Lost and Confused

[Cooper197]

Things just seem to be all screwed up now and have me more lost and confused than ever. Finally 2 months ago we got my half-sister to move up from Texas and get away from her extremely abusive step-father. Now he's trying to contact her and that worries me a lot. Add on top of this a car accident a month ago where I broke my back...again...this makes #3. I go in for surgery in a few more weeks which honestly scares the crap out of me. So just when it seems like the roof is falling in on me and I have enough to deal with, today my parents both signed the paper's for their divorce. My dad is moving over 9 hours away. I still have some support here in the form of my girlfriend and my sister, but it seems like I'm just on a plane spiraling down and all I can do is hold on for the crash and hope that in the end I can still recover. I'm not sure I can this time though, I mean I'm about to have 2 18 inch metal rods stuck in my back, have 6 months recovery from that and 5 other surgeries on my back. Plus likely having to re-learn to walk and a bunch of other fun stuff like that. I'm just at max freak out and can't seem to come back down. Writing helps, and talking about it does too but I still just don't know what to do. I'm worried about what is going to happen to my family now, I'll hardly get to see my dad once he moves since he'll be so far away. It's really difficult too since my family is pretty well off and in the town I live in that just automatically has to mean you have a perfect life, and god forbid you ever show/say/feel otherwise. It's just difficult, I wish things were different. I don't mean to sound whiny or anything like that, I know people have it worse, but am I crazy for feeling like this? What can I do to get control of things again?

[Chris Daniels]

You are not crazy for feeling that way. I know how hard it is but you have your sister and your girlfriend. Try talking to your father over the phone at least once a week when he moves out. He can be one of your greatest support. There are a lot of hindrances when you do the things that you should be doing right now, including how to figure out how to handle everything again but don't let them get into you. Stay firm and calm so you could think properly and figure things out.

[APhkinPanda]

I highly agree with Chris Daniels. Also us on VT will support you. I know I will. Keep your mind strong, and keep giving yourself positive goals and thoughts. Ill try my best to support you. You can do it!

[EliraLupa]

It sounds like you're going through a lot and don't worry, you shouldn't feel bad because 'others have it worse'. What matters is you and your well being. These 2 have given some amazing advise :) Just try and find the silver lining to whatever situation you can and celebrate the small things. Just because things are changing, especially within your family, doesn't mean they won't still be there to support you and offer you all the encouragement and love you deserve. Take each hurdle as it comes and you've got a great community hear if you need any extra support. Best of Luck! :)

[Cooper197]

Thanks for the replies!
I've had a lot of time to think the last few days, and it's actually helped. My girlfriend and my sister have been a great help, but it also is a huge help now that I am up and moving around more after my back stuff. I'm kind of coming to terms with everything right now, my dad is already gone but hasn't moved out just yet although it is looking like that will be next week. He's helping me out with a new car so my sister and I can actually come see him, which will be really nice!