My relationship

[UKRaven32]

So, me and my girlfriend have been going out for 3 weeks as of today. She is a year younger than me, so it's hard for us to see each other during school time, so we rely on after school and weekends. But, I work on most weekends to get some pocket money (I don't come from a very well off family, so my mum can't afford to give me pocket money). Since I give up nearly all my weekends to work I don't get to go out with my friends as often as I'd like, or my girlfriend for that matter. Plus, as I have my own friend group and she has hers we don't tend to talk when each others friends are around. So basically it's an after school relationship, and the odd day. Now, before we went out I had only known her for like 3 days prior, so we just went straight into it. She is 10 times more confident than me so we've been taking it really fast over the time we've been going out. There's been like no time to develop feelings or a bond with her, were more like friends with benefits tbh.

As I said before, I'm a very busy person so I don't have much spare time to be texting her all the time. I got a text from her before saying; "Do you even have time for me anymore?" from last night. My phone was dead at this point so I only just replied to her asking what she means. Now, I think this relationship is going too fast for me, she doesn't understand that I can't speak to her as much as she likes and I don't think it is going to end well. I think in the next day or so, even though it pains me to say it, we're gonna break up. It's horrible for me because her ex broke her heart and she spent half a year trying to get over him, and I don't want to do the same. Should I end it before its too late and I do break her heart? Or should I try and fix things? Bearing in mind there isn't much of a feeling on my end you get when you really like someone.

Help please?

[Jeremy08]

Hello James.
Before I go any further, I have to know;
Do you really love this girl and do you treasure this relationship? Because it is to my understanding that you wish to end this relationship, and it's only the matter of when are you gonna do it. You also said that fixing things up is your other option.

[UKRaven32]

Well I don't really treasure this relationship or love her. I could try fixing it up but there's no feeling for me to be motivated to end it. You know when you just lose the spark? It's like that.

[Jeremy08]

I thought you're gonna say that you love her so much and you're gonna defend your relationship, cause I got just the thing to say lol. Nvm that.

Right then.
Seems to me like you've lost your interest already. I would suggest that you go talk to her, about ending all this as soon as you're ready. I mean it is best if it is sooner. I have been in your shoes once, it happened years ago where I sorta lost it too. I planned to put an end to it but I didn't have the guts to say it, and so the delay continues. The longer I dragged it, the uglier it goes and she got hurt, sayin ' all this was a lie?' and 'how long have you been pretending?' kinda things that nobody would want to hear.

Go easy on her and be honest. Tell her and go have fun or go out for the last time or something because that is what I would do, making the last day memorable. If you drag this up, she is gonna be the only one working hard to make it last, loving with all her heart, while you are just pretending to love her. A complete opposite and that is just wrong.

Maybe you can lie to her, but you can't lie to yourself man.
Hope it helps, best of luck.

[Grand Admiral Thrawn]

Well, if you don't really feel anything for her anymore, there's not much use to trying to patch things up, is there?

I wouldn't want to be led on by someone who doesn't like me, and I know pretty much everyone shares that feeling. And you shouldn't have to lie and fake your feelings.

The best thing to do would be breaking up, but just take it slow. Don't overwhelm her with all this at once. Like Jeremy said, try to make the last day memorable and go easy on her.

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Just let her down easily and move on. You don't sound like you even have feelings for her anymore, so why bother?

[screamtobeheard]

I think that if you don't love her, you should let her go and give her the chance to find someone who does.