How to live without Jealousy?

[Extreme586]

I've noticed one of my biggest problems in life is how envious and jealous I get of other people. I say things to myself like "I wish I could do that" or "I wish I was blah blah blah". So rather than ignoring the issue, can someone tell me how some of you deal with jealousy and how you keep it out of your life?

[Fanta_Lover44]

Erm well to be honest sometimes i don't get super jelous but for me its a phase, i can move on easyily by saying i don't want to be like that. I know it sounds funny but its what i do. You can't keep it out of your life, its the people who rub it in your face you just get soo annoyed with.

[MoonMan]

There's no foul proof way to keep jealousy out of your life, everyone goes through it at one point or another. As far as dealing with it just think of the things that you like about yourself or what makes you unique in contrast to simply conforming to jealous thoughts. This won't stop the jealous thoughts from happening, however, it can certainly make them more bearable when they do happen.

[Extreme586]

It might not even be physical characteristics or physical items that people have around me. For me a big one recently was how someone I knew and a bunch of his friends went straight up to a lake and are probably camping out right now. They all went up right after school ended for the summer.

I just felt so left behind and wished I had friends like that and I could just run off and be social and have fun. The last few days have been rough needless to say.

[rainbowdashmof]

I don't get jealous only because if I actually care about the person, and they are happy, I'm happy. Whether or not their happiness involves me, I don't care, as long as they are happy... And I'm just wired wrong maybe, but just be happy for that person. For being envious as in, you wish you could do it, just think of something awesome you can do, no matter how small it is. When I get envious, I just remember, hey, I can shake my eyes, and that is pretty awesome, so screw you...
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[MoonMan]

It might not even be physical characteristics or physical items that people have around me. For me a big one recently was how someone I knew and a bunch of his friends went straight up to a lake and are probably camping out right now. They all went up right after school ended for the summer.

I just felt so left behind and wished I had friends like that and I could just run off and be social and have fun. The last few days have been rough needless to say.
This isn't necessarily jealousy, as you've stated, it's feeling left out and lonely. There's nothing wrong with that, my advice would be to ask some of your own friends or maybe even family members if they would like to meet up and do something fun. Again, you have your own options at your disposal. No need to be jealous or feel left out.

[Extreme586]

Ya I'm planning on joining some clubs next year. One of which he is in but it's a big community service club with a lot of people and on top of that I was actually thinking about joining it before I knew he was in it anyways. Plus I'm joining another one too so ya.

I don't get jealous only because if I actually care about the person, and they are happy, I'm happy. Whether or not their happiness involves me, I don't care, as long as they are happy... And I'm just wired wrong maybe, but just be happy for that person. For being envious as in, you wish you could do it, just think of something awesome you can do, no matter how small it is. When I get envious, I just remember, hey, I can shake my eyes, and that is pretty awesome, so screw you...
IbetnoneofthishelpedbutohwellItypeditanyway

Na, I actually saw something like this when I was searching the internet a few hours ago. It really changed my perspective and I know for a fact I really love him so I'm starting to be happy for him. Because I really do care whether he is happy or not. I hope whoever he is dating loves him him more than I ever could, and makes him happy.

[Triceratops]

If you find the solution, please let me know! I'm constantly comparing every inch of myself to other people, it drives me fucking insane.

What I would suggest is taking your mind off things with a variety of hobbies, music, a TV series, anything really. Something that will distract you from the real world I guess!

[Extreme586]

I play WoW actually, it does the trick. But as a result I was socially awkward in school. I think the real trick is just being happy with yourself. For example, I'm usually so happy with myself when I'm at home alone! I love how I look and I love who I am but when I get around other people I feel so inadequate.

Still a work in progress but I'm learning to love myself more and more every day and it seems to be helping with how happy I am overall.

[mynameistaken]

if you are going to be jealous you have to be completely jealous. Not just of the good things a person has but also the bad. You can be jealous of a guy for having a high paying job but you also have to be jealous of his drug addiction.... that sort of thing, i heard someone say that once, not sure who or where but you always find yourself happy with your own life in the end.