to back off a little bit.

Hope this helps!

[gamei]

I am not messaging her more than once before she replies. But I am talking to her everyday though, and if she doesn't reply to any of my messages then I do not make it any worse by sounding impatient by sending multiple messages at once.

I just feel she is getting annoyed of me talking to her everyday by the way the messages read...

I do work with her, and I dont want to make our friendship awkward in person. I meet her again at work in 3-4 weeks time. But I just like to point out I am not looking for a relationship, just friends!

Do you think I should just hang back talking to her until I next see her at work to let all this die down?

Thanks
Gamei

[Farewell]

Do you think I should just hang back talking to her until I next see her at work to let all this die down?

Yes, I think that would be a good idea. It's good to know that you're not being like some people who send you three messages every second. Haha.

I would give it a couple days and then try talking to her again if you'd like. Who knows - she might even start a conversation with you, first. ;)

[nice]

I am not messaging her more than once before she replies. But I am talking to her everyday though, and if she doesn't reply to any of my messages then I do not make it any worse by sounding impatient by sending multiple messages at once.

I just feel she is getting annoyed of me talking to her everyday by the way the messages read...

I do work with her, and I dont want to make our friendship awkward in person. I meet her again at work in 3-4 weeks time. But I just like to point out I am not looking for a relationship, just friends!

Do you think I should just hang back talking to her until I next see her at work to let all this die down?

Thanks
Gamei


Just make sure she doesn't think you're flirting because you might just be looking for friends but if she thinks you're flirting when you're not it just make it really awakard and weird.