Is this weird?

[sambeans]

Ok so my BF just announced to me the other day that he would be ok with me seeing other guys. HAs anyones BF ever said this? I was speechless to say the least.

[candi]

He tryin to tell you he datin other girls

[sambeans]

well, I asked him that and he says no but he says he wants me to have fun. He has a strict home life and isnt allowed out much so maybe thats it? He still wants me to date him as well.

[sophiaLockhart]

he's cheating, that's the only way a guy would let his girl sleep with other men,
i've had bf's in the past and none of them would ever think of saying that unless they were cheating

[sambeans]

He says its because he feels bad he can never do anything with me. His parents are stricter than strict.

[Maria_Lopez]

He tryin to tell you he datin other girls

Unfortunately I have to agree here. Either he is cheating on you. Or he is sort of deciding that he is not so into you anymore and is hoping you'll find a different guy and break up with him so he doesn't have to. I hate to sound harsh but that's my thought. Sorry. :(

[Pensive]

He says its because he feels bad he can never do anything with me. His parents are stricter than strict.

Few issues with this, I've been in a similiar situation myself;

- His strict parents won't allow him to sexually satisfy you, so he is afraid you won't be happy, will cheat on him - and this way at least he has sanctioned it. He'd probably be furious and hurt if you actually did the deed though.

- It might actually be one of his fantasies, why I will NEVER understand. But apparently some people get off that way... Thinking of you doing it to them, but not being able to feel it, sexual tension, etc. Though generally he'd ask to spectate or at least a story.

- He is seeking permission from you, to allow him to so the same. Less likely though.

I experienced all 3 of these reasons, in one relationship, over 2 1/2 yrs. I have all the painful scars. End this relationship is my advice...

[sambeans]

Few issues with this, I've been in a similiar situation myself;

- His strict parents won't allow him to sexually satisfy you, so he is afraid you won't be happy, will cheat on him - and this way at least he has sanctioned it. He'd probably be furious and hurt if you actually did the deed though.

- It might actually be one of his fantasies, why I will NEVER understand. But apparently some people get off that way... Thinking of you doing it to them, but not being able to feel it, sexual tension, etc. Though generally he'd ask to spectate or at least a story.

- He is seeking permission from you, to allow him to so the same. Less likely though.

I experienced all 3 of these reasons, in one relationship, over 2 1/2 yrs. I have all the painful scars. End this relationship is my advice...

I believe its the first reason. We have had issues with me wanting more sexually than he can give. I love him so much though and dont want to see him hurting.

[Sharona]

He tryin to tell you he datin other girls

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He might not be seeing other girls but he wants to, ditch him

Or he wants you in a Gangbang - so ditch him

[Pensive]

Hmm how long have you been dating? And in basic details what have you been up to?

I'm not very well these days... Meant to ask, have you considered taking him up on the offer? Do you have any desire to do anything sexual, be it oral or more, with another guy?

[txtwister13]

i agree with several of the other girls.....he wants to date other girls so he's giving you permission to date other guys so you'll let him date other girls.....i'd talk to him a lil more and find out whats goin on in his mind.

[sambeans]

well, we have been dating for 2 years now and we have had sex but its rushed due to time constraints and its not always satisfying for me. but I do love the closeness yet the satisfaction isnt always there sexually. Other than that I am not even sure if I want to see other guys or not. Oh god, am i an awful person if I actually considered it.

[GigglyAbby]

It appears that either he wants an open relationship -- is involved with someone else -- or interested in someone else. You simply need to ask him why he's trying to break up with you.

I'm sorry but this is not adding up at all. You don't tell your significant other to see other guys nor do you tell them you want them to be happy -- if there are not issues with your relationship.

[sambeans]

he isnt trying to break up with me. He keeps saying"I want you to be happy" but he wants to stay with me and I with him.

[ajp1993]

Right 1st, I know this is a girls only thread. But just wanted to offer my 2cents.

If your bf is saying he'd be ok with you seeing other guys, because he wants you 'to be happy' I think you've got to sit down and talk about your relationship. If when I'm with a girl shes MINE, in that I wouldn't want her going off with other guys. If he doesn't think he can truly make you happy any more, but thinks other guys can, then you need to talk about whether your relationship with him has a future.

[emily-candace]

He wants out. no doubt.

[Mob Boss]

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[Camazotz]

I guess he doesn't want to have an exclusive relationship, but as for why? You need to ask, because this is an odd predicament.

[Pensive]

well, we have been dating for 2 years now and we have had sex but its rushed due to time constraints and its not always satisfying for me. but I do love the closeness yet the satisfaction isnt always there sexually. Other than that I am not even sure if I want to see other guys or not. Oh god, am i an awful person if I actually considered it.

Oral tends to be faster, it has to be said. Sounds like he has insecurity issues, which you aren't helping by delaying your opinion. Perhaps he was hoping you'd say no straight away. Simply fact is - HE DOESN'T WANT YOU TOO!

Are you an awful person? Depends what you considered doing, if you just thought 'would I be interested' then no. If you fantasied or thought through the mechanics on how to make it happen, then perhaps you shouldn't be with him.

The others here aren't being very helpful...

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Not trying to earn brownie points, but you have a cute display pic!

[Altiier]

Sounds like he may be cheating...

[Samual]

You just don't want to admit it. Face it, he's cheating on you, and nothing is going to change that. No matter what he says. You can't always believe what he's telling you.

[ajp1993]

Everyone, stop jumping the gun... He really might NOT be cheating. But there are still questions that need to be answered

[QuantumPhysics]

Girl, It sounds like he be cheating. Ask him. Communication is key. If he is dump him. Or sever conneections for a month or so then start talking

[Josh from SoCal]

Unfortunately I have to agree here. Either he is cheating on you. Or he is sort of deciding that he is not so into you anymore and is hoping you'll find a different guy and break up with him so he doesn't have to. I hate to sound harsh but that's my thought. Sorry. :(

I think Maria is right. From a guy's perspective, if my friend said that to his gf, id tell him he's a coward to try to pawn the responsibility off on her to break up. and whether im with a guy or a girl, id want to keep that person to myself and not "share." if they love me, then they are happy and don't need to seek affection or sex outside of our relationship, they accept the current situation for what it is.

I think he's taking the easy way out and pushing you to do something that will make breaking up seem like your idea.

[Croconaw]

Um... He's definitely cheating and/or he has lost interest in you. :(

[SawyerSauce]

There are many explanations to this statement.

1) Polygamy which is where there are more than two people in a relationship.
2) He really likes you and doesn't want to lose you, but he wants to see what else is out there or he will regret it later in life.
3) He doesn't really like you and wants a more casual relationship.

[FroMan641]

Why not ask him...