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Eagle15
June 15th, 2013, 10:31 PM
I'm so confused :(. All my life I've been brought up in a Catholic household and such and have been following the norm of being attracted to girls. Heck I still like girls but i just like them for their body since their emotions can be so hellish (at least in my cases) and I have never really connected with any as partnerish but mainly as good friends.

However now I question my sexuality. I think I may be bisexual. And to be honest I don't know if these feelings are true or not. They first came to my realization and mind one night when I was kinda drunk off some of the household alcohol, but have stuck with me since. I have an attraction to girls yet I feel as though I have more of an attraction to men too.

This of course is added to the fact that I think I'm in love with my best friend, who happens to be male. We are so alike and are literally so compatible as friends. We do everything together and have told each other everything over the past 2 years. The only bad thing is that he is super religious and dislikes homosexuality, being straight. I don't know if I could tell him my feelings for him without feeling like a fool and ruining our friendship. I have told him and he has told me within our friendship that we "love" the other one but that to him only signifies a love in friendship . I really do love him for all he is and care about him but I'm so confused within myself on what I am in my sexuality and whether I should tell him at least my confusion on my sexuality and go on it from there....

P.S. it doesn't help that my friend recently got a "girlfriend" and we kinda argued that it wouldn't be the best for him.

P.P.S. To everyone around me, they think me as completely straight because that's what I put on for them.

RazorEdge
June 15th, 2013, 10:44 PM
Although I wouldn't advise being friends with intolerant douches, telling him right now especially after a recent argument isn't a good idea, especially if you know he is straight, he would probably hate you for trying to seduce him.

And yes, you sound bisexual to me.

steellord321
June 16th, 2013, 01:50 AM
Pick a time when you are on better terms. Otherwise the kneejerk reaction on his part will be that its not a big loss to ditch you. I wouldn't reveal that you like him in that way either. Seems like nothing to gain from that since he's str8. Well hope it works out for ya.

Pierce
June 16th, 2013, 09:25 AM
Don't seem confused to me, seems like you know what you like. You are sexually but not emotionally attracted to girls and you are attracted to men. Do not tell your friend how you feel if he is a homophobe. What you should do is stand up for homosexuals or homosexuality when it comes up in conversation and your around him, not enough to make him think your gay, but enough to make him know that you're okay with gay people. Again, I'm sure it's very difficult not being able to tell him you're feelings, but don't, you will regret it later. Best of luck!