Thoughts on Masturbation

[MrBlueSky]

Do you think masturbation should be a more open topic (outside of anonymous things)? Like should people be free to say "I'm going to the bathroom to masturbate", have it just be an accepted private thing or completely open and somewhat voyeuristic?

[tundravortex]

I wouldn't do that...just imagine the torture you would get from that

[Gopher]

i joke around with my friends about it, ive got one friend who is 100% straight that wil tell me whenever we are talking late that he will "brb have to cum" , its always kind funny lol. i think it shouldn't be so taboo to talk about but i wouldn't go as far as tell everyone when im doing it.

[GigglyAbby]

It's a personal and private matter that no one needs to know unless you want to share it with someone you're intimate with.

[jacktheawesome]

It's a personal and private matter that no one needs to know unless you want to share it with someone you're intimate with.

Yes true

[LuisFer]

I think your sexuality should stay private

[Jevon]

I think it should stay private but I could understand there being a couple people you are open to about it

[Hermes]

It is interesting to look at ths from a couple of different angles. Firstly masturbation (or at least some for of sexual release) as a normal bodily function as hinted at by the suggestion:

Like should people be free to say "I'm going to the bathroom to masturbate"

Assuming the company was suitable, i.e. not among young children who then start asking awkward questions, I'd be ok if someone said that. How many other people would feel that way I don't know.

There are a couple of differences between masturbation and the other bodily functions in this respect. Firstly there is the urgency. If one needs to urinate or defacate there is a physical consequence of not doing so in a timely manner and whatever company you are with they would obviously prefer that you took time out to do what is necessary in private rather than make a mess in public. The same is not true of sexual release. Sure there can be the effect that if you hold on you become increasingly horny and less able to concentrate on normal things but there is an expectation that you can choose your moment to coincide with privacy.

The second relates to young children. Young children are already familiar with the other bodily functions and are therefore less likely to be puzzled or start asking awkward questions when someone says he is going to the toilet than if he was to say he is going to masturbate.

The other way to examine this is as a fun activity. If you are with some friends you may well talk about playing football, shooting hoops, the latest computer game or going rock climbing so what is special about masturbation as a fun activity that one should not talk about it? I think among the right group of people, i.e. those old enough to be interested in and reasonably comfortable with each other it's fine to talk about.

[Jamesison]

I dont ever really talk about it. I think its a privite thing.

[Steven1]

I dont think so, no. Because it should be a private topic and nobody needs to know about it. Also, it would be inappropriate in case there are children around or that could here it.

[anyone50]

Isn't it already pretty open and public I don't think most young people have a problem with admitting they do it. As for being open and voyeuristic about it I think there is a time and place for everything and masturbating in full view of others would cause problems.

[Blablabla36489]

It is totally private,only with friends you can do it.

[Pitsirikos]

I believe that such things have to be kept in privacy and if you catch someone say sorry and give him/her privacy needed to finish

[DDAx]

I wouldn't do that...just imagine the torture you would get from that

I think that's what he meant, as in, would there ever be any liberating way to say; 'i'm gonna masturbate, give me a few mins.' without any torture.. But still the privacy needed. Seeing as though 95% of us masturbate... we would all respect it

[pjones]

i wouldn't tell people i'm about to masturbate. but i do talk about it with my friends. if one of us had a really good session we tell each other. we also compare techniques cause the usual method can get kind of boring.

[Luminous]

I'm not sure. I don't really know any other teens to talk about it with. I don't think I would tell though it is a pretty private thing.