Anxiety about a problem I caused

[Caldwell]

Last September I switched schools, and was relatively sure I wouldn't be returning to that group of people.

It felt good to be away from those people. I was used to seeing them get into fights and insult other people on Facebook, but I saw something that was truly horrific. They were flaming a relatively fat and unpopular girl, telling her, quote:

"You're fat, ugly, and nobody will ever love you!"

"You're one of the ugliest people I've ever seen!"

"You should just kill yourself!"

Stuff like that. I didn't want to have it at all. I screenshotted everything, made a Tumblr post where I uploaded all the screenshots and told the story, and to make matters worse, I sent a message out to almost everybody I knew on Facebook, outting those assholes for their behavior.

What ended up happening is most people just ignored it and left the conversation. The others told me that it was such a great thing for me to shed light on it, blah blah blah, but I got some angry messages from the bullies telling me that I was making them out to be the bad guys and that I'm getting in their business.

Needless to say, I blocked them and didn't care. I used to be friends with one of them, but after seeing how he treats people I decided he's a terrible person on a crash course with failure in life. But again, I didn't think I'd ever be returning to the school they went to, so I didn't think much of it.

However, I will be going to school with all of them again, and I'm afraid some of them may still hold a grudge. I feel kind of ridiculous for taking such action, yet I'm not sure if it was the right or wrong thing to do. They're bad kids, and to be honest I'm afraid they'll remember and hurt me in some way.

Any thoughts?

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It's a good thing that you did that, but did you end up talking to the girl they were bullying ?

[Caldwell]

No. Even if I sent her a message she probably wouldn't have responded. She's kind of quiet and I didn't want to force her into anything. I guess the focus was on the bullies as opposed to the victim.

[Miri]

You did the right thing.

Thank you for standing up for those who aren't ready to stand up for themselves. You sure earned my respect.

[muffin with a knife]

You did a great thing. And, about the girl, you could talk to her. She might need a friend like you. Most bullied teens have few or no friends. They could always use a friend

[Grand Admiral Thrawn]

You did a good deed. There are lots of people like that girl, people who can't stand up for themselves, but there are few people like you, who want to help them and make things better.

If you think they might do something to you as payback, just talk to a teacher or someone else at your school you'd feel comfortable sharing this information with.

[Kerser]

good on ya mate !! they won't hurt you or anything (unless they're REALLY that kind of people, but NO ONE really likes them either) but a part of them WILL have a grudge for you publicizing them like that. They won't hurt you because if people find out they 'bashed' or 'bully' someone who simply stood up for another person, their own reputation would go to shit [unless everyone at your new school are a bunch of cunts lol] and they wouldn't want that.

If they hurt or abuse you that's just fucking dumb lol - you shouldn't even be scared or worried about it, if someone is that much of a douche to actually have a go at someone who stood up for that girl - just simply tell them they're a dickhead for bullying someone who can't defend themselves and you felt the need to help her if they confront you about it ... at that point they should realize it's their fault and you were just doing the right thing.

But I doubt they'd do anything, just don't worry about it and focus on making new friends and stick with the friends you already have. If anything escalates your friends and anyone that agrees with you will have your back for doing the right thing.

If you can't get your mind of things just talk to a trusted teacher, friends, family or the Councillor about the issue and get it off your chest. Don't continue to get anxious over it :) Just don't be dramatic about the issue, tell yourself you don't really care THAT much but you were just being the bigger man - no big deal

How old are you by the way?

mirin' garrus btw :P fkn love mass effect

[johnsmith1]

Last September I switched schools, and was relatively sure I wouldn't be returning to that group of people.

It felt good to be away from those people. I was used to seeing them get into fights and insult other people on Facebook, but I saw something that was truly horrific. They were flaming a relatively fat and unpopular girl, telling her, quote:

"You're fat, ugly, and nobody will ever love you!"

"You're one of the ugliest people I've ever seen!"

"You should just kill yourself!"

Stuff like that. I didn't want to have it at all. I screenshotted everything, made a Tumblr post where I uploaded all the screenshots and told the story, and to make matters worse, I sent a message out to almost everybody I knew on Facebook, outting those assholes for their behavior.

What ended up happening is most people just ignored it and left the conversation. The others told me that it was such a great thing for me to shed light on it, blah blah blah, but I got some angry messages from the bullies telling me that I was making them out to be the bad guys and that I'm getting in their business.

Needless to say, I blocked them and didn't care. I used to be friends with one of them, but after seeing how he treats people I decided he's a terrible person on a crash course with failure in life. But again, I didn't think I'd ever be returning to the school they went to, so I didn't think much of it.

However, I will be going to school with all of them again, and I'm afraid some of them may still hold a grudge. I feel kind of ridiculous for taking such action, yet I'm not sure if it was the right or wrong thing to do. They're bad kids, and to be honest I'm afraid they'll remember and hurt me in some way.

Any thoughts?

1st off, the world could do with more peole like you! I've been bullied when I was younger, and it's a good feeling when someone does stand up for you.

You sound like a strong person, and I hope you are worrying over nothing. Just keep your distance. However, if they do do stuff, don't let them get away ith it. Stand up for yourslf or report it. DON'T LET TEHM WIN.