My Friend...

[CityKid23]

I have a friend who is mentally unstable I guess you could say. She is afraid of herself and harms herself all the time. The night before I last saw her she took a knife to her thigh and cut it open. She has scars on her arm. She does drugs so that doesn't help the scenario. She had not eaten or drank anything the previous two days before I saw her. She said she has lost 5 pounds that week, her veins were a dark purple. She calls a suicide hotline every day. She just wants to die. She's tries getting help but either its not what she needs or she gets none. People call her crazy and when she told her parents they refuses to believe her. So its me and a few other kids who believe her and try to get her help. Last October she had her stomach pumped out after overdosing on pills. Its summer vacation and I won't see her much. When I do see her what should u do? I'm not sure how to help and I want her to get better! Thanks.

[LouBerry]

Just let your friend know that she is not alone. Tell her about VT even! Let her know that there are hundreds of teens going through the same things she is. That she isn't crazy, she's sick. Depression is a mental disorder. Think of it as a disease. Tell her that it isn't her fault anymore than if she had cancer. It's sad that her parents won't help her, but try to get her to open up to someone, tell them about how she's feeling.

Also, I'd tell her about the Butterfly project. It's the reason I stopped harming myself.

Basically, the Butterfly Project is this amazing idea someone came up with, where you draw little butterfly's on the areas of your body you would like to cut. You name these butterfly's after the people you love. If you cut, the butterfly's die.

For example, I had four. One on each wrist, and each thigh. There names were Melanie, Cody, Seth, and Sadie. My two best friends, my boyfriend, and my little sister. It's really a great thing.

[KimuraWannabe116]

You seriously need to get her help ASAP! Whether if it is telling a consuler, telling your parents, calling the police, or having her go to a mental facility. Not drinking for 2 days is a very very serious thing, and it needs to be brung up almost immediately. This could seriously affect her health. I had a friend who killed himself last month simply because life was to "tough", and it makes me upset having to see or hear people wanting to kill themselves. We here on the website cannot help her since we do not have access to her, so it basically comes down to you. Please do not hold back! :( :(

[BrandonA]

You should comfort her.

[tubanic]

She needs support, and as her parents aren't giving it, it's up to you to find her some. Encourage her to see a doctor or psychologist. She isn't alone, and she can recover. Tell her how important she is to you and how worried you are. Make it clear that people care