advice?

[Emilylovescookies]

i want to tell my parents i'm severely depressed but i cant find the courage to do so. i'm worried that if i tell them they will hate me. i really need proffesional help but i cant afford it. any advice?

[Pinkamena]

I can guarantee your parents won't hate you for wanting to get help. They love you, and want you to feel better.

Also, based on your previous thread, do you think it's possible you have schizophrenia?
You claimed you forget things easily, which could be due to unorganized thought patterns, and hear things that aren't there, as well as go into fits of depression. These are all signs of schizophrenia, so you might want to have that checked out as well.

[Extreme586]

Well if your depressed something has to be bothering you. Probably a multitude of things because I know how that feels as well. Maybe if you can't afford professional help you could just talk to your parents about whats bothering you? Or maybe a close friend?

I noticed it really helps me to talk to a friend on here just sort of about anything. It's better to talk to someone and get a second opinion rather than keep it all pent up inside of you, no matter how stupid or petty or selfish it may seem.

[Fanta_Lover44]

i want to tell my parents i'm severely depressed but i cant find the courage to do so. i'm worried that if i tell them they will hate me. i really need proffesional help but i cant afford it. any advice?

Talk to your parents some hoe weather you write it down or send it in a text don't be afraid they will hate you. Parents won't hate you for this, they will try and do a lot of things so you do get help!

[Emilylovescookies]

I can guarantee your parents won't hate you for wanting to get help. They love you, and want you to feel better.

Also, based on your previous thread, do you think it's possible you have schizophrenia?
You claimed you forget things easily, which could be due to unorganized thought patterns, and hear things that aren't there, as well as go into fits of depression. These are all signs of schizophrenia, so you might want to have that checked out as well.

i guess there is a chance. i'll get tested for it

[Emilylovescookies]

Well if your depressed something has to be bothering you. Probably a multitude of things because I know how that feels as well. Maybe if you can't afford professional help you could just talk to your parents about whats bothering you? Or maybe a close friend?

I noticed it really helps me to talk to a friend on here just sort of about anything. It's better to talk to someone and get a second opinion rather than keep it all pent up inside of you, no matter how stupid or petty or selfish it may seem.

the reason i dont want to talk to my parents about this is because they are often the problem. and my friends are all equally distressed as me and dont like talking about my problems

[APhkinPanda]

Just bring it up, it won't hurt. They will most likely answer why do you think so. Then you can tell then whats really on your mind. Then hopefully your parents will realize their faults and attempt to change. If they won't, they now know you are depressed and maybe take you to a therapist. Where you can vent on a weekly basis. Sometimes they allow family sessions, then you will be able to put your input with your family there and therapist. Which he will help you with your or their mistakes

[Unique Physique]

Just bring it up, it won't hurt. They will most likely answer why do you think so. Then you can tell then whats really on your mind. Then hopefully your parents will realize their faults and attempt to change. If they won't, they now know you are depressed and maybe take you to a therapist. Where you can vent on a weekly basis. Sometimes they allow family sessions, then you will be able to put your input with your family there and therapist. Which he will help you with your or their mistakes

This basically.

Although the best way to break the ice on the topic would be to approach it at a calm and fairly quiet time - i.e. when they're just watching TV or something.

[Abgail 16]

I thought at first that your parents should recognise you are suffering from depression but when you say they are often the cause of it then maybe they can't see it or don't want to see it.
Is there anybody else you can turn to?

[MoonMan]

Talk to your school counselor or even a teacher. If your parents are the sole cause of the problem then you may not be suffering from actual depression as much as you are reacting negatively to whatever they're doing, which can be totally normal. What are some of the symptoms of depression you're having and how often do you have them? Depression can range from mild, moderate, to severe (also known as clinical) that are classified with different symptoms. If you're able to accurately identify the reasons behind your depression then you more than likely don't have clinical depression, which is a good start.

[Apophis]

i guess there is a chance. i'll get tested for it

Emily, I want to personally want to say that no matter how depressed you are you will always have true friends there for you. You can always go to them if you are down and I'm sure they would be glad to help. I'm not sure if you got any close friends or not but another suggestion.

There is also a variety of help sites that can help like child line, kids help phone etc. They will help you through and they are trained for any situation and will give you advice to your problems that you need help with.

Also if you feel like your parents will throw you to the curb if you say your depressed, don't be! Your parents love you for who you are. They want the best for you and they will help you through any situation! That's what parents are for. You can go to them anytime, parents have a job to protect their kids from anything and always guide them through the worst of times. Just talk to them and tell them how you feel.

I hope this advice has helped! Hope you get through this!

[Emilylovescookies]

I thought at first that your parents should recognise you are suffering from depression but when you say they are often the cause of it then maybe they can't see it or don't want to see it.
Is there anybody else you can turn to?

i have a friend who i always turn too but my dad doesn't want me talking to him anymore and took away my phone so i can't contact him when i need to :/

[Emilylovescookies]

Talk to your school counselor or even a teacher. If your parents are the sole cause of the problem then you may not be suffering from actual depression as much as you are reacting negatively to whatever they're doing, which can be totally normal. What are some of the symptoms of depression you're having and how often do you have them? Depression can range from mild, moderate, to severe (also known as clinical) that are classified with different symptoms. If you're able to accurately identify the reasons behind your depression then you more than likely don't have clinical depression, which is a good start.

my parents arent the reason i'm depressed, they are just not helping my mental state. i know what kind of depression i have. i have clinical psychotic depression. meaning i see and hear things but i know they aren't there.

[MoonMan]

my parents arent the reason i'm depressed, they are just not helping my mental state. i know what kind of depression i have. i have clinical psychotic depression. meaning i see and hear things but i know they aren't there.
Right, you need to tell them. Try explaining to them the severity of an untreated case of clinical-psychotic depression. Hating someone for having this kind of depression is like hating someone for getting cancer, it's not something you can control. Especially if you have psychotic depression, which is very serious and requires immediate attention.

[Emilylovescookies]

i told my parents finally... didnt go well though. my dad kicked me out for " being a disgrace" but my mom is as supportive as ever. so i live with my mom now. she's helping me as much as she can. i also got a boyfriend who aslo is super supportive and helps me so much. my life is a lot better now... my depression is about the same but i'm in a much better enviroment and taking care of myself

[suicidalbutter]

i told my parents finally... didnt go well though. my dad kicked me out for " being a disgrace" but my mom is as supportive as ever. so i live with my mom now. she's helping me as much as she can. i also got a boyfriend who aslo is super supportive and helps me so much. my life is a lot better now... my depression is about the same but i'm in a much better enviroment and taking care of myself

I'm glad you got help, though I didn't see this before today I was happy to read that you were in a better environment. Hope things keep looking up for you :)

[Castle of Glass]

i told my parents finally... didnt go well though. my dad kicked me out for " being a disgrace" but my mom is as supportive as ever. so i live with my mom now. she's helping me as much as she can. i also got a boyfriend who aslo is super supportive and helps me so much. my life is a lot better now... my depression is about the same but i'm in a much better enviroment and taking care of myself

hey emily, you can get through this, but you need to find something to take your mind of it, if only temporary. My distraction is gaming, reading, writing, working out. So if you find that, along with your boyfriend and supportive mom, you will do fine :hug: but screw your dad. he is a jerk, no offence

[Versae]

I've never really told my mom but she read my journal and that's that. the next thing I knew, she was hugging me and telling me that nothing is wrong with me. It feels good. It's okay to tell them. They'll understand.

[Gigablue]

I'm glad your mother and boyfriend are supportive. Having someone to talk to can go a long way.

That being said, you should still get professional help. What you described sounds very severe. Severe depression, especially with psychosis present, needs treatment as soon as possible. If you have a family doctor, you should see them and ask about seeing a psychiatrist. A therapist might help, but they can't treat severe depression on their own.

[Kayze]

One thing iv learnt is that you should not self diagnose before seeking proffesional help, furthermore there should be free services in your local area to aid you with your mental health needs.. If I were you I'd start at the gp. They are bound by confidentiality and can point you in the right direction, no matter what your financial situation is.. And you can keep it from your parents by just faking the flu or a sore stomache so you can go to the doctors ..

[Emilylovescookies]

hey emily, you can get through this, but you need to find something to take your mind of it, if only temporary. My distraction is gaming, reading, writing, working out. So if you find that, along with your boyfriend and supportive mom, you will do fine :hug: but screw your dad. he is a jerk, no offence

i have my distractions, well, my distraction. i play mario literally for hours every night. its a good distraction. as for my dad, none taken. he is a jerk

[Emilylovescookies]

i have a friend who i always turn too but my dad doesn't want me talking to him anymore and took away my phone so i can't contact him when i need to :/

it's funny how this friend ended up being my boyfriend

[Emilylovescookies]

One thing iv learnt is that you should not self diagnose before seeking proffesional help, furthermore there should be free services in your local area to aid you with your mental health needs.. If I were you I'd start at the gp. They are bound by confidentiality and can point you in the right direction, no matter what your financial situation is.. And you can keep it from your parents by just faking the flu or a sore stomache so you can go to the doctors ..

it's not a self diagnosis. i used to see a counsellor/therapist who diagnosed me

[Emilylovescookies]

Emily, I want to personally want to say that no matter how depressed you are you will always have true friends there for you. You can always go to them if you are down and I'm sure they would be glad to help. I'm not sure if you got any close friends or not but another suggestion.

There is also a variety of help sites that can help like child line, kids help phone etc. They will help you through and they are trained for any situation and will give you advice to your problems that you need help with.

Also if you feel like your parents will throw you to the curb if you say your depressed, don't be! Your parents love you for who you are. They want the best for you and they will help you through any situation! That's what parents are for. You can go to them anytime, parents have a job to protect their kids from anything and always guide them through the worst of times. Just talk to them and tell them how you feel.

I hope this advice has helped! Hope you get through this!

thanks :)