My Brother

[Lola115]

Hey, I'm new here (At least new making an account) but I have been reading these forums for months.

But now I have a problem I needed to ask about.

My Brother is quite hot, he is 15 and I am 14, I have a boyfriend but I think I am falling for my brother, as in like a loving, relationship way! What should I do? Should I talk to him about it? See if he can help?

[Taryn98]

This is not normal or healthy behavior. You need to tell a counselor or therapist and work this out.

[Sharona]

Beat thing I guess is never rush I to things, pay attention to him and don't put you or him in regretful situations if you we're caught or he didn't reciprocate
Watch how he watches you I guess, especially if you aren't wearing a lot
I am sure you will find in time it will be a passing, hormonal infatuation


And seriously you don't have an inbred, hillbilly, deformed baby just like that
It takes generations

[GigglyAbby]

Hey, I'm new here (At least new making an account) but I have been reading these forums for months.

But now I have a problem I needed to ask about.

My Brother is quite hot, he is 15 and I am 14, I have a boyfriend but I think I am falling for my brother, as in like a loving, relationship way! What should I do? Should I talk to him about it? See if he can help?

Yes -- tell him that you value your relationship with him as a brother and maybe he can be your best friends and be a supportive big brother. No -- IF your brother has the same feelings -- it would NOT be cool to cheat on or dump your boyfriend. Plus -- you could gain a reputation of being a brother lover and that could tank you in school. Telling your brother this could destroy your relationship with him and perhaps your family.


That isn't exactly normal. It is incest. You don't know if he even thinks of you in a "loving" way. I advise you to leave it at that, because incest is not good. I don't think you'd want to start a family with your own brother, with a deformed baby. But that's me. Sorry.

Technically and sadly incest's probable outdated definition is when family members have intercourse each other. Plus -- there's a risk of birth defects and deformed children but that doesn't guarantee it.


This is not normal or healthy behavior. You need to tell a counselor or therapist and work this out.

Agreed and the latter part I agree with most if she can't sort it out herself.

That is not right just leave it dont say anything or do anything with him, think because your growing up and probably close you have feeling but should not act they should go soon if not you may need to talk to someone

Agreed

[Harley Quinn]

Personally, incest is wrong on so many levels that I will not go into.

All I will say though is, you aren't really going to listen to a bunch of teenagers on a help site, if you wanted to have a relationship so bad with your brother, you wouldn't ask us, you'd do it. However, seeing as you are asking, it implies that you don't actually feel it's right either, in which case, don't do it. Like I said though, a bunch of teenagers with opinions won't change your mind if you want to do it.

[Sharona]

Or she was hoping for some advice and understanding

[michelle96]

Or she was hoping for some advice and understanding

^this

[Elysium]

As with any unwanted crush, please do not feel bad or guilty about it as it usually can't be helped and it isn't your fault. Try to keep your mind preoccupied with other things or people and try to keep your distance for a while, if you can.

[DEADUSER]

It is not normal, you do need serious psychological help. Personally i don't think it is a good idea to tell him because he will either
Feel exactly the same way, which would cause the problem of you two wanting to be with each other which is wrong

OR

He feels the opposite and it causes a major issue between him and you

[geocast]

i wouldn't say anything. Just keep it to yourself

[Lisa Monroe]

thats not normal and you should probably not go for him

[Candy-Girl]

talk to him about it?

[Sharona]

Enough girls here seem to have and be fine

[Lola115]

Sorry I haven't posted

Yes he does flirt, but that may be due to his flirty nature. He is also single.
I don't feel guilty, all I wanted was advice

[Sharona]

Does he touch you much?

[indoxyl]

My guess is it is something similar to what people call 'Genetic Sexual Attraction' which is basically being attracted to a sibling. Now i know gsa is being attracted yo a sibling you havent met until you were an adult, but like i said it sounds similar. As far as I know there are many people that are treating this as a normal thing. Its normal for people to feel attracted to someone no matter who it is. Our hormones dont know the difference between a friend and a sibling. In all honesty i wouldnt be too worroed. Everybody is blowing this way out of proportion saying youre unhealthy and that you need help.

[Pensive]

Hey, I'm new here (At least new making an account) but I have been reading these forums for months.

But now I have a problem I needed to ask about.

My Brother is quite hot, he is 15 and I am 14, I have a boyfriend but I think I am falling for my brother, as in like a loving, relationship way! What should I do? Should I talk to him about it? See if he can help?

Without casting any aspersions upon your credulity, and indeed that of this post - I believe this sort of thing is more common then admitted (Would you outside of Vteen?!). If two people love each other, and that doesn't harm them, why is it cast as wrong?

On a more realistic note, your relationship is already loving presumably (you are siblings after all), just not 'making love' loving. I'd mention to him how you find him physically attractive, perhaps by complimenting what other girls see in him. Flirt a bit unsubtly and ask him what he thinks of your body. So long as you agree rules and boundaries before letting things get physical, and discuss how you'll deal with potential risks, fallouts and the future - then knock each other out!

[EliraLupa]

I don't think you need psychological help for having a crush on someone. You're growing up and its natural to have feelings that don't make any sense. In fact, the general rule is most feelings we have don't.

That being said, I'd probably advise that you don't pursue this into an actual relationship because it may very well become complicated and not only could it upset your present brotherly relationship with him, but could lead to you being subjected to some quite cruel and wrong comments if some people were to find out. If you trust your brother enough, talk it through with him and explain that you're confused and he may very well understand. But my personal reaction is to say I don't think its the best idea.

As for you present boyfriend, if you're having feelings for someone else or are feeling its not working in general, it would be far better for you to cut things off with him rather that string him along and cheat on him, which could lead to all kinds of drama.

Hope that's helped and that things work out OK :)

[Pensive]

As for you present boyfriend, if you're having feelings for someone else or are feeling its not working in general, it would be far better for you to cut things off with him rather that string him along and cheat on him, which could lead to all kinds of drama.

Hope that's helped and that things work out OK :)

How utterly remiss of me to forgo that particular detail ._. Thank you for clarifying EliraLupa! In my humble defence I am a newbie here! If you are considering others, to put it basically, as either sexual mates or indeed romantically - This is an unacceptable way to treat a partner, it's having the desire to cheat - and proves, if anything, that the relationship doesn't have a future.

N.B. And because you were all too polite to comment, I'll correct my own typo... Than* deary me...

[Lola115]

Okay, well I spoke to him about it and he says he has feelings for me deeper than a sibling

[Pensive]

Okay, well I spoke to him about it and he says he has feelings for me deeper than a sibling

How convenient, unrequited love sucks as bad as a prostitute at the end of a long shift. So you've;

- Dumped your current boyfriend
- Will have jumped into bed with your brother by the end of the week
- And live happily after

Tell us how the convo went! We are all REALLY curious, (careful not to storytell though).

[Lola115]

I basically asked him how he felt about me and he said he thought I was hot and he said he is in love with me I jumped on him and we made out and I dumped my boyfriend

[Pensive]

Course you did

[Sharona]

Sounds legit

and will your son sit on the Iron Throne?

[Ifxzzy]

This is a bunch of bullshit honestly :|

[Lola115]

I was serious...

[Sharona]

Seriously pretending u mean

[indoxyl]

This whole thread is ridiculous.

[CutieHoney]

Haha :D
I dunno if it's all pretend - but it's entertaining lololol

[qwertygirl]

umm well to be honest you shouldn't have pursued anything with your brother because (and i am a firm believer in being able to love who you want to love) he's.... well, your brother. Incest in my opinion isnt necessarily the best thing in the world and I dont think you should have asked him about his feelings for you. Also, making out with your brother was also not okay. think about making out with your dad, or your sister or something. It's just... idk, kind of weird to me i guess.

It's your life, and you can make your decisions as long as they make you happy, but that would not have been a choice I would have made, and you should also try your hardest to keep whatever is going on between you two a secret, since it is not accepted in society.

Good luck i guess :)

[DerBear]

This thread has received a lot of negative comments from members and I feel this thread isn't going to end well as insults have already started. Furthermore the orginial poster have evidently made up their mind about this situation. To prevent more negative comments and to prevent arguments breaking out I am therefore going to lock this thread.