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TaylrJ
June 9th, 2013, 06:02 PM
I am friends with these two boys on facebook.. I am not ACTUALLY friends with them. I just know that one is my age, about to turn 15, and the other is 17, and he goes to my school. Another thing I know is that they are both bi. It all started awhile back, they were making cute statuses about each other, and kinda flirting, ya know? But anyways, after awhile of doing it they finally announced in a status that they were gay together and that they were both bi. It was kinda expected but still, people showed a lot of support, said that they were there for them, etc.

When the 17 year old came out, he was probably accepted the most. Everybody kinda knew already so it wasn't a big surprise, therefore he didn't get much hate, not even from his family.. But the 14 year old came out and his family (parents to be exact), were pissed. First, they tried to press charges against the 17 year old for being too old.. Another thing is what his dad said to him, "He doesn't think of him as a son anymore", and both parents disowned him, sent him to Florida, and they're not going to let him come back. He has no form of communication anymore, no cellphone service, and they deleted his facebook.

It's just every time I go on facebook it's soo sad, I see the statuses, what the 17 year old posts. About how he doesn't understand after 6 years of being miserable and finally finding someone that he loved, was taken away. And I want to help SO BAD. It's terrible.

I guess I can relate to them both because I am their age (15), and a guy that's bi.. I am not out, nor is it obvious. But last year I fell in love with a boy and he moved schools right as I was becoming friends with him. It was the worst time of my life. So I want to help.. But should I? What should I do? I barely know them both, wouldn't it be awkward? What would you do? Thanks..

Pierce
June 9th, 2013, 06:12 PM
If you're already Facebook friends with him and he's making his grief public, I don't think it would be weird at all for you to reach out and aid him. I don't express emotions well so its up to you on how you will help him or what you will say, but I think you definitely should help him. Again I really don't think it'll be awkward, maybe you could say something like "I saw what happened with you and <Insert other boy's name>, stay strong", or even more if you want to go the extra mile. It's good that you want to help him. If you're ready you can come out, I'm sure that would help but only if you're ready. Best of Luck!

TaylrJ
June 9th, 2013, 06:35 PM
If you're already Facebook friends with him and he's making his grief public, I don't think it would be weird at all for you to reach out and aid him. I don't express emotions well so its up to you on how you will help him or what you will say, but I think you definitely should help him. Again I really don't think it'll be awkward, maybe you could say something like "I saw what happened with you and <Insert other boy's name>, stay strong", or even more if you want to go the extra mile. It's good that you want to help him. If you're ready you can come out, I'm sure that would help but only if you're ready. Best of Luck!

Thanks you! I will probably end up messaging him, it REALLY feels like something I should do, I should have done it with the 14 year old though, while I had a chance. But too bad that probably won't happen (I have a crush on him anyways, ughhhh).. But anyways I will also most likely come out, ONLY to him though, just to let him know and everything that I have been there.