How can I win this girl's heart?

[jimgriffin]

First of all, I'm sorry about the length. I promise I will answer your question if you link it though. Or I can click on your profile.
I really like this girl in my English class. I like her SO much. I can't explain why, I barely know her. She just is so nice, pretty, and there is just something about her. I'm sixteen and she is fifteen by the way. I want nothing more than to have a long lasting relationship with her where I can love and cherish her. I'm not even that interested in sex; I want someone to be with and talk to. I don't know how to win her heart. I'm shy, and I swear it is the worst thing ever. Due to my shyness, I put off talking to her. School ends Friday and I have no progress made. I hate that I put it off. I'm so angry at myself. Now there is some good news. I am pretty sure she likes me too. She stares at me, asks me about the work, kind of forces me to talk to her (hard to explain), and her friend smiled at her when she got paired with me one time. Now that bad part of this is that she is shy too. So I can't rely in her to make the first move. So if she does like me, I just need to get confidence to initiate the conversation. What if she doesn't? How can I win her over? I know I'm on a really tight schedule but I have to do this. How can I at least become friends with her so I can get her number and ask her out over the summer? Now, final question, if I am the biggest idiot ever and I put this off until the last day of school, would this line work: " Hey ______, I know we haven't really talked that much this year, but I like you a lot. You just seem so nice and you're beautiful. Would you like to _____?" And if she says yes I would then ask for her number. Would that be good? Feel free to change it. Thank you!

[MoonMan]

If that's honestly how you feel, then it sounds good to me. The worst that can happen is her saying no. In that case, at least you'll have an honest answer so you can work on moving on from it.

[Miserabilia]

I would say do what I have not been able to do (cuz im a coward) and go for it, cause it really sounds like she likes you too :)

[oohlala]

If that's honestly how you feel, then it sounds good to me. The worst that can happen is her saying no. In that case, at least you'll have an honest answer so you can work on moving on from it.

I totally agree with this. and as a girl, we usually would like it if the guy makes the move first so you should definitely do that and if you say that this girl is shy and quiet (make sure to observe her), then you could win her over by doing sweet things for her. i don't really know about the whole line thing but do you play the guitar? if you do, you could always just sing Call Me Maybe by carly Rae Jepsen. you don't have to do it in front of everybody. you could just bring her to a quiet part of school at the end of school and just sing while playing. just a suggestion :) and you could make it shorter and change some lines

hope it works out for you and good luck!!! :)

[STEALTHy]

First of all, I'm sorry about the length. I promise I will answer your question if you link it though. Or I can click on your profile.
I really like this girl in my English class. I like her SO much. I can't explain why, I barely know her. She just is so nice, pretty, and there is just something about her. I'm sixteen and she is fifteen by the way. I want nothing more than to have a long lasting relationship with her where I can love and cherish her. I'm not even that interested in sex; I want someone to be with and talk to. I don't know how to win her heart. I'm shy, and I swear it is the worst thing ever. Due to my shyness, I put off talking to her. School ends Friday and I have no progress made. I hate that I put it off. I'm so angry at myself. Now there is some good news. I am pretty sure she likes me too. She stares at me, asks me about the work, kind of forces me to talk to her (hard to explain), and her friend smiled at her when she got paired with me one time. Now that bad part of this is that she is shy too. So I can't rely in her to make the first move. So if she does like me, I just need to get confidence to initiate the conversation. What if she doesn't? How can I win her over? I know I'm on a really tight schedule but I have to do this. How can I at least become friends with her so I can get her number and ask her out over the summer? Now, final question, if I am the biggest idiot ever and I put this off until the last day of school, would this line work: " Hey ______, I know we haven't really talked that much this year, but I like you a lot. You just seem so nice and you're beautiful. Would you like to _____?" And if she says yes I would then ask for her number. Would that be good? Feel free to change it. Thank you!

Well to be honest from a recent experience I wouldn't do it. Mainly because your kinda putting her on the spot there if you ask her out. She probably will have no idea how to respond and she'll be thinking whether she actually wants to or not. Knowing that school ends Friday she has a limited time to think about it to. So I would not be expecting anything great when you go on the direct ask out girl approach. Instead I would just go for be friends with her approach. Instead say something along the lines of "Hey _____ if your free sometime this summer I would really appreciate your company with me". She'll probably say yes to that but when you say that, give her a little wink. A twinkle in the eyes if you will. She'll probably get the sense that you wanna be more than friends with her, and then she'll have a much more longer time to think about to go for you or not. Because if she says "Yes" then she has the whole summer to think it over. Plus to win this girls heart your gonna need more than just a week to do it.

So I would just go for the friends now, relationship later approach with this girl. Otherwise judging by this girls shyness she probably hasn't had a boyfriend yet and you might even be the first guy to really actually like her. So when your with first timers you gotta take it really slow and consistent. Always give like little little little hints that you like her. You know give her something to go after, that something being you.

So please follow my advice I really don't want your heart to be broken, but always just remember. Do it, because if you don't then your gonna regret it.

[MoonMan]

Well to be honest from a recent experience I wouldn't do it. Mainly because your kinda putting her on the spot there if you ask her out. She probably will have no idea how to respond and she'll be thinking whether she actually wants to or not. Knowing that school ends Friday she has a limited time to think about it to. So I would not be expecting anything great when you go on the direct ask out girl approach. Instead I would just go for be friends with her approach. Instead say something along the lines of "Hey _____ if your free sometime this summer I would really appreciate your company with me". She'll probably say yes to that but when you say that, give her a little wink. A twinkle in the eyes if you will. She'll probably get the sense that you wanna be more than friends with her, and then she'll have a much more longer time to think about to go for you or not. Because if she says "Yes" then she has the whole summer to think it over. Plus to win this girls heart your gonna need more than just a week to do it.

So I would just go for the friends now, relationship later approach with this girl. Otherwise judging by this girls shyness she probably hasn't had a boyfriend yet and you might even be the first guy to really actually like her. So when your with first timers you gotta take it really slow and consistent. Always give like little little little hints that you like her. You know give her something to go after, that something being you.

So please follow my advice I really don't want your heart to be broken, but always just remember. Do it, because if you don't then your gonna regret it.
This kind of thinking is what leads so many guys into the false sense of the friendzone. I agree that going for the friendship is a good idea, but for vastly different reasons. Mainly to grow closer to her and get to know her better (in terms of likes/interests etc that will make for a better attachment and understanding of one another) not just to lead her on and give her subtle hints about what you really want. Remember they're not complete strangers and she has already given signs to lead him on. Also, unless the guy announces it in front of everybody, how is he putting her on the spot? Being shy doesn't give you a free pass from these situations, and if he does it respectably and politely, I can't see why she couldn't give him an honest answer. Truly liking someone shouldn't require you to "think" about it, if that were the case then we could convince ourselves to like just about everyone if we thought about it hard enough. Liking someone is a natural inclination/attraction you have to someone for whatever reason, you seldom can actually control who you like. If you have to think about other variables regarding the relationship, fine, but if you have to think about whether or not you actually like someone then don't bother. It's not hard to be in touch with your feelings, in fact, it's natural. Think about it this way: if you've never liked the taste of chocolate and you've never had any inclination to eat chocolate then, chances are, you don't like chocolate. Becoming buddies with chocolate to appreciate it's other less redeeming qualities (like its wrapper) won't change this fact. If she rejects him, fine, move on. But if he hides his true feelings away to "convince" this girl to like him with subtle hints and bullshit reasons (even though he wanted to be more than friends the entire time) there's always a chance she never liked him in the first place, and that hurts a lot more than just a rejection when he eventually finds out.

[chezhans]

Wow what can I say except this is the exact situation I am in! (Or almost exact)...inbox me to my profile. This sounds like a mutually agreeable story. To be honest, I think it's going to need two heads to solve two people's problems! Haha! :)