Temptation

[regardine]

I guess I have to post this too as well. High school is full of complexion. I'm 15 and gay. I've been concentrating so much on homework and school, etc...

There's one friend I had last year in my art class, he's very nice and cute, and I still talk and see him in school days. Many weeks ago, I came out to him and told him that I'm gay and that I liked him so much than the other guys. His face turned almost completely red. He does not have a girl friend and not even a boy friend.

I often hangout with him during break and/or lunch. I asked him if he wants to experiment* with me and then he said "No." I kept tempting him and asking him almost once or twice a day, overtime his answers varies. The answer he had the last time I talked to him was "Stop, no, you're making me uncomfortable... And it's working..."

He has been my friend for more than 2 years. He never knew that I was gay last year. After I came out to him, he said that he noticed it beforehand because of how I keep looking at him and talking to him differently.

Back then, I slowly whispered to him "I think I'm attracted to you..." and then he replied "hmm... Magnetically or Falsely? ...."

[thesphinx]

I would back off a bit, if he says he's uncomfortable then I wouldn't push it.
If you value your friendship I would back off.

[Tatsuya]

slow down there ....give him some space and time to think

[regardine]

he already has lol

[Maverick]

He already said no so learn to control yourself and back off. Otherwise he'll eventually get sick of it and you'll lose him as a friend for good.

[Sugaree]

Well first off since he didn't know you were gay and that makes no difference in your friendship with him.

Second off when someone says "No I'm uncomfortable with that" that means no. You can't be pushing him to be gay or do something sexual. If he feels comfortable with it then he might but if he's not he's not.

Thridly sapce is the key word in this situation. Give him some room about his sexuality and not try to lean yours on him. Now I'm not saying stop being gay I'm saying that you need to let him decide if he wants anything sexual.

[ideasman]

lamely put..no means no.. I agree with everyone else on this forum that your actions may be making him uncomfortable.. it may be because you keep pushing him with questions of "experimentation" and he's had absolutly no time to think because you've given him no buffer zone TO think it over..
Dont lose this understanding freind of yours who chose to stick beside you when you came out to him as gay..thats hard to come accross..but just because he was excepting doesnt mean that he wants to get it on..
Your move..

[byee]

Yeah, I agree with all the advice here. It's understandable that you'd want him to be receptive, but your wanting something doesn't mean that it will happen. And, wanting something doesn't mean you can disregard what someone else has said, just because you don't want to accept it. No means no. If he changes his mind, if things 'develop', he'll let you know. Until then, respect his wishes and keep the horse in the barn.