Bullied girl bullies me??

[Snookers]

Soo.... I don't really know if I should post this in here, but oh well.

Here goes nothing.

I was never bullied in my entire life. Sometimes kids made fun of me form childish reasons, but I always fought back and it really didn't affect me.

But now, in my first year of high school, I have noticed that I have a rather "different" classmate. She had lots of scars on her arms. But she was weird. You'd expect these type of people to be more shy, but she was different.
She seems to be very childish, obnoxious and takes pride in some things that aren't exactly appropriate (e.g. being a satanist, having scars, being "weird").
She claims that her father and mother reject her and that her father sometimes verbally abuses her and her mother. I am not sure if this is true or she is just saying that because her parents are very religious and don't exactly have a good financial situation, and forbid her form many things.

So, seeing and hearing what she is going trough I thought it may be a good idea to try and befriend her. At that time I was a rock/metal fan so we kinda had some things in common, I also acted a bit childish so we were silly toghether.
We talked about bands and music, but when I started to pass my "rocker stage" and became more mature, we didn't had many things to discuss, but we still were friends.
She became friends with other classmates and hanged out with them. When I was around she sometimes started making fun of me. She would always scream out loud things like "hey your skin color is weird" or "lol you have a funny nose".
*sigh*

I. Cannot. Fucking. Stand. People. Who. Make. Fun. Of. Me.
I get VERY OFFENDED when someone says something about my looks.

When someone says something rude about me, I either fight back or make them look like children. But this thing. What should I do?
I'd feel pretty bad to talk back to a girl who is...like that.


* I thought about letting myself go. If you're being an asshole to someone you deserve to be treated like one. I don't care if she cuts herself, is sometimes in depression. Just because you have been bullied or abused, that doesn't give you the right to abuse other people just to feel good about yourself. I am really tired of her childish reactions and one day I swear I'm going to pop, and tell everything I think about her to her face.*

I need your guys opinion on this. What should I do? Should I act as I think it is right or just let it pass away?


o Another thing: When she makes fun of someone she doesn't really say it in a mean way. She is something like: " Lol, your tan look soooo orange, you look like the annoying orange, lol. I was kidding, lol." ~ and she fucking yells that out loud.
Even if she doesn't see it as something offensive I really, and I feel bullied.

[Miserabilia]

I know a lol of people like that, and to be honest im a bit like that too sometimes.
I think its just a way she is, and shes notdoing it to harm you. She does sound a bit "weird' and attention seeking but I cant judge her just by your post ofcourse.
Maybe just try to see what happens when YOU say something bad about her. If she laughs ( in a good way ) you know shes just doing it for fun, and maybe even for bonding ( i know my friends always call each other names andstuff but its for bonding actually friendship etc.. )

[Mob Boss]

No. Just because she has/is having issues does not give her anymore of a right than the next person to bully anyone. Bullying is pathetic. I understand feeling sympathetic because she has scars, depression, bad life at home, etc., but you should stand up for yourself as you've always done. Because she has a sad back story is no exception. People change and maybe she struggled with you changing. Don't take anything she says to heart - as difficult as that may be - because it's just immaturity. Her words shouldn't be getting you down. Since bullies never seem to engage in civil conversations, tell her to stop. Also pretend what she is saying doesn't faze you. Bullies don't take confrontation too well. And once she thinks her words are no longer affecting you she'll, unfortunately, move on to someone else. Bullies usually put others down to make themselves feel better so even though it might dampen your pride, let her know if she ever needs to talk you're there for her. Good luck, and don't let her mean words get to you. You're a great person.

[CharlieHorse]

No. Just because she has/is having issues does not give her anymore of a right than the next person to bully anyone. Bullying is pathetic. I understand feeling sympathetic because she has scars, depression, bad life at home, etc., but you should stand up for yourself as you've always done. Because she has a sad back story is no exception. People change and maybe she struggled with you changing. Don't take anything she says to heart - as difficult as that may be - because it's just immaturity. Her words shouldn't be getting you down. Since bullies never seem to engage in civil conversations, tell her to stop. Also pretend what she is saying doesn't faze you. Bullies don't take confrontation too well. And once she thinks her words are no longer affecting you she'll, unfortunately, move on to someone else. Bullies usually put others down to make themselves feel better so even though it might dampen your pride, let her know if she ever needs to talk you're there for her. Good luck, and don't let her mean words get to you. You're a great person.

I second this. Very well written Bridge :)

[PinkFloyd]

Seriously, how could she make fun of your looks? I'm just saying because it doesn't look like there's anything that looks teasable about you. Was that a word? "Teasable?" Okay, well anyway, what I think you should do, is stand up for yourself. if she keeps joking at you like that, tell her that it's not funny, nd that she's hurting your feelings. If she makes fun of you even more, I would confront her by telling her everything you told us.

[MoonMan]

I think the term bullying is misused here. Is she doing it persistently, almost daily, to the point of you feeling harassed? Judging from her playful tone, it sounds more like she's just teasing you now and again, and she doesn't really know how much it bothers you. I'm sure if you told her sincerely how much it bothers you and that you want her to stop, then she will more than likely stop. If she continues to make fun of you like that even after you asked her to stop, however, then bullying might be an issue. Her background gives her no right to hurt people's feelings, regardless of where she comes from.

[gotstyle]

Not being mean but if I was you I would say shut the hell up and end urself do us all a favor and die or say u should have been the load ur mom swallowed. And yes I'm a db to people that deserve it

[MoonMan]

Not being mean but if I was you I would say shut the hell up and end urself do us all a favor and die or say u should have been the load ur mom swallowed. And yes I'm a db to people that deserve it

That would do nothing but end in even more hurt feelings and unnecessarily escalate things. Not the greatest urge to have when it comes to these sort of things, to be honest.

[LouBerry]

Soo.... I don't really know if I should post this in here, but oh well.

Here goes nothing.

I was never bullied in my entire life. Sometimes kids made fun of me form childish reasons, but I always fought back and it really didn't affect me.

But now, in my first year of high school, I have noticed that I have a rather "different" classmate. She had lots of scars on her arms. But she was weird. You'd expect these type of people to be more shy, but she was different.
She seems to be very childish, obnoxious and takes pride in some things that aren't exactly appropriate (e.g. being a satanist, having scars, being "weird").
She claims that her father and mother reject her and that her father sometimes verbally abuses her and her mother. I am not sure if this is true or she is just saying that because her parents are very religious and don't exactly have a good financial situation, and forbid her form many things.

So, seeing and hearing what she is going trough I thought it may be a good idea to try and befriend her. At that time I was a rock/metal fan so we kinda had some things in common, I also acted a bit childish so we were silly toghether.
We talked about bands and music, but when I started to pass my "rocker stage" and became more mature, we didn't had many things to discuss, but we still were friends.
She became friends with other classmates and hanged out with them. When I was around she sometimes started making fun of me. She would always scream out loud things like "hey your skin color is weird" or "lol you have a funny nose".
*sigh*

I. Cannot. Fucking. Stand. People. Who. Make. Fun. Of. Me.
I get VERY OFFENDED when someone says something about my looks.

When someone says something rude about me, I either fight back or make them look like children. But this thing. What should I do?
I'd feel pretty bad to talk back to a girl who is...like that.


* I thought about letting myself go. If you're being an asshole to someone you deserve to be treated like one. I don't care if she cuts herself, is sometimes in depression. Just because you have been bullied or abused, that doesn't give you the right to abuse other people just to feel good about yourself. I am really tired of her childish reactions and one day I swear I'm going to pop, and tell everything I think about her to her face.*

I need your guys opinion on this. What should I do? Should I act as I think it is right or just let it pass away?


o Another thing: When she makes fun of someone she doesn't really say it in a mean way. She is something like: " Lol, your tan look soooo orange, you look like the annoying orange, lol. I was kidding, lol." ~ and she fucking yells that out loud.
Even if she doesn't see it as something offensive I really, and I feel bullied.




Well, there's a possibility that your friend doesn't know that she is being rude. My best friend does things like that, teases me about things, and she wouldn't try to hurt my feelings in a million years, she just doesn't know it's wrong.

You need to confront the girl before you do anything rash, tell her that the things she says upset you, and if she doesn't take you seriously, or doesn't care, just walk away. You don't have to be her friend.

You don't have to resort to violence, or arguments, or anything negative, just tell yourself that you don't have to deal with that and leave.

[Snookers]

I think the term bullying is misused here. Is she doing it persistently, almost daily, to the point of you feeling harassed? Judging from her playful tone, it sounds more like she's just teasing you now and again, and she doesn't really know how much it bothers you. I'm sure if you told her sincerely how much it bothers you and that you want her to stop, then she will more than likely stop. If she continues to make fun of you like that even after you asked her to stop, however, then bullying might be an issue. Her background gives her no right to hurt people's feelings, regardless of where she comes from.

Well, to many people bullying has different means. Bullying manifests differently, depending on the person who is bullying and the one who is bullied.
I know that to some people think that my situation may not fell under the bullying category. But, what does bullying mean? It means to offend someone, to vex them, to make them feel unhappy/unwanted.
Even though it may not seem to be serious, to me it is. The "teasing" and all that childish stuff she does to me is very unpleasant. To make matters worse, she does that in front of everyone, and I, personally, really feel bullied. :/
She does it almost every time I speak to her, but not persistently. She is like the weather. Sometimes she is friendly and really ok, other times she is just a brat.


Not being mean but if I was you I would say shut the hell up and end urself do us all a favor and die or say u should have been the load ur mom swallowed. And yes I'm a db to people that deserve it


I can't really do that. Even though she teases me and all that we are not enemies. We are casual friends. We speak to each other from time to time. And when we are alone she is not that obnoxious.




Thanks to all of you who have responded, I really appreciate it. <3 I'm going to talk to her and straighten things up, if she continues, I'll eventually break every bond with her and tell her to go fuck herself. :D

[Twilly F. Sniper]

Either teasing or, possibly, the girli bullying you because of the "that's what the popular kids do" bandwagon.