Im Soooo Confused

[Ariesboy]

Idk whats wrong with me. I know I love girls enotionally and physically. However, at the same time, I find alot of guys really attractive, sometimes I even get major hard ons when I see a hot guy. This is really confusing for me because I was raised in a christian house, and I do believe in god, but im not a christian. I dont think being gay is wrong at all but I dont know if I am or not. Im just really confused. Can someone help?

[Fanta_Lover44]

It could be bi or your just curious, could just be a phase, nothing to really worry about dude, nothings worng with you, but remember, your sexaulity is up to you to decide, never be forced into a decision :)

[Liii]

It's totally normal in puberty that you're curious about other guys. If you read a few threads on VT you will notice that many teens are in a similar situation (me included), so everything's fine. :)

[Ariesboy]

It could be bi or your just curious, could just be a phase, nothing to really worry about dude, nothings worng with you, but remember, your sexaulity is up to you to decide, never be forced into a decision :)

Thanks :)

[Ariesboy]

It's totally normal in puberty that you're curious about other guys. If you read a few threads on VT you will notice that many teens are in a similar situation (me included), so everything's fine. :)

Sometimes I feel guilty though

[Fanta_Lover44]

Thanks :)

No problem dude! Here to help :)

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Being Christian has nothing to do with it. Liking or disliking gays is also irrelevant. All that matters is your feelings.

That being said, you may be bisexual if you have emotional and physical feelings for both sexes. If not, then you're either gay or straight.

My best advice is to avoid labels. The worst thing that will happen is that you confide in the wrong label, and end up even more confused then you were before.

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:)I do believe in god, but im not a christian.
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As a side note, believing in god makes you a Christian. Don't know if you realize, but that's the exact definition of what a Christian is.

[Ariesboy]

Being Christian has nothing to do with it. Liking or disliking gays is also irrelevant. All that matters is your feelings.

That being said, you may be bisexual if you have emotional and physical feelings for both sexes. If not, then you're either gay or straight.

My best advice is to avoid labels. The worst thing that will happen is that you confide in the wrong label, and end up even more confused then you were before.

I think trying to label it is the reason why im so confused.

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I think trying to label it is the reason why im so confused.

Which in itself is a bad idea. Just go with it, and you'll find all the answers you need.

[Ariesboy]

Thanks alot

[teen.jpg]

Thanks alot
Here to help :P

[clmbusboy1]

I've had the same type of feelings at times. So I think it's just what happens when your going through changes. Nothing to worry about...at least I don't think so.

[Avacon]

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As a side note, believing in god makes you a Christian. Don't know if you realize, but that's the exact definition of what a Christian is.
Jewish people believe in God... They're not Christians. I think the main part of Christianity is that you believe Jesus existed and that he was more than just a disciple...

@OP: Huge problem with trying to label yourself - you could be wrong. Feelings change all the time, and from what it sounds like it's mainly with certain people. It could just be that they're an exception. There's really no need to label yourself, in my opinion, as it can just be explained by what you posted as the original post. xD

But yes, I get what you mean. I have feelings for both genders. It's reaally, reaaaaallly weird. I'd recommend you just... try not to label yourself. If your feelings change, and you've picked a label, like Myles already said, you could just end up even more confused.

[Xandle]

I used to have (and kind of still do have) pretty much the exact same issue as this, but I came to the conclusion that really, being gay is about loving someone as the same sex emotionally. I've been surprised at how many others go through stages of physically liking guys, but as long as it doesn't turn into a situation where you could see yourself in a romantic and mentally loving state with a male, I don't think there's an issue. For the record, I am in complete support of gay rights, I just think that it must be so hard to go through finding out you're gay that I'd never want to experience it.

[Ariesboy]

I used to have (and kind of still do have) pretty much the exact same issue as this, but I came to the conclusion that really, being gay is about loving someone as the same sex emotionally. I've been surprised at how many others go through stages of physically liking guys, but as long as it doesn't turn into a situation where you could see yourself in a romantic and mentally loving state with a male, I don't think there's an issue. For the record, I am in complete support of gay rights, I just think that it must be so hard to go through finding out you're gay that I'd never want to experience it.



Thanks alot

[Ariesboy]

Jewish people believe in God... They're not Christians. I think the main part of Christianity is that you believe Jesus existed and that he was more than just a disciple...

@OP: Huge problem with trying to label yourself - you could be wrong. Feelings change all the time, and from what it sounds like it's mainly with certain people. It could just be that they're an exception. There's really no need to label yourself, in my opinion, as it can just be explained by what you posted as the original post. xD

But yes, I get what you mean. I have feelings for both genders. It's reaally, reaaaaallly weird. I'd recommend you just... try not to label yourself. If your feelings change, and you've picked a label, like Myles already said, you could just end up even more confused.


Lol I didnt want to say anything about the christian thing.
And thanks for the advice. :)

[Xandle]

Thanks alot

No problem. I remember how confused and scared I was, it was excruciating. Feel free to PM me or message me or whatever if you ever need someone to talk to :)

[Ariesboy]

No problem. I remember how confused and scared I was, it was excruciating. Feel free to PM me or message me or whatever if you ever need someone to talk to :)


yeah thats kinda what im going through right now. And I will...when i get 100 posts. And thanks again.

[Xandle]

yeah thats kinda what im going through right now. And I will...when i get 100 posts. And thanks again.

No probs :)

[Poopsie do]

Don't worry... I have to admit it but sometimes I get those feelings too. I love everything about girls (I even have a girlfriend) but I do get turned on from a really attractive guy so ur not the only one. I claim that I am straight but idk. It could be just the hormones. Anyways I hope I helped :)

[Ariesboy]

Don't worry... I have to admit it but sometimes I get those feelings too. I love everything about girls (I even have a girlfriend) but I do get turned on from a really attractive guy so ur not the only one. I claim that I am straight but idk. It could be just the hormones. Anyways I hope I helped :)

No problem. I remember how confused and scared I was, it was excruciating. Feel free to PM me or message me or whatever if you ever need someone to talk to :)

Jewish people believe in God... They're not Christians. I think the main part of Christianity is that you believe Jesus existed and that he was more than just a disciple...

@OP: Huge problem with trying to label yourself - you could be wrong. Feelings change all the time, and from what it sounds like it's mainly with certain people. It could just be that they're an exception. There's really no need to label yourself, in my opinion, as it can just be explained by what you posted as the original post. xD

But yes, I get what you mean. I have feelings for both genders. It's reaally, reaaaaallly weird. I'd recommend you just... try not to label yourself. If your feelings change, and you've picked a label, like Myles already said, you could just end up even more confused.

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As a side note, believing in god makes you a Christian. Don't know if you realize, but that's the exact definition of what a Christian is.

It's totally normal in puberty that you're curious about other guys. If you read a few threads on VT you will notice that many teens are in a similar situation (me included), so everything's fine. :)

It could be bi or your just curious, could just be a phase, nothing to really worry about dude, nothings worng with you, but remember, your sexaulity is up to you to decide, never be forced into a decision :)

Thank again guys. I feel alot better knowing im not alone and that im understood. :"

[warriorofthewater12]

You're jusst curious

[jaxian rhyder]

That is normal a lot of guys do

[alexkun]

maybe you're just bixesual.. and its perfectly fine.. i am.. i like girls, i could be intimate with them... but i also like guys.. and get turned on by them too..

.. and its normal to lean more towards one.. than the other.. i think i am 60% guys 40% girls.. .. :)

[curiouse97]

relax and fallow your heart. just be you and enjoy life explore while you can nothing wrong with that.

[averagemuscleguy]

I feel the exact same way. I know i want to marry a woman and have kids someday, but guys really turn me on, moreso than girls. But you and i are still growing up, so just dont label it and analyze it because its not worth it. Just surround yourself with people you like, male or female, and try not to gdt discouraged. Theres nothing wrong with it :)

[curiouskid15]

Sounds like you're a bit curious, which is normal. There's no need to be worried,I'm kinda the same way with the whole guys and girls thing. If you want help with your religion, there is no shame in being unsure, or not really believing on god and Jesus. There is a group called YoungLife that you might look into. It is a Christian group that'll help. It's not like a serious Sunday school, in your face thing, its really laid back, fun, and cool, I'm actually a part of it. It's full of cool kids who won't judge you, and there will be a few older people there to answer any questions you might have bout your sexual orientation, or what have you because they've been through what you're going through. It's actually pretty fun, too Google them. I can guarantee you'll be glad you did. I hope I'm not sounding too much like a sales rep.You're a normal kid.

[Mob Boss]

Puberty For Boys :arrow: Teen Sexuality

I've moved this here because it's about your sexuality. :)

[topboy]

I feel the exact same way. I know i want to marry a woman and have kids someday, but guys really turn me on, moreso than girls. But you and i are still growing up, so just dont label it and analyze it because its not worth it. Just surround yourself with people you like, male or female, and try not to gdt discouraged. Theres nothing wrong with it :)

Exactly how i feel .. Im not alone