what kind of relationship am i allowed with a man (adult)?

[olive99]

not sleeping with him, cos i'm under age but is it ok to cuddle? when i babysit his dad comes home late and i was crying and we cuddled lol but its ok right? anyway it felt really good!

[Apophis]

not sleeping with him, cos i'm under age but is it ok to cuddle? when i babysit his dad comes home late and i was crying and we cuddled lol but its ok right? anyway it felt really good!

Yes its okay to cuddle, that's what boy friends and girl friends should do ? but depending on how old you are and how old he is. There is a fine line as what's appropriate, like sleeping with him is a big no until you reach the age of consent. etc But anyways Cuddling with him is fine.

[Conqueror of Hearts]

No, it's not okay to cuddle with a man. You are 14, if you want to cuddle, then you should do it with someone your age or 2, 3 years older than you, but not with a man. Don't go there, really....at your age I was dating a guy who was 7 years older than me....that was the biggest mistake ever. He had some issues cause he was dating a 14 yo girl, but I just couldn't realize that. When I told my mum after we broke up she went crazy, and I totally understand her. Just stay out of it, please. I regret now that decision every single day, and now I do realize that I was too young for any sort of relationship, or cuddle even. How old is he anyways?

[olive99]

No, it's not okay to cuddle with a man. You are 14, if you want to cuddle, then you should do it with someone your age or 2, 3 years older than you, but not with a man. Don't go there, really....at your age I was dating a guy who was 7 years older than me....that was the biggest mistake ever. He had some issues cause he was dating a 14 yo girl, but I just couldn't realize that. When I told my mum after we broke up she went crazy, and I totally understand her. Just stay out of it, please. I regret now that decision every single day, and now I do realize that I was too young for any sort of relationship, or cuddle even. How old is he anyways?

he's a dad so he is 39 but just cuddled like a father figure so its ok maybe? not dating i swear. i was crying so he had to :whoops:

Yes its okay to cuddle, that's what boy friends and girl friends should do ? but depending on how old you are and how old he is. There is a fine line as what's appropriate, like sleeping with him is a big no until you reach the age of consent. etc But anyways Cuddling with him is fine.

i loved it he is like 7 feet almost!

[Radkae]

I think you're thinking about this too much... If he's that old and has a kid, he probably looks at you as a kid also. If he doesn't then he's a pedophile and you should stay away. I was thinking if he was in his teens are early twenties then its not as bad.

The age difference is really big though and you definitely shouldn't do anything that you're gonna regret later and I hope he's man enough to not take advantage of you.

Stay safe!

[olive99]

I think you're thinking about this too much... If he's that old and has a kid, he probably looks at you as a kid also. If he doesn't then he's a pedophile and you should stay away. I was thinking if he was in his teens are early twenties then its not as bad.

The age difference is really big though and you definitely shouldn't do anything that you're gonna regret later and I hope he's man enough to not take advantage of you.

Stay safe!

oh, i wish i could have another cuddle :( he is huge and its really unique! not romantic just really nice in the fatherly way. guys that big cuddle in a special way i guess. how do i know if he thinks of me as a kid or a lady?

[Radkae]

What do you mean by cuddling? What kind of touching goes on? Does he say anything?

Sometimes cuddling with someone older like that is actually nice but it all depends on how hes doing it and if he's doing it out of affection for you as a daughter/kid or something more. With someone that old its dangerous to cross into something you're gonna regret and he will also get in trouble for it if he has other ideas.

[olive99]

What do you mean by cuddling? What kind of touching goes on? Does he say anything?

Sometimes cuddling with someone older like that is actually nice but it all depends on how hes doing it and if he's doing it out of affection for you as a daughter/kid or something more. With someone that old its dangerous to cross into something you're gonna regret and he will also get in trouble for it if he has other ideas.

he says 'there there' and 'its ok' and we are sitting on the couch and my body goes across his chest so my head is on his far shoulder. i can't explain how nice it feels it makes me cry more but feel better. its so complexly nice :P
my mum might end up marrying him i guess.

[Radkae]

he says 'there there' and 'its ok' and we are sitting on the couch and my body goes across his chest so my head is on his far shoulder. i can't explain how nice it feels it makes me cry more but feel better. its so complexly nice :P
my mum might end up marrying him i guess.

Then I guess he does look at you as a daughter... Its more of a fatherly affection.

Your first post made it seem like it was different lol phew.

[Conqueror of Hearts]

On the one hand you say it was nice in a father-daugher way, and on the other hand you ask how far you can go with a man....I guess, and hope that he didn't have any weird intentions and you shouldn't have any thoughts about cuddling with him in sexual way. Just stay out of that story. -xx

[Apophis]

oh, i wish i could have another cuddle :( he is huge and its really unique! not romantic just really nice in the fatherly way. guys that big cuddle in a special way i guess. how do i know if he thinks of me as a kid or a lady?

Ahh, I did not know that he was a father, please forgive me about what I said above about you two being boy friend and girl friend.. Anyways I don't see anything wrong with cuddling with him, if he was only treating you like as he would treat his child as in cuddling with then its alright, but as long as he didn't do anything inappropriate. He is a lot older then you, so if he did try to do something he could be charged! But if you two are just like cuddling as a father/daughter then I don't see anything wrong with it. So anyways hope this helps :)