I don’t think I’ll ever get a girlfriend

[clueless_one]

I just don’t understand why girls only like me as friends. I can only tell a girl I like them and then wait until I am comfortable to ask them out. But by the time I tell the girls I like them, it seems that they get scared of me and don’t like me more than friends any more and I risk the friendship ending which I don’t want.

People say wait until you get to know a girl before asking them out, if I do that, I ask the girl out and it is too late, they either have another boyfriend or they have lost interest and risk the relationship ending. If I just ask the girl out without getting to know them, I risk them running away from me and losing a good friend.

Just recently I told a girl I liked her, she looked away on her opposite side so I couldn’t see her face (hiding her reaction). She didn’t talk to me after but was standing close to me (not really close). Before this she was asking me for my calculator and other writing equipment.

So I’m not sure if I’ve done the wrong thing. Do you think she still likes me from what happened? What am I going to actually do to enter a relationship in the future? What can I do to enter a relationship with the girl I currently like?

BTW: She wants to become a DJ, do you have any advice for me with this too.

[Ryhanna]

You will, eventually.

You just have to realise that some girl's just won't like you in that way. There's really not much you can do to 'make' them. Sometimes people struggle to find relationships, but that's okay. When it's mean to happen, it'll feel really natural.

[clueless_one]

You will, eventually.

You just have to realise that some girl's just won't like you in that way. There's really not much you can do to 'make' them. Sometimes people struggle to find relationships, but that's okay. When it's mean to happen, it'll feel really natural.

Just recently I told a girl I liked her, she looked away on her opposite side so I couldn’t see her face (hiding her reaction). She didn’t talk to me after but was standing close to me (not really close). Before this she was asking me for my calculator and other writing equipment.

She also wants to become a DJ, is there any advice you can give me?
Does she actually like me back?

[Ryhanna]

Just recently I told a girl I liked her, she looked away on her opposite side so I couldn’t see her face (hiding her reaction). She didn’t talk to me after but was standing close to me (not really close). Before this she was asking me for my calculator and other writing equipment.

She also wants to become a DJ, is there any advice you can give me?
Does she actually like me back?

I'm not sure. If she didn't talk to you after, it may be a sign that she wasn't sure how to let you down. I feel that if she liked you, she probably would have told you. Don't assume that I'm right though, after all, I only know what you've told me.

As for the DJ-ing.. I don't have any advice. I'm not sure what you're looking for with that?

[indoxyl]

I'm being completely honest here but maybe she was just asking you for a calculator and what not because she actually needed it and you're one of her good friends?

[Miserabilia]

Seems like your just getting friendzoned all the time. Maybe, instead of becoming friends with them first, send them signals you like them from the start, and don't treat them as friends.

[Miri]

My advice:

When you tell a girl you like her, give some meaning to it. Take the initiative. Don't be that guy who has to wait until she starts a conversation with you, especially if she's just asking you for a calculator.
Also, girls don't really like that sad, "no one will ever love me" attitude.

About the DJ thing, that just gives you a great opportunity to ask her about what kind of music she likes. If you see her with headphones in, you can go up and ask her for something like a pencil, and then be all like "hey! what are you listening to?"
Boom. Perfect conversation starter.

Do get to be her friend before telling her you like her, don't just go up to her in class, especially if you don't really know her, and just randomly tell her you like her.

[indoxyl]

I'm going to go ahead and assume that youre about 14? this is ridiculous. just because you dont have a girlfriend right now doesn't mean you won't have one in the future. Seriously youre still so young. Stop expecting a relationship to just fall in your lap.