I have decided to have no sexual actions

[KimuraWannabe116]

I have decided that I am going to be asexual for now on, meaning an absence of sexual activity.

[Poplar]

Good for you !! You're missing out

[clmbusboy1]

Good luck if that's what you want.
But I'm saying you'll be forced to change your mind soon.

[KimuraWannabe116]

Yep, but I dont care what I am missing out on, I decided last night this is the best way for me to go...

[KimuraWannabe116]

Good luck if that's what you want.
But I'm saying you'll be forced to change your mind soon.

Actually, I have become a different person. I visited the monks yesterday for the yearly hike up to the mountain. So I wont be changing my mind anytime soon.

[dontfiguremeout]

Puberty Boys :arrow: Teen Sexuality. This fits better here.

[Miserabilia]

good luck, i wouldnt hold it for a day

[KimuraWannabe116]

Puberty Boys :arrow: Teen Sexuality. This fits better here.

Sorry, I ment to post that there. Thanks for moving it!

[clmbusboy1]

Actually, I have become a different person. I visited the monks yesterday for the yearly hike up to the mountain. So I wont be changing my mind anytime soon.

Those brown robes are so outta style! That's enough of an excuse not to join.

[KimuraWannabe116]

Those brown robes are so outta style! That's enough of an excuse not to join.

I do not understand what you said. What brown robes?

[Harry Smith]

Asexuality isn't stopping yourself from sexual activity, asexuality is where your not attracted to anyone so in turn sexual relations are highly unlikely

[Miserabilia]

I do not understand what you said. What brown robes?

You talked about monks and he probably imagined this :D
https://encrypted-tbn3.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcTaIyORfiSx6171ibp-_Dr4276Bkd4KO6XrA0SO8NyXV6b0Ze13

[Jevon]

Have fun with that lol

[teen.jpg]

I hope you know that's not how asexuality works. I think you'd be referring to celibacy.

Asexuality is a permanent orientation, as is homosexual or heterosexual. It's not a choice to be made.

[acan1997]

I have decided that I am going to be asexual for now on, meaning an absence of sexual activity.

That's not asexual, its celibacy. You cant decide to be asexual just like you cant decide to be homosexual or heterosexual

[kenoloor]

"Becoming" asexual isn't a choice. It's an orientation, not a decision. You're thinking of celibacy/abstinence.

[Azunite]

Good. Focus on literature and science.

[Zelder]

I have decided that I am going to be asexual for now on, meaning an absence of sexual activity.

What does "asexual" mean, anyhow? Simply abstaining from dating forever? And do you plan not to have a partner for your entire life? No kids? Or is this just until you get older?

If it's the latter, it's probably a good idea, if it's for your entire life, you might get lonely.

Also, do you plan to, erm, masturbate? Or does "asexual" mean to refrain from sexual thoughts and actions altogether?

I don't date YET, but I know I would like a husband someday. But it's your decision of course, I mean I can see how it removes a lot of drama and temptations from a person's life. IDK.

The bottom line is I'll probably get really lonely in college after moving away, and I'd want somebody to keep me company, if my bro isn't going to the same school.

[KimuraWannabe116]

What does "asexual" mean, anyhow? Simply abstaining from dating forever? And do you plan not to have a partner for your entire life? No kids? Or is this just until you get older?

If it's the latter, it's probably a good idea, if it's for your entire life, you might get lonely.

Also, do you plan to, erm, masturbate? Or does "asexual" mean to refrain from sexual thoughts and actions altogether?

I don't date YET, but I know I would like a husband someday. But it's your decision of course, I mean I can see how it removes a lot of drama and temptations from a person's life. IDK.

The bottom line is I'll probably get really lonely in college after moving away, and I'd want somebody to keep me company, if my bro isn't going to the same school.


It is just an absence of sexual feelings and actions. I broke up with my gf 2 days ago after 1 year being together simply because she was just complaining about everything, even stupid stuff, and I just needed to get away from the drama. So I will most likely date again.

[StoppingTime]

It is just an absence of sexual feelings and actions. I broke up with my gf 2 days ago after 1 year being together simply because she was just complaining about everything, even stupid stuff, and I just needed to get away from the drama. So I will most likely date again.

Then you aren't asexual - you're abstaining from sexual behaviors and actions. There's a difference.

[KimuraWannabe116]

Ok I think it is time to change the title then.

[Bath]

You cannot become asexual by choice. You can only become abstinent. Asexual means you have no sexual desires or thoughts, that's not under your control. Not being sexually active is. But "becoming" asexual makes just as much sense as "becoming" gay or straight or bi or pan or any sexuality.

[riverboy]

What ever you decide. Good luck.

[Horatio Nelson]

Good on you, not an easy road.

[Zelder]

It is just an absence of sexual feelings and actions. I broke up with my gf 2 days ago after 1 year being together simply because she was just complaining about everything, even stupid stuff, and I just needed to get away from the drama. So I will most likely date again.

Aww, I see. You were making this out to be some major life changing decision. That's actually probably a good idea, though. I take it you still masturbate, even though your now "asexual"? Lol.

[KimuraWannabe116]

Aww, I see. You were making this out to be some major life changing decision. That's actually probably a good idea, though. I take it you still masturbate, even though your now "asexual"? Lol.

Actually I have quited with masterbating too.

[peaceNlove]

good luck, i wouldnt hold it for a day

You're 14-.-

[Miserabilia]

You're 14-.-

exactly. puberty, im horny all the time -.-

[Lovelife090994]

Despite the critics, technically one can change their sexuality if they really wanted too or if a traumatic event occurs since we all have brains and can choose, however, your case sounds like celibacy. Technically I'm celibate too only because I want to wait before I marry my wife one day.

[kenoloor]

Despite the critics, technically one can change their sexuality if they really wanted too or if a traumatic event occurs since we all have brains and can choose

You cannot choose your sexuality.

[peaceNlove]

exactly. puberty, im horny all the time -.-

True, lol. I guess i just said that because it bothers me that younger people seem to be more involved with sexual activity, or are at least more open about it i guess. Sorry, didnt mean to judge you as a person. Just something that bothers me.

[teen.jpg]

Despite the critics, technically one can change their sexuality if they really wanted too or if a traumatic event occurs since we all have brains and can choose, however, your case sounds like celibacy. Technically I'm celibate too only because I want to wait before I marry my wife one day.

You, sir, are definitely not fit to give advice on sexuality. You can't choose your sexuality, that's just common knowledge.

[indoxyl]

Actually I have quited with masterbating too.

apparently you are choosing to ignore everyone elses obvservations but maybe hearing it again will change that? you are not asexual, you cannot just BECOME a sexuality whenever you want to. you are born as a certain sexuality. you are ABSTINENT. not ASEXUAL. k? cool.

[Lovelife090994]

You cannot choose your sexuality.

You, sir, are definitely not fit to give advice on sexuality. You can't choose your sexuality, that's just common knowledge.

You two failed to read the entire statement and yes you can. No one is tethered down to sexuality that's silly. However, my statement was conditional not a claim, in the English language there is a big difference.

[kenoloor]

You two failed to read the entire statement and yes you can. No one is tethered down to sexuality that's silly. However, my statement was conditional not a claim, in the English language there is a big difference.

Sexuality is not a static thing, however it is absolutely not something one can choose.

[Lovelife090994]

Sexuality is not a static thing, however it is absolutely not something one can choose.

Um, that contradicts. It isn't static? Therefore it's dynamic yet humans can't choose it why? We all think, we all have control over our bodies. How can someone not choose? I like girls and choose not to be with biys because I don't connect with boys. Isn't that a choice too, me saying, because I like girls I am straight so I am not going to be with a guy because I don't like them. Why all the ex-homosexuals and ex-heterosexuals. Many cases have married couples divorcing from sexuality changes and sexuality changes can also change from traumatic events. Now, no this is not always the case and may be rare but it is a choice. Even with this kid, the original commentor, therefore, celibacy unless he truly has little no sexual desires naturally.

[teen.jpg]

Um, that contradicts. It isn't static? Therefore it's dynamic yet humans can't choose it why? We all think, we all have control over our bodies. How can someone not choose? I like girls and choose not to be with biys because I don't connect with boys. Isn't that a choice too, me saying, because I like girls I am straight so I am not going to be with a guy because I don't like them. Why all the ex-homosexuals and ex-heterosexuals. Many cases have married couples divorcing from sexuality changes and sexuality changes can also change from traumatic events. Now, no this is not always the case and may be rare but it is a choice. Even with this kid, the original commentor, therefore, celibacy unless he truly has little no sexual desires naturally.

It would be easier to explain to you if you weren't being stubborn and arguing back.

[KimuraWannabe116]

Ok, I am not asexual but I am going to seperate myself from the sexual world. And I just wanted to tell you guys I was seperating myself from it, not for this forum to turn into an argument.

[kenoloor]

Um, that contradicts. It isn't static? Therefore it's dynamic yet humans can't choose it why? We all think, we all have control over our bodies. How can someone not choose? I like girls and choose not to be with biys because I don't connect with boys. Isn't that a choice too, me saying, because I like girls I am straight so I am not going to be with a guy because I don't like them. Why all the ex-homosexuals and ex-heterosexuals. Many cases have married couples divorcing from sexuality changes and sexuality changes can also change from traumatic events. Now, no this is not always the case and may be rare but it is a choice. Even with this kid, the original commentor, therefore, celibacy unless he truly has little no sexual desires naturally.

Just because something isn't static doesn't mean that it's a choice.

The "ex-gay" campaign has yielded ZERO scientific evidence to back up their claims.

To date, there has been no scientifically adequate research to show that therapy aimed at changing sexual orientation (sometimes called reparative or conversion therapy) is safe or effective.

also, this

Many think that nature and nurture both play complex roles; most people experience little or no sense of choice about their sexual orientation.

source (http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/sexual-orientation.aspx)

To clarify, a label is a choice. I can choose to label myself as gay, bi, whatever. HOWEVER. The orientation itself is not a choice.

tl;dr - the American Psychological Association says you're being dumb.

[DerBear]

Ok, I am not asexual but I am going to seperate myself from the sexual world. And I just wanted to tell you guys I was seperating myself from it, not for this forum to turn into an argument.

I wish you the best of luck with your lifestyle choice.

[KimuraWannabe116]

Thank you

[Jasperf]

Asexuality isn't stopping yourself from sexual activity, asexuality is where your not attracted to anyone so in turn sexual relations are highly unlikely

I agree, it's not a choice, just like being gay isnt a choice.

[Sharona]

Nothing wrong with taking a self imposed vow of celibacy until you are ready to put yourself out there again - it's an intelligent move, mature of you to not feel you have to have a bf/gf because that's the norm :)

[Fanta_Lover44]

I have decided that I am going to be asexual for now on, meaning an absence of sexual activity.

Well dude, its totally up to you. Don't be forced into doing anything :)

[skandardude]

First off, I wasn't going to respond to this thread. But after thoroughly reading the responses and the back-and-forth from all of you, I wanted to interject my own ideology into this.

I think I can provide insight by being a tad bit anecdotal. Coming off of a relationship, I too made a decision that I was 'asexual'. But my entire life I've championed the research and findings of the medical community which believes that sexuality is inborn and not a choice. Therefore, I found myself centered in hypocrisy--ehhh--self-loathing hypocrisy to be exact. Therefore, I had to understand that I was simply making a decision to spite myself, to be contrite in the face of the relationship and love that I had lost.

I further had to recognize that I was not making a choice to be 'asexual'. I was making a choice to be abstinent or celibate or to remove myself from sexuality [the latter of which I believe is impossible if you've prepossessed it]. But I found out that I was simply wanting to punish myself for lost love, for sexual confusion, for innate self detriment and for simply hating who I was.

If you truly and righteously believe in the fact that you WANT to be alone, loveless, and touchless for the rest of your existence, you are free as a human to do that. I implore you, however, to consider if this is what you really want. Take a serious inward look. Are you dissatisfied with the way you live your life? Are you upset? Are you suffering an internal conflict?

I am not suggesting that you are afflicted by ANY of those questions, but I think you might benefit from an earnest and frank session of self defragmentation and discovery. You may find that you are spiting yourself, like I was, because of personal and external dissatisfaction.

I may have entirely wasted my breath, here. But I hope it helps. Meant nothing mean or condescending in what I said. But I ardently believed everything that you claimed above. And I found out that it was internal dissatisfaction that resulted in my decree of no sex, no love, no companionship for the rest of my existence.

If I've accomplished nothing else here, let me leave off with one quote that has DRASTICALLY affected and effected my life in MANY MANY WAYS!

"You are here on this Earth for a set number of days. Then you die. And you are dead. You will then be put in a box, forever--for as many days remain in the spectrum of time. Don't live your one and only life in one."

If you find that you are living in a box of your own creation, which I suspect you may be (like I was), this may inspire you to sort your feelings. If you do try this--suggestion of mine--and you conclude the same thing (that you want to live your life in a sexless, touchless and 'removed-from-sexuality' stance), then I congratulate you and wish you nothing but the best.

Good luck, and I hope I have contributed something worth reading and sparking new conversation over! :D

[Trenton_]

Actually I have quited with masterbating too.

Hello wet dreams!