how to tell my girlfriend I do pills

[Adam17]

Idk if this is were this should be but I was wanting to know some good ideas on how to tell my girlfriend that I do pills and deal them

[PinkFloyd]

Honesty is the key, so just tell her ou have a problem and that you want to stop. Ask her for help.

[HUSTLEMAN]

I have to go w/ Rob. They're is only 3 things she can do: Break up with you, Break up with you and turn you into the cops, or she can support you and help you get out of your addiction.

[Fanta_Lover44]

I agree with rob, its better that you tell her then she finds out..... If she finds out it will end up worse. If you tell her it would be a lot better.

[KaEl.]

I dated a guy for way over a year and he got into drugs. I asked him to stop and he promised. Many many times. And he broke them all so I broke up with him.
Almost a year on my life is still a wreck thanks to him.

I can only say two things.
Tell her and stop. (Best option to be honest)
Or tell her and leave. (It's horrible, but if you're not prepared to stop for her, then leave her life, and respect the fact that she went out with the clean you.)

[GigglyAbby]

I agree that you need to tell her before she hears it from someone else. Yet -- before you tell her you need to figure out what your objective is:
*Do you have the desire to quit for YOURSELF?
*Would you quit if she gave you an ultimatum?
*Would you quit if she would help you get the support you need to quit?
*Are you intending to continue to do this regardless of her response?
*If the roles were reversed and she was the dealer or pill user and you were clean -- how would you react?

You need to do some soul searching and decide what you plan on doing and hope if you do quit that you can avoid the people who do drugs and the temptations.

I have to go w/ Rob. They're is only 3 things she can do: Break up with you, Break up with you and turn you into the cops, or she can support you and help you get out of your addiction.

I agree with the first 2 options but for the 3rd scenario -- sadly -- I doubt she's equipped to do this by herself. 4th option is she may elect to get your supply or buy from you.

[HUSTLEMAN]

4th option is she may elect to get your supply or buy from you.[/B][/COLOR][/QUOTE]

True

[DerBear]

Generally talking to her and telling her that you have this addiction(?) and that you take pills and see her reaction. If she cares for you she might try and help you but to be honest its best to tell her even though ti could have negative consequences. You don't want a relationship to be based on lies and mistrust.

You'd want it to be more open.

[James Bond]

Tell her about the addiction. If you two break up badly, she can run to the police saying you deal drugs.

[Adam17]

Thanks to everyone that replied. I told her that I have been doing subs and that I wanted to quit and she's been really supportive and since im currently living with her (I have another post explaining why) and since I never did them when I was around her I have almost quit completely.

[missfortune]

just tell her why you take them after you have told and I ma sure they will understand

[Slippers]

Quite frankly honesty is the best policy. She'll need to know and if you haven't already told her please do so. She'll be incredibly hurt if she finds out in some other way.

[BookSmart]

Be honest with her. You should tell her in person. Meet up somewhere like a park, your house, her house, somewhere you two can be alone. Tell her you have a problem, then proceed to tell her what it is. She might be really angry after you tell her; mad at you for not telling her sooner, mad at herself for not noticing, or she could just be completely against drugs, period. She might just break up with you then and there, and you have to be prepared for that, but I think there's also a much greater chance that she'd want to help you. Here's where it gets harder on your part. You have to decide if you're willing to accept that help. Are you willing to quit? If you don't want to, then you should just end your relationship. Don't put her through so much pain. If you're willing to quit, tell her. Tell her you want her help.

I hope you can get better. No matter what happens, the people here on VT will be here to support you. I applaud the effort you've made so far. Admitting you have a problem is the first step towards recovery. The next step is getting help. Good luck!

[justin 13]

Dude just try for good not do it anymore. Thats gonna ruin your life, get some help. Church folks have helped kids on drugs and whats more important your relation with this chick or drugs?

[James Bond]

Is there a need to tell her? If there isn't I don't see a reason why you should tell her. What you do for a living isn't anyone's business except your own.

Don't bring business home, and home to business. Business should stay at business, just as home should stay at home.

If you tell her, you risk her telling other people, her breaking up with you, and her turning you into the police which will send you to jail for many years.

[mariajelly]

i agree you should be honest with her.. do you want to continue taking pills and selling them? you obviously are slightly ashamed otherwise you would have told her right out and wouldn't be worried about it now. if you do want to stop this could be a perfect opportunity to ask for her help to stop, if she loves you she will support you and you can work through it together!

[Luminous]

It's better you tell her, than to have her find out on her own. Sit her down and tell her that there's something really important you need to tell her, and you really need her support in it. Then ask her if she's ready to hear it. If she is, that's when you tell her. She might not be. Clarify that you are going to her because you really need help and support and you were hoping to get it from her. But she might not want all that responsibility so be prepared to hear no.