"the friend zone"

[indoxyl]

Does anybody else get pissed off when people are like 'OH NO dont be friends with them! Theyll never wanna date you! Youll be FRIEND ZONED :O'
Like for real? Just because youre friends with them it doesnt automatically mean they won't want to date you. In my eyes being friends is the only way to go out with somebody. If some guy i barely knew came up to me and asked me out on a date i would be creeped out and avoid him

And another thing, just because you were nice to the person you want to date, it doesnt mean they HAVE to date you. Like for example when someones like 'aw man i was so nice to her any everything. I was the nicest guy ever and she still doesnt wanna date me this is such bull crap'

Yay rant of the day

Anyway whats your opinion on this

[Miserabilia]

I aggree with you on some points, but here's what i mean with the friendzone:
You really like somone, and try to let them know by getting to know them better etc, but they mistake it for a friendship. maybe it will actulaly get you friends, but you stil don't know if they like you or not. and when you finally tell them you like them, there is a chance she doesn't and the friendship is ruined

[Harley Quinn]

People always complain about being friend zoned, but what if genuinely someone wants to be friends. They like your company and all that lovely stuff but they don't want to date you, why would you get pissy about that. They clearly want you in your life so why people always go overboard with the whole 'damn I got friend zoned' shit, pisses me right off. Plus it seems that guys are the only ones that feel like they get friend zoned, yet girls also get friend zoned. I don't understand why there is a double standard. People are so used to calling it the friend zone when realistically, it doesn't always need to be called that. I don't even know if I'm making any sense, oh well.

[indoxyl]

As far as im concerned that made perfect sense haha. Im just so tired of people on this forum telling people not to become friends with someone they want to date because they might get "friendzoned" like forreal you don't know that. That is the worst advice i have ever heard in my life.

[MoonMan]

The term friendzone is often misused by males who are often too shy to truly reveal any feelings, so they simply blame the girl for not taking the oh so-subtle signs they give them and jumping on their dicks right away. This is a false, cop out use of the term they use instead of taking responsibility for their shortcomings. With that being said, the friendzone is still very real. If you honestly REVEAL (not hint with signs that can be misinterpreted) your feelings for someone whom you've been trying to get close to in order to date them and they simply shrug it off as "they just want to be friends", you are now in the friendzone. Is it always a bad fate that should discourage you from starting a friendship with anyone of the opposite sex? Certainly not. But it still hurts knowing someone doesn't/will never reciprocate your feelings in the same way, no matter how accepting of it you are. I agree with your point that you should at least attempt to become friends with someone, in order to grow closer to them and get to know them, before dating them. I can't really see how you could go about it in another way. No one with a brain has ever said females are any less susceptible to being friendzoned, males are simply more vocal about it.