I'm not sure what to do in this situation; Help?

[ThE DopEsT]

I'm in a bit of a predicament and I'm not sure what to do at all. I have been very close friends with this person for quite some time now and everything was cool in the beginning until I ended up falling for them. They lead me on in the beginning by telling me they like me, they frequently complimented me on my appearance, and we've flirted back and forth a lot. Then out of nowhere they completely friend zoned me. I haven't been friend zoned or rejected like that in my whole life, so it's a whole new thing to me. I was upset to say the least, but I discussed this with them. They didn't really acknowledge how I was feeling or anything and they changed the subject rather quickly. Well fine, I let it go and tried to continue being friends. It worked... somewhat. They still continue to lead me on and it's really messing with my emotions now. In an attempt to get away from all of this emotional distress, I've resorted to ignoring them completely. This probably isn't the best thing to do, but like I said, I have NO idea what to do at all. Can any of you give me advice? Should I continue to ignore them or do you guys have any other suggestions? Thanks :wub:

[MoonMan]

If you've revealed your feelings and they shrug it off like that, then you're hardcore friendzoned right now. I wouldn't say ignoring them is the best thing to do, but it seems like this person just wants the attention (not the actual affection) that comes with flirting or leading on. It's not fair to you that they shut you down even though you were just being honest (although just because you are friends doesn't automatically mean she has to be romantically attracted to you) any mature person would be able to handle that situation by simply telling you whether they reciprocated those feelings or not. Maybe she's worried it would destroy your friendship? I think it's best if you move on from this, maybe you two can still be friends afterwards and, who knows, maybe she'll come around after thinking it through. It's unlikely she reciprocates your feelings if she can't even discuss them with you, to be quite honest.

[ThE DopEsT]

If you've revealed your feelings and they shrug it off like that, then you're hardcore friendzoned right now. I wouldn't say ignoring them is the best thing to do, but it seems like this person just wants the attention (not the actual affection) that comes with flirting or leading on. It's not fair to you that they shut you down even though you were just being honest (although just because you are friends doesn't automatically mean she has to be romantically attracted to you) any mature person would be able to handle that situation by simply telling you whether they reciprocated those feelings or not. Maybe she's worried it would destroy your friendship? I think it's best if you move on from this, maybe you two can still be friends afterwards and, who knows, maybe she'll come around after thinking it through. It's unlikely she reciprocates your feelings if she can't even discuss them with you, to be quite honest.
Yeah I agree, I really have been friend zoned pretty bad. :(

I really hate that they played with me like this and I let them do it. I just hate that I'm in this situation because I'm definitely letting my feelings get between the friendship and now I'm at the point where ignoring them will lead to an end in the friendship.

I am going to try my best to move on from this, I really am. Hopefully when I get over this, they'll still want to be my friend. Thank you for your advice, it's very much appreciated!

[Jevon]

I would continue ignoring them and wait for them to Rome to me first...but if you know that won't happen then yah you should just try to work through it then

[MoonMan]

Yeah I agree, I really have been friend zoned pretty bad. :(

I really hate that they played with me like this and I let them do it. I just hate that I'm in this situation because I'm definitely letting my feelings get between the friendship and now I'm at the point where ignoring them will lead to an end in the friendship.

I am going to try my best to move on from this, I really am. Hopefully when I get over this, they'll still want to be my friend. Thank you for your advice, it's very much appreciated!
No worries. You sound like a genuinely good guy at least, I'm confident you can mend things and repair your friendship. And if you can't, take it as a learning experience to better your ability to handle these kinds of things in the future. Good luck.