Dumped after 11months

[MaguireUk]

Got dumped today after 11months of being with my girlfriend not sure what to do shes got alot going on at the moment, and said because I work nights only see her twice a week but want to know how to get her back I flipped out at her after but so confussed

[Miri]

Got dumped today after 11months of being with my girlfriend not sure what to do shes got alot going on at the moment, and said because I work nights only see her twice a week but want to know how to get her back I flipped out at her after but so confussed

I'm so sorry hun. I know how you feel.

If you flipped out at her, you're going to have to apologize for that though. If she's got a lot going on, just try to be understanding. Maybe she doesn't feel like you're going out of your way for her. From what you're saying though, I can see that you're busy, and are trying your best, which is all someone can ask for.

Either way, communication is the best thing you can do at this point. Try to be calm and understanding, and you'll be a great boyfriend for doing that. I know that this is a hard time for you both.

I'll be here if you need to talk, or if you just want to rant.

[ajp1993]

I agree, if you've flipped out, first thing is to apologize.
What's she got going on right now that loading her down?
If you can arrange to meet somewhere neutral, a coffee shop or something, where you can have talk and discuss everything. A good relationship has compromise. Hopefully you'll be able to find something that works for the both of you. At very least you should then be able to finish on good terms than with an argument.
i know right now it sucks and you're confused but hopefully you'll be able to work things out together

[MaguireUk]

I'm so sorry hun. I know how you feel.

If you flipped out at her, you're going to have to apologize for that though. If she's got a lot going on, just try to be understanding. Maybe she doesn't feel like you're going out of your way for her. From what you're saying though, I can see that you're busy, and are trying your best, which is all someone can ask for.

Either way, communication is the best thing you can do at this point. Try to be calm and understanding, and you'll be a great boyfriend for doing that. I know that this is a hard time for you both.

I'll be here if you need to talk, or if you just want to rant.

Well I flipped out because shes always going on about money, says she never has any and the car she now has still hasnt paid for it, so I pay everywhere we go and treat her. But then she goes out with her mates shopping drinking spending loads of money which she doesnt have then had the cheek to say I never see herbecause I work night. And I understand she has a lot going on but she never talks to me about I ask but never get answers its just messed up

[MaguireUk]

I agree, if you've flipped out, first thing is to apologize.
What's she got going on right now that loading her down?
If you can arrange to meet somewhere neutral, a coffee shop or something, where you can have talk and discuss everything. A good relationship has compromise. Hopefully you'll be able to find something that works for the both of you. At very least you should then be able to finish on good terms than with an argument.
i know right now it sucks and you're confused but hopefully you'll be able to work things out together

Yeah thanks I have asked her to go out today for a chat and see whats going on, and I dont know whats going on with her she tells me nothing

[ajp1993]

Yeah thanks I have asked her to go out today for a chat and see whats going on, and I dont know whats going on with her she tells me nothing

I hope it goes well. Good luck

[Miri]

Well I flipped out because shes always going on about money, says she never has any and the car she now has still hasnt paid for it, so I pay everywhere we go and treat her. But then she goes out with her mates shopping drinking spending loads of money which she doesnt have then had the cheek to say I never see herbecause I work night. And I understand she has a lot going on but she never talks to me about I ask but never get answers its just messed up

With all you're doing for her, you at least deserve some answers.

I know you don't want to hear this, but from what I understand it sounds like a pretty one sided relationship. You've done a lot for her, and it doesn't seem as if she appreciates it. Good luck with your chat with her, I hope everything works out.

I also agree what the person said after me, in any relationship there should be compromise from both sides, not just one.

[MaguireUk]

With all you're doing for her, you at least deserve some answers.

I know you don't want to hear this, but from what I understand it sounds like a pretty one sided relationship. You've done a lot for her, and it doesn't seem as if she appreciates it. Good luck with your chat with her, I hope everything works out.

I also agree what the person said after me, in any relationship there should be compromise from both sides, not just one.

We had a fight today but somehow came to the end by now going out wednesday for another chat see what can be done its daft, I like her but dont know if can keep doing this she said friends atm but doesnt know whatcould happen down the line I dont just want to be a go to guy when needs me