how does this work

[tundravortex]

ok I got into a few fights this year and my gf dosnt like me fighting because I use every thing even if it illegal and i know how double my weight in a fight and when I hit its hard and so a few days before school ended I got into one more fight and I ended up fighting this guy because he smaked my gf and i went into a bloodlust mode because I ended up smashing the dudes face into a locker and causing blood to go everywhere....and that pissed me off when he was smaking the shit out of her so that pissed me off big time so we faught until the cops at my school came and they let me go because they wernt surprised it was"him" who I faught but anyway my gf dosnt like me fighting...even if it for her safty because she knows when I get going it I go into a rage state to the point where "I don't care ill take you all on" feeling and wont give a shit who it is....but anyway how can I get her to trust me when I fight even if it for her safty she cant trust me so how can I get her to trust me...please try to give your best answer and sorry for the long paraghraph



mods-sorry for going into to story but its kinda hard to explain in three words

[HollisterGirl98]

Lol I wouldn't like it if all my bf did was fight people. I'm not sure how you can talk to her about that :(

[tundravortex]

Lol I wouldn't like it if all my bf did was fight people. I'm not sure how you can talk to her about that :(

trust me im not a fighter but half of it is all the crap I get from those people

[HollisterGirl98]

I understand that you're defending your gf

[tundravortex]

I understand that you're defending your gf

that's the sad part she dosnt trust me

[MoonMan]

One of these days you'll run into the wrong person. No this doesn't mean someone who's "tougher" or can fight better, it can be as simple as him having a knife, or a gun, or a group of friends to help, or a blunt object within grasp etc to fuck everything up. And then what? It's not worth it, nor will it ever be. This kind of thinking where you don't care who they are and you'll fight anyone is the kind of mentality that starts wars and other violent conflicts. It leads nowhere but backwards and your girlfriend seems to see it that way as well. Fighting is a weakness if you ask me, to lose control and resort to violence is way too fucking easy to be associated with any kind of chivalry or mental toughness. Of course there are exceptions where you have to defend yourself or your girlfriend, but excessively slamming someone's head into a locker until he bleeds is anything but admirable. You're a human being, not a wild animal protecting his territory. Try learning some self control, if not for yourself, then for her. Otherwise, I can only see the current path you're on as a bad one.

[Stronk Serb]

What if you run into someone with a knife? I guess you can handle him, seeing how you beat the life out of people when you are pissed, but what if you run into some asshole who is in the gangs and/or has a gun?

[Harry Smith]

You don't have any right to assault someone because they assaulted your girlfriend, that's not how justice work. Your girlfriend is probably worried that this anger and violence could transfer onto her

[tundravortex]

One of these days you'll run into the wrong person. No this doesn't mean someone who's "tougher" or can fight better, it can be as simple as him having a knife, or a gun, or a group of friends to help, or a blunt object within grasp etc to fuck everything up. And then what? It's not worth it, nor will it ever be. This kind of thinking where you don't care who they are and you'll fight anyone is the kind of mentality that starts wars and other violent conflicts. It leads nowhere but backwards and your girlfriend seems to see it that way as well. Fighting is a weakness if you ask me, to lose control and resort to violence is way too fucking easy to be associated with any kind of chivalry or mental toughness. Of course there are exceptions where you have to defend yourself or your girlfriend, but excessively slamming someone's head into a locker until he bleeds is anything but admirable. You're a human being, not a wild animal protecting his territory. Try learning some self control, if not for yourself, then for her. Otherwise, I can only see the current path you're on as a bad one.

well to tell you the truth I live in one of the most badest spots of the city and when it comes to fighting to keep something safe you really do fight like you an animal...besides theres gang warfare still going on and theres a lot of violence going on so pretty much we are kinda fighting for our territory

[Lovelife090994]

Try to control your violence and testosterone fueled fury. Even if someone assaulted your girlfriend when you assault them physically and severely hurt them, the judge looks to you not them, because, you have now caused another person bodily harm whether or not they touched your girlfriend first in the first place.

Do not be so quick to fight, someone one day may try and end your life with how crazy this world is. Your girlfriend sounds worried about the violence of it all. I wish I can help but since I've never had a girlfriend myself; Who am I to judge and say what you could do?

[MoonMan]

well to tell you the truth I live in one of the most badest spots of the city and when it comes to fighting to keep something safe you really do fight like you an animal...besides theres gang warfare still going on and theres a lot of violence going on so pretty much we are kinda fighting for our territory

You call it gang warfare for a reason, there is no "territory." Unless the guys are out on your front lawn then, frankly, you shouldn't give a fuck about them. I live in a bad spot as well, poor neighborhood and lots of gangs running around, and I see violence all the time. It always plays out in a similar fashion, all of this talk about territory and fighting sparks up some guy who's willing to pull out a gun and there you go. A fucking domino effect, a vicious cycle that doesn't seem to end. You're not keeping anyone safe by slamming a guy's head into a locker, all you've done is escalate things into a whole other level. There are other ways of defending whats your's without humiliating/really hurting someone. Violence has yet to keep anyone safe, and any safety obtained by violence is a temporary illusion with unseen consequences. You want a source? Just look anytime in the history of human beings. Violence only spawns more violence and, according to your logic, that kid should come back looking for revenge to reclaim his "territory." Aaand... the cycle continues.

[tundravortex]

wont be the last time he comes back for someone ahh besides the naborhood chases him out

[MoonMan]

wont be the last time he comes back for someone ahh besides the naborhood chases him out

Again, you are depending on a changeable factor. This time it happened to be someone who you were able to beat and someone who is unlikely to return thanks to your neighborhood. This won't always be the case, like I said before, you'll run into the wrong person one of these days. Maybe it's what you need at this point because you seem to think violence is a reliable way to solve problems. The more you fight and look for fights, the more the likely you'll come across that wrong person. You may say you're not afraid of anybody, but maybe you just haven't met the right person to give you a reason to be scared yet. It's not being a bitch to avoid physical altercations you deem unnecessary, it's called being smart. It's one of the ways humans have become on top of the food chain, if it weren't for our ability to solve problems in ways other than physical dominance, we would just be prey for some other larger predator. Now ask yourself, are you a human being or an animal? Are you just going to fight everyone that gives you shit until that larger predator inevitably comes by, or will you think of other ways to solve your problems? Your choice at this point.

[HollisterGirl98]

You don't have any right to assault someone because they assaulted your girlfriend, that's not how justice work. Your girlfriend is probably worried that this anger and violence could transfer onto her

This is soo true!!! I know I would feel the same away about my bf if he did this. I would think differently of him and it wouldn't be in a positive way

[Cooper197]

There is a difference between protecting and just attacking in revenge, this sounds much more like the second, and like you are lucky to not have legal issues. I know around where I live that would end in handcuffs, the back seat of a police car, and some court dates.

I'm protective of my girl, in the way that I'm not going to let anything happen to her as long as I can stop it, but I would never do this, and she'd kill/leave me if I did. For sure.

[Taryn98]

Sounds to me like you need some anger management classes. I understand that sometimes fights happen and you can't escape them all, it's not really healthy to be doing it all the time and almost be seeking them out.

Also, not to be critical, but it would be nice if you used some punctuation in your posts. It's difficult to read long drawn out thoughts.

[tundravortex]

Sounds to me like you need some anger management classes. I understand that sometimes fights happen and you can't escape them all, it's not really healthy to be doing it all the time and almost be seeking them out.

Also, not to be critical, but it would be nice if you used some punctuation in your posts. It's difficult to read long drawn out thoughts.

its not anger management it more.....well shit I don't know what you call it and im not a writer so I don't bother with the little things

[COD MASTER]

i have an answer, say this i will not hurt you but i will hurt people who hurt you like that guy

[GigglyAbby]

I think you really need to deal with this aggression and rage with a therapist before you end up losing her. Once there's progress -- maybe you both could meet with the therapist together.

[Synyster Shadows]

Maybe give a cold hard stare, cuss him out and remind him what would happen eventually. It's what I do, though it's never gone that far for me. They'd break me in half. I don't know if it'll work for you, but hey, it might. Just try it out.