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hamanquasar
June 11th, 2013, 02:32 PM
First off, hi for comming here to read and hopefully to help me come to some sort of decision. I guess I'll start by telling you some background information. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about two months, and it's great it really is, shes beautiful, funny and just overall one of the nicest girls ive ever met. That being said though, we are severely lacking on the communication side. She doesn't have a cellphone and I've brought it up to her before because we rarely ever talk but it just seems like its gone unnoticed and with each passing day I feel like I know her less and less. I almost feel like I'm putting in all the effort.
Now that being said, a few weeks ago a friend and I started talking really, for the first time and getting to know eachother. She's been going through the same thing with her boyfriend and they're breaking up because of a lack of communication. But I've been talking to this girl for a long time, almost everyday and we never run out of things to say. I also kind of have feelings for her too because she too is just beautiful and shes down to earth and smart. She is leaving to go travel Europe abroad for a month for her friend in France soon, and we were discussing that when she gets back, and if things don't work out between my girlfriend and I we should try us out.
I guess what I want advice on is what, if anything, can I do to better my communication with my girlfriend as well as maybe moving on to the new girl.

Melodic
June 11th, 2013, 04:18 PM
Relationships can have miscommunication. If it's the right relationship, you can work hard at it and make it work. If you honesty are considering the other girl more, then I'd say break up with the first one. You don't want a relationship where you are unhappy or thinking about someone else before you sleep. One unhappy person can ruin the relationship.

nice
June 12th, 2013, 02:47 PM
If to cant make it work just end it my friend just broke up with her boyfriend over communication problems and she really loved him. Just tell her that you need to fix the communication and if she wants to try again you guys can when she has the time for a boyfriend.

Miri
June 13th, 2013, 04:28 PM
Honestly. This is one of the most ridiculous problems, in my opinion.
Before cellphones and the like, people communicated by actually spending time with each other. I actually admire her for not giving into social pressure and going out an getting a cellphone, and that seriously shouldn't be a problem.

That being said, if can't find time for you, she's clearly not ready for a committed relationship with you, and it's obviously upsetting you that you aren't getting the time of day, which is also not good.

Don't break up with her to go out with someone else. That's being a jerk. Also, don't make plans behind her back to go out with someone else if it doesn't work out for you. That's also being a jerk. Lastly, don't cheat on her if you guys are technically still together. That'll get you a bad reputation amongst the ladies.

Set a date with her, and tell her that you don't feel like you're spending enough time together. Maybe she'll have a good reason for it, maybe she won't. If you feel like ending the relationship is the best thing, don't make the reason about some other girl, and seriously don't tell her that there's anyone else, but break up with her for your own reasons.