long distance relationships

[indoxyl]

i noticed thqt nobody has brought up the subject of long distance relationships. i was wondering what your opinion on them was? if you've ever been in one? would you ever think about being in one?

[scott757]

Unless they were someone REALLY special then no I wouldn't - I prefer to be able to meet up with people and go out on dates and stuff like that. I know friends who have in the past and barring one, it usually does not end well....

[hipster101]

I think they can work....if the two people are right for one another. My gf and I are going to try for a ld relationship...we were going out in person...it's a new adventure...but it more often than not leads down the path of destruction.

[HollisterGirl98]

I would never wanna be in one. I think to have a strong relationship, two people have to be able to physically be with each other

[indoxyl]

certainly some interesting opinions
I was in a long distance relationship for a year. i met this guy in forums from a different site and we clicked. we skyped, text and called ech other all the time. we sent each other gifts and it was great. in the end personal problems came about and we broek up. fortunately it wasnt the distance that separated us. idk. i think they can work sometimes

[HollisterGirl98]

certainly some interesting opinions
I was in a long distance relationship for a year. i met this guy in forums from a different site and we clicked. we skyped, text and called ech other all the time. we sent each other gifts and it was great. in the end personal problems came about and we broek up. fortunately it wasnt the distance that separated us. idk. i think they can work sometimes

It's always possible :D. I would always want to meet the person I have an online relationship with though, but that's me

[LouBerry]

I've seen/heard of them working, but I don't think that it would for me, not at the age I am now. I need to be cuddled and held, I wouldn't have been able to handle it.

[unnamed94]

i dont think they can work unless one visits the other frequently. relationships also have a phyisical side that simply doesnt exist in long distance relationships. i have a friend who is currently in one and says he is happy about it even if most of his friends think it wont work out, in the end if it makes you happy who cares about what other people think about

[Cooper197]

It's not fun, but if they matter to you you'll make it happen. My girlfriend moved 200 miles away after we had been dating for about 6 months. 18 months later, we're still dating, she still lives there, but she does come stay at my house a lot. Honestly I think that between the right people, who are willing to make it work, you can build a much stronger relationship. I know we cherish the moments we have with each other now much more than we did when it was just a few minutes and we could see each other. The more frequent you can see the other person, the easier it is. I know we've had periods of 6-7 weeks where we just can't make it one way or the other, it's rough, but oh so worth it!

[Maria_Lopez]

It's not fun, but if they matter to you you'll make it happen. My girlfriend moved 200 miles away after we had been dating for about 6 months

you hit one one put that I think is extremely important. You had already been together for six months. I think that if you have a very solid actual relationship and then for some reason like graduating and moving schools or parents moving for work or something you end up in a distance relationship it can work. But I also feel that to work there has to be a plan or timeline for when it will end. It can't remain a distance relationship forever. As others have said a relationship has a physical element to it. Just my opinion.

[Cooper197]

you hit one one put that I think is extremely important. You had already been together for six months. I think that if you have a very solid actual relationship and then for some reason like graduating and moving schools or parents moving for work or something you end up in a distance relationship it can work. But I also feel that to work there has to be a plan or timeline for when it will end. It can't remain a distance relationship forever. As others have said a relationship has a physical element to it. Just my opinion.

Exactly. You have to have a base to start from, and an end date does seem like it would be important...but at this point it's still beyond our control. But hey, if it's meant to be things will all work out.

[workingatperfect]

I think they can work if you both really want it to and can handle it, and are actually, truly in love. It's not easy, I know from experience. I've been dating my LD boyfriend for just over 9 months now, and it's going great, but we do have a lot of time for each other to skype and talk and stuff, which makes it easier. And we still manage to have a more intimate side to our relationship, even if there's no real sex or cuddling or anything. I never would've wanted a long distance relationship, but we just clicked and really couldn't avoid our feelings for each other, and I'm really glad we took that leap because now I know I could wait for him, I certainly wouldn't want anyone else.

[Origami]

I don't venture out to H&A much anymore these days, but...

I believe wholeheartedly the LDRs can work. I have been witness to three of them work within my lifetime. All three couples are, at this time, happily married and two have children now.

The thing about an LDR is that it isn't for everyone. Distance is a horrible attribute to throw into any relationship. It breeds distrust and other anxieties that can accumulate and essentially destroy and LDR just as easily as it would a regular relationship. But the fact is, human emotion can not be constrained by physical matters such as distance and if two people truly feel they want to be together and actively pursue it, then yes, they're entirely possible and worth the fight. The old saying goes, "absence makes the heart grow fonder." If absence is all you know that saying can be multiplied exponentially.

I have been in an LDR before, when I was younger. It was a mess, truthfully. I don't believe either of us were ready for that kind of commitment. Ironically, I'm in one now as well and am actively pursuing it with my partner. We have plans to meet later this year despite the fact that it involves my going overseas.

And as said above, mediums such as Skype make managing an LDR a little bit more bearable. Well, a lot more bearable actually. Whether it be from talking, watching movies together, sending cutesy pictures from Tumblr back and forth, or just "being there" with one another.

[Abyssal Echo]

They tell me that LDR can work but, I've been in 2 LDR it didn't work for us.
I'm in a local LDR now its really not going to well. I wont tell you not to try it But, from my experience they don't work.

[Unique Physique]

I was in a LDR with someone in New Jersey USA (I live in England) when I was 15. Under weird circumstances. It only lasted about 3 months or so, we never met but I enjoyed it while it lasted, but for serious, more grown up relationships I don't honestly think they're viable and I don't know anyone who's been in an LDR that lasted any more than 2 years. They usually end up in frustration and tears.

Of course, trying to tell someone this in an LDR, or who is about to enter one usually falls upon deaf ears...

[badthoughts]

I was in a LDR with someone in New Jersey USA (I live in England)...It only lasted about 3 months or so, we never met

I don't understand how that could be a relationship; it sounds more like a pen pal. Please don't think that I'm discrediting your feelings for that person because I'm not. I just think we may have differing ideas about what constitutes a relationship.

[Piachu]

Well I have a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. He lives all the way over in Australia, but we still have a great relationship. He's sent me a gift, and I'm planning to send him one back. We skype a lot and he's planning to visit me in Norway next year. Honestly the physical things aren't as important to me as having a great boyfriend like mine. :) Long distance relationships work if you want them to.

[Miri]

They can work out quite nicely of both parties are loyal and committed, and give each other the communication they need.

[indoxyl]

I like how optimistic so many people are about ldr's :3

[Piachu]

I don't understand how that could be a relationship; it sounds more like a pen pal. Please don't think that I'm discrediting your feelings for that person because I'm not. I just think we may have differing ideas about what constitutes a relationship.

well it's a relationship like any other? There are a lot of people ((like me)) who can't socialize with people irl very well, so they have more online friends, and maybe even a boyfriend/girlfriend. As long as they love each other, they're loyal and they talk to eachother often enough, it can be as good a relationship as any other. In my opinion, anyway :)

[Seals]

I've been in one. This girl and I really liked each other and did stuff....anyways it was good until she got grounded....yeah her parents hate me

[indoxyl]

What a riveting story.

[indoxyl]

I don't understand how that could be a relationship; it sounds more like a pen pal. Please don't think that I'm discrediting your feelings for that person because I'm not. I just think we may have differing ideas about what constitutes a relationship.

My guess is your idea of a relationship is something physical? Honestly if youre in a long distance relationship with someone you care about and love, it becomes so much more than the physical things. Its hard to explain.

[Jae Ostraes]

Im In A LDR Right Now, And It Isnt That Difficult Because Both Of Us Are Finding Ways To Communicate. And If You Really Love Each Other, It Doesnt Matter How Far She Is. Because All You Need Is Trust. And Anything Good Will Happen If You Really Love Each Other. Space Between You Arent Barriers But Test To Know If You Really Love Her.

[badthoughts]

well it's a relationship like any other?
Not really.

However, as shown in this thread, it works for some and not for others. To each their own. Good luck.

My guess is your idea of a relationship is something physical?
Nope. Guess again.

[diamondrock104]

It depends on the couple...some can cope well, others not so much. But even then, it's good to at least try. If a couple really cares about each other, they will be determined to not give up.

[azngurl]

I think long distance relationships are hard and you have to really want them to endure the distance.

[Christian1]

I really got a crash on one girl couple of weeks ago, she is perfect, gorgeous, a little shy, just everything that I like, but we live far away :( California - Australia....

Can't stop thinking about her. Only see her in one month in a year.

[The-Chosen-Hero]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y_oIaWEKrx4

Definately Possible ^_^. There is many more like that where it came from to

[Fanta_Lover44]

Long distance relationships sometimes don't work, sometimes they do but to be quite honest im in a long distance relationship and I've been at it for weeks so I think im fine for now and hope it doesn't get ripped apart. Sometimes there perfect, people sometimes prefer it to have long distance relationships due to people who find it difficult talking in real life. I'm cool with what ever someone wants and if they're happy, i'm happy. :)

[Austinb13]

It would be really hard i might if she was special ;)

[Browny]

I agree that you really have to click in in a ld relationship but I visit my gf once a week at least so I think it's a matter of mutual feelings and being ok with it.

[White Tiger 303]

I'm in one at the moment an I cant skip the fact that I might never see her in person ,witch upset's me a lot because I love her very much and it brakes my hart, can any one pleas help

[Jess]

I would fair better in one but then there'll be more issues...but I've been in one and I think it's better if I don't.

I think long-distance relationships can work out for some people. It's definitely possible.

[StoneColdNicky]

Personally, I don't know if I could do it unless there was kind of like an 'end date.' If there was some date on the calendar when the person was going to be coming to me (or the other way around) I might be able to do it. Otherwise, I don't think I could keep interested, to be honest.