i need help please - am out of my depth :0

[olive99]

hi i just registered bacause my boyfriend is interested in something but i do not know if i should be doing it!

i mean i already did it - handled his penis and made it you know ;)

so was that ok or shouldn't i have done it unless i was planning to lose my virginity? he said he was ready to take it and to let him know/

also my gf said if your panty becomes wet when you are talking to a guy it means you would feel comfortable if he took your virginity. is this true because its happen to me with 2 boys my age (includes my bf) and one adult.

sorry if its confusing :whoops:

[PinkFloyd]

Well If you have sex with a guy, you should know that you're losing your virginity. It's cause and effect.

If you were ready and you used protection, and you liked it, then it was a good choice in my opinion. Although the only person to know if it was a good choice for sure is you. I hope that helped.

-Rob

[olive99]

Well If you have sex with a guy, you should know that you're losing your virginity. It's cause and effect.

If you were ready and you used protection, and you liked it, then it was a good choice in my opinion. Although the only person to know if it was a good choice for sure is you. I hope that helped.

-Rob

i don't know, should i try sex to find out if i'm ready?
or if i don't go ahead with it would it be ok to just play with my bfs lap even if he wants to go all the way?
sorry i'm not used to deciding things :(

[PinkFloyd]

i don't know, should i try sex to find out if i'm ready?
or if i don't go ahead with it would it be ok to just play with my bfs lap even if he wants to go all the way?
sorry i'm not used to deciding things :(

Oh, so you haven't had sex with hm yet? Okay, that's my bad. I don't know you at all, but my answer is yes you should. Sex is a lot of fun. It can also bring you two so much closer together physically and emotionally. Just please make sure to be safe. Use birth control. A male condom is your bet option. Make sure he puts it on right though. If he doesn't it could simply slip off.

[olive99]

Oh, so you haven't had sex with hm yet? Okay, that's my bad. I don't know you at all, but my answer is yes you should. Sex is a lot of fun. It can also bring you two so much closer together physically and emotionally. Just please make sure to be safe. Use birth control. A male condom is your bet option. Make sure he puts it on right though. If he doesn't it could simply slip off.

i'm a virgin so far. he said online just now that he has a condom and we can try it after school :)

[PinkFloyd]

i'm a virgin so far. he said online just now that he has a condom and we can try it after school :)

Well good luck with everything.

[olive99]

Well good luck with everything.

thank you rob *HUG*

[olive99]

will it feel like my finger?

[Poplar]

I don't think you should do it unless you are comfortable and ready. What rob said shows a little ignorance. You shouldn't do it be cuz it's fun, that's just no. Condoms are not 100% effective because I know this girl she got pregnant and she claimed she used protection. Are you sure you want to do this? Keep it in mind. And no it will absolutely not feel like a finger. It could hurt you. Anyways good luck!! :)

[Swagging god]

i mean i already did it - handled his penis and made it you know

so was that ok or shouldn't i have done it unless i was planning to lose my virginity? he said he was ready to take it and to let him know/. It's a matter of level of confidence if your comfortable giving him a handjob doesn't necessarily mean you're ready to loose your virginity to him.

also my girlfriend said if your panties becomes wet when you are talking to a guy it means you would feel comfortable if he took your virginity. is this true because its happen to me with 2 boys my age (includes my bf) and one adult.

Just because a man/boy makes you become sexually excited while talking doesn't necessarily mean you're comfortable with him taking your virginity. Think about what your relationship is like sex especially for the first time is a big step and should be done out of love. As for the penis feeling like a finger, no your first time may hurt at first as your hymen is broken just remember to go slow and to communicate to your partner how you feel, good luck.

[GigglyAbby]

hi i just registered bacause my boyfriend is interested in something but i do not know if i should be doing it!

so was that ok or shouldn't i have done it unless i was planning to lose my virginity? he said he was ready to take it and to let him know/

also my gf said if your panty becomes wet when you are talking to a guy it means you would feel comfortable if he took your virginity. is this true because its happen to me with 2 boys my age (includes my bf) and one adult.

sorry if its confusing :whoops:

If you satisfied him and he didn't do the same to you -- he seems self centered and not worth your time. It seems like you may NOT be ready for sex yet since you appear to have some guilt from giving him a handjob or oral sex. It depends on who you talk to whether your actions mean you're ready to have sex or not. In my eyes -- you should explore each other's bodies a few times before you have sex. However -- others will say "just do it"
I think your gf is wrong that getting wet from a guy means losing your virginity to him will be flawless and great.


i don't know, should i try sex to find out if i'm ready?
or if i don't go ahead with it would it be ok to just play with my bfs lap even if he wants to go all the way?
sorry i'm not used to deciding things :(

You can't take back your first time and since you're NOT ready -- please don't give up your virginity quite yet because I'm afraid that it won't be that promising for you and he could be using you just for sex. If you tell him you're ready and you're not ready and decide to play with him -- he either may treat you like crap or coerce you to have sex with him.

i'm a virgin so far. he said online just now that he has a condom and we can try it after school :)

Please don't because I think:
*He'll dump you if you say no
*He'll dump you if you do it and refuse in the future
*You have serious doubt if you're ready
*What if he ran out of condoms and wanted to have sex again without one and he said he'd pull out?
*What would you do if the condom broke?
*What would you do if your period was late?
*What would you do if you got pregnant?


I don't think you should do it unless you are comfortable and ready. What rob said shows a little ignorance. You shouldn't do it be cuz it's fun, that's just no. Condoms are not 100% effective because I know this girl she got pregnant and she claimed she used protection. Are you sure you want to do this? Keep it in mind. And no it will absolutely not feel like a finger. It could hurt you. Anyways good luck!! :)

Can't disagree! Sex can be painful and I'm afraid things will be less desirable than you think because you're not ready.

[olive99]

I don't think you should do it unless you are comfortable and ready. What rob said shows a little ignorance. You shouldn't do it be cuz it's fun, that's just no. Condoms are not 100% effective because I know this girl she got pregnant and she claimed she used protection. Are you sure you want to do this? Keep it in mind. And no it will absolutely not feel like a finger. It could hurt you. Anyways good luck!! :)

i chickened out in the end but wore some panties and sat on his nude penis. it was really warm messy! we forgot to use a condom but he said my panties protected me :)



Just because a man/boy makes you become sexually excited while talking doesn't necessarily mean you're comfortable with him taking your virginity. Think about what your relationship is like sex especially for the first time is a big step and should be done out of love. As for the penis feeling like a finger, no your first time may hurt at first as your hymen is broken just remember to go slow and to communicate to your partner how you feel, good luck.

at least i'm very wet so hope its not too painful. my skirts wet from my panties being wet. wish i was not so wet from men but i guess its useful :P

[olive99]

If you satisfied him and he didn't do the same to you -- he seems self centered and not worth your time. It seems like you may NOT be ready for sex yet since you appear to have some guilt from giving him a handjob or oral sex. It depends on who you talk to whether your actions mean you're ready to have sex or not. In my eyes -- you should explore each other's bodies a few times before you have sex. However -- others will say "just do it"
I think your gf is wrong that getting wet from a guy means losing your virginity to him will be flawless and great.




You can't take back your first time and since you're NOT ready -- please don't give up your virginity quite yet because I'm afraid that it won't be that promising for you and he could be using you just for sex. If you tell him you're ready and you're not ready and decide to play with him -- he either may treat you like crap or coerce you to have sex with him.



Please don't because I think:
*He'll dump you if you say no
*He'll dump you if you do it and refuse in the future
*You have serious doubt if you're ready
*What if he ran out of condoms and wanted to have sex again without one and he said he'd pull out?
*What would you do if the condom broke?
*What would you do if your period was late?
*What would you do if you got pregnant?




Can't disagree! Sex can be painful and I'm afraid things will be less desirable than you think because you're not ready.

if he touches me he ejaculates everything, he really loves girls bodies :yes: so not sure if he can do the same for me. he rubs my bra at the movies and he ejaculates.
ok i won't lose my virginity so far, just enjoying his warm reaction on my body.

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It's only ok if YOU think it's ok. If you don't then tell him you're uncomfortable and break it off. (Not his penis, can't stress that enough :))

[Sasha M]

will it feel like my finger?

As far as I know, no. Probley A HELL of alot better.

[Mollypop]

You don't sound ready to me. You sound like you're curious, and there's nothing wrong with that. But you should be more than curious to have your first time with a boy. Do some other things with him for now. Maybe some oral.

At least that's how it sounds to me from what you wrote.

[olive99]

It's only ok if YOU think it's ok. If you don't then tell him you're uncomfortable and break it off. (Not his penis, can't stress that enough :))

his penis is really ok i put him in my mouth 2.5 hours ago for the first time and we like it :yummy:

As far as I know, no. Probley A HELL of alot better.

i haven't done that yet but in my hands its nice how it changes size so i guess it feels so good between legs cos it keeps changing size, unlike fingers lol


You don't sound ready to me. You sound like you're curious, and there's nothing wrong with that. But you should be more than curious to have your first time with a boy. Do some other things with him for now. Maybe some oral.

At least that's how it sounds to me from what you wrote.

oral we just started 2.5 hours ago :yummy: i wish we were living together :yes:

[tom.drake54]

this might be a bit of a personal question but do you masturbate? because if you dont you for sure arnt ready yet and should wait a bit before sex. You should try masturbating a bit and than you can see how that feels.

[Josh Schlacter]

will it feel like my finger?

Lol, no. Penises are a lot more bigger and firmer, also warm. My penis is 3 fingers wide (6.1" around).

[caliguy]

do not have sex until you are sure inside that you want to. Do not let him force you to. The first time should be something special for you and not something that you may potentially regret. After that first time it really is not a big deal.
Now until you are ready there are many many things that you can to instead of giving the one thing up. the degrees on what you are comfortable giving up will depend on you and only you and if he cannot handle keeping at what you will give up then he is not worth giving the real "prize" to. For example. If you are only comfortable using your hand then just give him hand jobs. If you like the feel of sperm on you (some do and some don't) let him give you a pearl necklace..(hold your breasts around his unit and let him ejaculate on your chest). If you are comfortable with the taste of his sperm you can give him oral. Even if you are not comfortable with the taste of sperm you can do oral until he about to ejaculate and then pull away and finish with your hand. There are many things you can do until you are comfortable with having actual sex. One friend of mine who is very sexual is saving her true virginity for marriage. She absolutely loves anal sex though and does that almost all the time. If you are not quite that comfortable yet and you trust him to not try to enter you can grid your butt against his unit so that your cheeks wrap around his unit and let him ejaculate there.
As you can see there are many things you can do until you are ready to give the one real prize up. And that is what it is. Its a prize that he needs to earn and you need to WANT to give up. If he is not willing to wait then he is not worthy of it.

[olive99]

this might be a bit of a personal question but do you masturbate? because if you dont you for sure arnt ready yet and should wait a bit before sex. You should try masturbating a bit and than you can see how that feels.

i do too types, one in bed with no clothes on. and at the computer when i read about sexy ideas here with a tshirt on. nobody has ever seen me.

Lol, no. Penises are a lot more bigger and firmer, also warm. My penis is 3 fingers wide (6.1" around).

i lock my lips on my bfs.

do not have sex until you are sure inside that you want to. Do not let him force you to. The first time should be something special for you and not something that you may potentially regret. After that first time it really is not a big deal.
Now until you are ready there are many many things that you can to instead of giving the one thing up. the degrees on what you are comfortable giving up will depend on you and only you and if he cannot handle keeping at what you will give up then he is not worth giving the real "prize" to. For example. If you are only comfortable using your hand then just give him hand jobs. If you like the feel of sperm on you (some do and some don't) let him give you a pearl necklace..(hold your breasts around his unit and let him ejaculate on your chest). If you are comfortable with the taste of his sperm you can give him oral. Even if you are not comfortable with the taste of sperm you can do oral until he about to ejaculate and then pull away and finish with your hand. There are many things you can do until you are comfortable with having actual sex. One friend of mine who is very sexual is saving her true virginity for marriage. She absolutely loves anal sex though and does that almost all the time. If you are not quite that comfortable yet and you trust him to not try to enter you can grid your butt against his unit so that your cheeks wrap around his unit and let him ejaculate there.
As you can see there are many things you can do until you are ready to give the one real prize up. And that is what it is. Its a prize that he needs to earn and you need to WANT to give up. If he is not willing to wait then he is not worthy of it.

thanks i never saw it as a gift! sounds sweet :wub:
i can taste it easily and everyday will now that i have realized :)
i will try my boobs around it after school next :yes:
i can keep my gift for later and wear some undies during lapdances.

[imaguybro]

Girls are the ones that choose to have sex or not, not the guys. Its a easier to put it in that sense. Mainly, Guys are here to have sex and give you sperm, Girls have the egg to the baby in which what caliguy said.. a gift. Now if you choose to have sex and then get pregnant, will he still stay with you? Thats the question. If you say no to sex to him, will he stay? If he says no to these things dont stay with him. Hes nothing in life and just wants sex to probably lose his virginity and tell his friends about it or even pleasure himself and not his partner. As I can see your 14, and have many many years to go until you found the guy that ''can'' actually stay with you and also both pleasure you and him. But if you do want to have sex and have that pleasure, you can always use toys which are 10x safer.

[caliguy]

I am very glad that you now see it as a gift Olive. It truly is. The first time for a girl is the most special gift she can give to her partner and she can only give that gift once in her life. There is no need to try to rush it. Like I stated before there are plenty of other things you can do that will feel just as good and special as sex to the boy. Don't give your gift till you are ready!! you can pm me any time if you want to ask more or what ever.

[CassieWTF]

Well, I'm going to give you a very different opinion,because I think that everyone is looking at this the wrong way.

First you should forget about the whole Idea of "loosing your virginity", when you have sex you aren't loosing anything. there's no such thing as virginity, just like theres no such thing as cold and no such thing as darkness. Cold is just the absence of heat, darkness is just the absence of light, AND virginity is just the absence of sexual experience.

The first time you have sex isn't special, and for most girls it's not even a good experience, sex is sex the first time or the 100th.

So the real question you should ask yourself is are you prepared to deal with consequences of sex. There is no such thing as "safe sex" pregnancy and STDs are ALWAYS a risk, if there is sperm involved. (and no your panties don't protect you) There is only "safer sex" wearing a condom reduces the risk buit doesn't eliminate it (condoms tear).

the other consecuences you need to consider are the effects sex has on your relationships. There is really no ways to predict how your relationship will change, so you have to be prepared to accept the unknown.

If you are prepared to deal with the consequences, then the only remaining question is do you want to fuck him or not? What he wants you to do doesn't matter, in your saying yes or no, only what you want for yourself. And if you decide no, and he doesn't respect it, get the fuck away from him ASAP.

[SkootuGurl]

Just stick to sucking him for now since you're comfortable with that, and make sure he returns the favour lol. You'll know when you are ready to go further, and when you do I hope you like it as much as I do.

[Joe7]

It sounds like you're really enjoying just playing around with him and letting him cum on you, which is great. If I were you I'd keep doing that until you're a little bit older so you know you're ready, but just enjoy yourself without taking the risk of sex.

[Jasperf]

hi i just registered bacause my boyfriend is interested in something but i do not know if i should be doing it!

i mean i already did it - handled his penis and made it you know ;)

so was that ok or shouldn't i have done it unless i was planning to lose my virginity? he said he was ready to take it and to let him know/

also my gf said if your panty becomes wet when you are talking to a guy it means you would feel comfortable if he took your virginity. is this true because its happen to me with 2 boys my age (includes my bf) and one adult.

sorry if its confusing :whoops:
The way that you have written this, and the language you have used, and your lack of knowledge tells me that you shouldnt be having sex.

[DerBear]

From what you've said it sounds like you might be as you said, out of your depth when it comes to sexual experiences. I personally from what you've said, think you'd benefit from waiting until you're more mature and fully understanding before you have sex with your boyfriend.

The choice is entirely up to you though.

[CurtisCody]

a 15 year old giving sex advice to a 14 year old, this can only go one way, if you can't talk about it straight than you are not ready as you are not mature enough simple stuff

[Austins]

i don't know, should i try sex to find out if i'm ready?
or if i don't go ahead with it would it be ok to just play with my bfs lap even if he wants to go all the way?
sorry i'm not used to deciding things :(

You never should take a leap like that unless you know you're ready. Don't rush things you have your whole life to do it :) If the moment is good and everything feels right go ahead but if not. Don't force something that doesn't need to be forced okay?