What am I supposed to do!

[ThePageantQueen]

Okay, so I really enjoy skiing and this past season I went with my friends, to pass the time we played truth or dare. I picked truth and my friends had asked me who my crush was. Thinking that I could trust my friends, I told them. The girl that is supposed to be my best friend told the person that I liked him. Then, when we were in Florida ( I was with my best friend, the girl that told my crush I liked him) I got a message from my crush asking me if it was true that I liked him. Once I came clean and told him that it was true that I had liked him, we started hanging out a lot! Then, when I invited him to go to the movies, he had asked if his friend could go with us and I was fine with it. When we got to the movies we all sat together and I had to sit in the middle because I wanted to sit with my crush but his friend, was another boy who had a crush on ME! I knew this so I sat in the middle so that I didn't hurt anyone's feelings. Then the guy that likes me got mad for some reason that I didn't know and I excused myself to go to the bathroom so that the two boys could talk. When I got back and sat down, the boy that likes me got up and moved to the other side of the theatre. I felt really bad but I also enjoyed the time alone with my crush. Then the boy that likes me messaged me asking me for my phone number, thinking that it was no big deal, I gave it to him. We started texting 24/7 and I began to start falling for him. My school has a really special dance at the end of the year and I really wanted my crush to ask me. When the boy that likes me kept hinting toward the dance, I would change the topic of conversation completely so that he wouldn't ask and I'd be able to go with my crush. However, during this time we also had a minor dance coming up that weekend. My crush didn't make an appearance, I did and so did the boy that likes me. He then asked me in person and I couldn't say "No!" because that would be way too rude to do fitting my personality. The dance that he had asked me at was on a Friday night and I had a soccer game the next day, as I was driving to the field, the boy who likes me was texting me and we ended up deciding that we were dating. When we got back to school everyone found out... even my crush. I felt horrible! I really liked my crush and I also started to have feelings for this other guy. The boy that liked me and I had an amazing time together. We had SO much in common. At the time, I really thought he liked me. Then within about 1 month, he broke-up with me claiming "My parents think I should focus on school. Having a girlfriend is really tough right now. My parents think it's a bad idea for us to keep seeing each other." This guy made me feel like I was on top of the world and we got a lot of crap from other students. I felt like if I was willing to try so hard to fight for us then he should to, but he just gave up. Later I found out that he had broken up with me because he had like someone else, this person was my so-called "beast friend" that I had taken to Florida. They got together and she hid it from her parents knowing it was wrong. She tried hiding it from me, but I was one of the first people to find out. My crush had told me. I was devastated! With the dance only 3 weeks away, my ex had decided that he didn't want to go to the dance anymore. My crush even has a date with one of the snobbiest, prettiest, and most annoying girls in the school! She used to be my friend, then our friendship drifted apart because of her attitude. I've been trying to accept the fact that I don't have a date to the dance, it's just really disappointing. I'm planning on just having fun with my friends and going to try and forget about all of the drama. Got any suggestions on how to make my crush like me again? I STILL can't get over him! It's going to be heartbreaking watching him and his date have fun all night. Feel free to comment what you think of the jerk who liked me and then dumped me, tell me if you think I messed up big time and what I can do to fix it, let me know your opinion if I was the culprit or the vivtim, or just give me some help on how I can win my crush's heart again. Thanks!

[GamerGuy09]

Even though the guy who had a thing for you was a total scumbag who just played you and acted like a child. It was at times your fault as well. You can't hope for going out with two guys at once. You should have addressed which one you wanted to be with and that is that. I would say just keep moving forward and learn from your mistakes. Hopefully you agree.

[unnamed94]

did your crush had a crush on you when you started dating his friend? if he did then its weird he didnt make a move.

anyways, if i was him i wouldnt want to date you, friends would be ok but nothing more. it seems he was always your second option and you kept him relatively near just in case things didnt work out with his friend. and now you expect to win his heart again? why did you date his friend when you werent over your crush? on your ex: that was a shitty thing to do. theres nothing else to discuss. he was a complete jerk

[ThePageantQueen]

did your crush had a crush on you when you started dating his friend? if he did then its weird he didnt make a move.

anyways, if i was him i wouldnt want to date you, friends would be ok but nothing more. it seems he was always your second option and you kept him relatively near just in case things didnt work out with his friend. and now you expect to win his heart again? why did you date his friend when you werent over your crush? on your ex: that was a shitty thing to do. theres nothing else to discuss. he was a complete jerk

The thing about dating his friend, I didn't really want to, he started pulling me in and when we got back to school we got labeled as dating. My crush was ALWAYS my first option but he never made a move and I was SO confused! I was pretty sure that he liked me but since he never did anything about it I just let it all play out. Unfortunately, I wasn't able to be with the person that I cared for. I didn't know what to do because I was stuck between the two of them. The more that the guy that liked me and I started hanging out he was being really charming and "pulling me into his web." I REALLY liked my crush and I still do. Even if we can't be in a relationship I would still like to be friends but now he just ignores me because his girlfriend doesn't want him talking/ or hanging out with any other girls.

[unnamed94]

The thing about dating his friend, I didn't really want to, he started pulling me in and when we got back to school we got labeled as dating. My crush was ALWAYS my first option but he never made a move and I was SO confused! I was pretty sure that he liked me but since he never did anything about it I just let it all play out. Unfortunately, I wasn't able to be with the person that I cared for. I didn't know what to do because I was stuck between the two of them. The more that the guy that liked me and I started hanging out he was being really charming and "pulling me into his web." I REALLY liked my crush and I still do. Even if we can't be in a relationship I would still like to be friends but now he just ignores me because his girlfriend doesn't want him talking/ or hanging out with any other girls.

dating this guy while still having a crush on his friend was still a mistake imho. theres nothing wrong in trying to win him over (or whatever you intend to do) but if he doesnt want anything to do with you when it comes to dating then just move on. if he was insecure or not about telling you how he felt doesnt justify you dating his friend, you could have known if he did like you or not by asking him. after reading your first post once again it seems like he wanted to set you up with his friend who liked you even though he knew you liked him. there is nothing to justify what the guy who you dated did. talk to him about keeping in touch with him as friend even is he has a gf, there should be nothing wrong with your gf/bf having friends or hanging with people besides you (at least thats what i think). hope everything works out.

[ThePageantQueen]

dating this guy while still having a crush on his friend was still a mistake imho. theres nothing wrong in trying to win him over (or whatever you intend to do) but if he doesnt want anything to do with you when it comes to dating then just move on. if he was insecure or not about telling you how he felt doesnt justify you dating his friend, you could have known if he did like you or not by asking him. after reading your first post once again it seems like he wanted to set you up with his friend who liked you even though he knew you liked him. there is nothing to justify what the guy who you dated did. talk to him about keeping in touch with him as friend even is he has a gf, there should be nothing wrong with your gf/bf having friends or hanging with people besides you (at least thats what i think). hope everything works out.

That helped! I will try your tips and see how everything plays out. Thanks again!