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[Paige Elizabeth]

I am currently 14 and I'm dating a 19 year old guy whos in college. He respects me a lot for who I am and what I believe. What are your opinions on this?

[Hybridoxidation]

Erm. That's a pretty big age gap, but if he respects you and stuff, then I suppose it's okay.. o-o How ever did you get together with this guy.

[Hyper]

My opinion automatically isn't good when 19 year olds date 14 year olds.

I don't see what someone in college/working would have in common with someone who is A) In high school/primary school (depending on country) B) In early stages of puberty C) Having nowhere near the same experience in relationships

[HollisterGirl98]

I'm sorry but I have to agree with Hyper. It's a big difference in age

[Croconaw]

That is a big age gap. How did this happen?

[Twilly F. Sniper]

A little bit of a wide age gap. Expect the possibility of an abusive and controlling relationship later on, SORRRRRRRYYYYY, but this is the circumstance in which it usually happens.

[Paige Elizabeth]

That is a big age gap. How did this happen?

We went to the same school for a while and then he graduated and we kept in touch.

[kenoloor]

I don't necessarily think it's healthy. 14 and 19 are extremely different ages developmentally, both psychologically and physically. You're at very different developmental stages in terms of physical maturation but also in self-discovery, identity, etc. Once you get into later teen years and early twenties, it gets to be more of a level playing field across a five-year span. But as for 14 and 19, I don't think it's necessarily healthy.

[HockeyLovesMe]

do yur parents know about this? my parents would probably kill me if i went out with a 19yo.. so ya i think it is to much

[MoonMan]

This guy is very close, if not already there, to being both physically and mentally mature. Meanwhile you are still in puberty and developing in countless aspects in terms of both your physical and mental maturity. There's a reason for grade levels being segregated into age groups, mainly because kids develop and process things differently at different ages while they're still growing. You wouldn't expect a 5th grader to be able to grasp the same concepts and problems as a 10th grader, would you? He "respects" you because he has already both experienced and can understand the concepts you provide on a much deeper level than you. This can very easily lead to a one sided, controlling relationship and you probably wouldn't even notice because you're inexperienced and don't know any better (at 14, who does?). Once you're in your twenties then a 5 year age difference won't matter because you're both fully developed adults. Until then, I can't say I have a positive outlook on this sort of age difference.

[justin 13]

I like olders too, but 19teen is really a huge difference. Take care urself.

[Synyster Shadows]

I strongly believe this will end badly. I don't care if he respects you. Something bad will happen.

[Cygnus]

You have no chance against him if he attempts to hurt you, be VERY careful. It seems to be an almost unanimous opinion.

[Horatio Nelson]

You have no chance against him if he attempts to hurt you, be VERY careful. It seems to be an almost unanimous opinion.

I second this. I imagine he is a lot bigger than you. Be careful.

[likemike]

Since he is an adult by law if he touches you sexually its molestation, and if hes not touching you who is he touching?

[PerpetualImperfexion]

Honestly, why does he need to be your boyfriend? What do you get from him now that you didn't get when he was just a friend? Please just be careful.

[teen.jpg]

Personally, I don't see the best in you guys' future, but who am I to tell you what's right? Best of luck to you!

[Jess]

Honestly it's quite an age gap...especially since you're just 14...are your parents okay with this?

If you're happy with him, though, I see no reason to tell you to end it just because we believe it's not right to be with a 19 year old. If he truly loves you, respects you, etc, I think it might not be too bad...*shrugs*

[emily-candace]

why is a 19 year old dating a girl in middle school, that is away too young, why isn't he dating someone his own age, if your mom found out she would probably kill him and if you two have sex he can go to jail for rape of a minor whether there was conscent or not. get rid of him

[Cece14]

thats awesome! You go girl!

[tundravortex]

I am currently 14 and I'm dating a 19 year old guy whos in college. He respects me a lot for who I am and what I believe. What are your opinions on this?

sucks if someone who you two don't kno because if the word gets out he could be arrested for satatory rape(how ever you spell it) because your a miner and legal...just saying but what ever make you happy

[Abgail 16]

14 is a bit young for a 19 year old.

[BeautifulAngel]

Technically he is a pedophile, a pedophile in american law is a person that has a sexual attraction to persons both A) under the age and B) Have a minimum of five years between them. Also i had a 17 year old boyfriend when i was 14 and all he wanted was sex

[zeebo]

A little big of an age gap, although if it works go for it!

[Miserabilia]

he is basicly an adult and you are probably still in the start of puberty. That's kind of wrong.

[hipster101]

I'd be lying if I said it wasn't good...but I'd be hypocrital because I'm 17 dating a 14 y/o...
If he likes you for who you are, and you are mature enough to be with him, go for it.