Fear of being gay!

[Mead14]

Hi guys! I'm new to this and I basically just wanted your opinion on this.
I am scared of being gay. Not so much homophobic, just scared. I want to have kids someday and have a family of my own. I love women. No doubt about it. But sometimes (mainly when I'm horny) I will fantasize about guys and about sucking them of or being sucked off by a guy. The thing is, it's almost ALWAYS when I'm horny. So I was wondering if it was just a hormonal thing? and will I grow out of it? and what is the best way to stop these kinds of thoughts? Is it best to just go with it? I've been approached by one of my gay friends at school, should I try anything with him? See if I enjoy it? Really scared and confused at the moment. Would love your feedback! Thanks heaps! :D

[The LOLer]

I can see why your scared of being gay. It's comepletely understandable and normal. It's called being bi. You could just be bi-curious. Don't worry there's nothing wrong. You could turn out completely normal. It could be hormonal.

[Green Arrow]

It could just be hormones. If you want to try it out a bit, try it with your gay friend and see what happens. :)

[ChrisFromKY]

That's just normal Mead.. We all have urges to experiment. Don't worry about whether you are gay or not. If you don't feel comfortable acting on your urges then don't do it. The whole point is to explore who you are and what makes you happy. My Dad told me he and his friends experimented when he was my age and now he's married and has kids(me) LOL.

[Trenton_]

Hi guys! I'm new to this and I basically just wanted your opinion on this.
I am scared of being gay. Not so much homophobic, just scared. I want to have kids someday and have a family of my own. I love women. No doubt about it. But sometimes (mainly when I'm horny) I will fantasize about guys and about sucking them of or being sucked off by a guy. The thing is, it's almost ALWAYS when I'm horny. So I was wondering if it was just a hormonal thing? and will I grow out of it? and what is the best way to stop these kinds of thoughts? Is it best to just go with it? I've been approached by one of my gay friends at school, should I try anything with him? See if I enjoy it? Really scared and confused at the moment. Would love your feedback! Thanks heaps! :D

1. You will grow out of it.
2. To stop those thoughts, you can start by not ever watching gay porn or even guys in porn. Watch just the girls.
3. Don't just go with it! You just said you are afraid of being gay and you love women. So guys shouldn't be a turn on for you.
4. If you are straight, you'd have no desire to try something with a gay guy!
5. if you're straight, you won't enjoy it at all. it will be gross.

I advise you to put your efforts towards girls, not boys because you don't want to be gay and you're afraid of it.

[Danny_boi 16]

You're perfectly fine. Its normal it could be several things, but likely you are just going through something. These things happen to a lot of people.

[Harry Smith]

Puberty for boys :arrow: Teen sexuality

[JonasBe]

1. You will grow out of it.
2. To stop those thoughts, you can start by not ever watching gay porn or even guys in porn. Watch just the girls.
3. Don't just go with it! You just said you are afraid of being gay and you love women. So guys shouldn't be a turn on for you.
4. If you are straight, you'd have no desire to try something with a gay guy!
5. if you're straight, you won't enjoy it at all. it will be gross.

I advise you to put your efforts towards girls, not boys because you don't want to be gay and you're afraid of it.

Don't listen to him, this is bullshit.
He makes it sound like being gay is wrong and like it is a choice... :rolleyes:

I understand your fears, I myself am bi but lately I'm only interested in boys anymore... But I also want a family and kids of my own. But nowadays for gay people it's possible to marry and have kids, so that's something you don't have to worry about right now. And by the time you're at the age of wanting kids, hopefully and probably there will be even less homophobic thoughts in society.

There is a chance it are just hormones, so don't really worry too much about it. You'll turn out fine whatever you are. But you sure could experiment with your gay friend. It's actually an ideal situation... He's a friend so it's not like you would have a date and feel shy or something, and you could try it out.
A lot of people your age experiment with same sex, and a lot of them are straight! It's part of being a teenager and being young.

So I would say go for it. If you really enjoy it that might be a sign. But don't be afraid of it being gross or something, just relax and have fun!

Hope this helps ;)

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How is it normal to be afraid to be gay? What is there to be afraid of? That's like being afraid of having green eyes, or ginger hair. Sounds ridiculous right? Because it is.

You may be gay, you might not be. No one can tell you what you are, you gotta figure it out yourself, sad to say. Eventually you'll come to the answer you've been looking for.

[Lovelife090994]

Hi guys! I'm new to this and I basically just wanted your opinion on this.
I am scared of being gay. Not so much homophobic, just scared. I want to have kids someday and have a family of my own. I love women. No doubt about it. But sometimes (mainly when I'm horny) I will fantasize about guys and about sucking them of or being sucked off by a guy. The thing is, it's almost ALWAYS when I'm horny. So I was wondering if it was just a hormonal thing? and will I grow out of it? and what is the best way to stop these kinds of thoughts? Is it best to just go with it? I've been approached by one of my gay friends at school, should I try anything with him? See if I enjoy it? Really scared and confused at the moment. Would love your feedback! Thanks heaps! :D

Odds are it is hormones but contrary to belief, being straight does not always mean that you have to find males repulsive and that you cannot find a man attractive, you may even think the person sexy, as long as you don't want sex with a male.

You sound like you want a wife one day, as do I, but if you are so unsure don't even think about that now, just try to relax and think some things out.

The fear of being gay? This is mainstream today despite the LGBT's efforts, people's beliefs, and society make it seem like being gay is wrong. In my opinion, I do not like homosexuality and I see it as immoral but being gay to me, isn't necesarrily terrible in that, I won't hate anyone or see them as any less of a person, I just disagree with the lifestyle.

You only have a few choices and things you can control in life, technically sexuality is one of them, but know that whatever you choose, whatever makes you happiest. I wish you well, be blessed!

[JonasBe]

Odds are it is hormones but contrary to belief, being straight does not always mean that you have to find males repulsive and that you cannot find a man attractive, you may even think the person sexy, as long as you don't want sex with a male.

You sound like you want a wife one day, as do I, but if you are so unsure don't even think about that now, just try to relax and think some things out.

The fear of being gay? This is mainstream today despite the LGBT's efforts, people's beliefs, and society make it seem like being gay is wrong. In my opinion, I do not like homosexuality and I see it as immoral but being gay to me, isn't necesarrily terrible in that, I won't hate anyone or see them as any less of a person, I just disagree with the lifestyle.

You only have a few choices and things you can control in life, technically sexuality is one of them, but know that whatever you choose, whatever makes you happiest. I wish you well, be blessed!

So you disagree with 2 people of the same sex living together and loving each other and even wanting to have a family together?
How can someone disagree with true love?

[Lovelife090994]

So you disagree with 2 people of the same sex living together and loving each other and even wanting to have a family together?
How can someone disagree with true love?

And you disagree with my opinion my questioning? Love may be blind in some ways but it is not perverse, my belief and my reasons. There are so many types of love, but that love of which I believe you are refering to is lust and perverted love, even normal couples have this but homosexual couples do as well to the point that their self-fabricated love isn't love at all. I said I disagree with homosexuality, this is an opinion forum. You can have yours and hate me, just let me have my opinion and not hate you.

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And you disagree with my opinion my questioning? Love may be blind in some ways but it is not perverse, my belief and my reasons. There are so many types of love, but that love of which I believe you are refering to is lust and perverted love, even normal couples have this but homosexual couples do as well to the point that their self-fabricated love isn't love at all. I said I disagree with homosexuality, this is an opinion forum. You can have yours and hate me, just let me have my opinion and not hate you.

And who are you exactly to decide what's "normal" or what's "wrong". What gave you the idea that your belief should have any affect on anyone else's lives without their consent.

Most of all, why would you want to be someone who stands in the way of another person's rights, or even their happiness.

[Troy35216]

I can see why your scared of being gay. It's comepletely understandable and normal. It's called being bi. You could just be bi-curious. Don't worry there's nothing wrong. You could turn out completely normal. It could be hormonal.
umm
straight = completely normal
bi = completely normal
gay = completely normal

there is nothing abnormal about being any of those things, whichever he ends up being, he is going to turn out completely normal. personally i think he needs to figure out why he's afraid of being gay. what exactly is he afraid of? if he's afraid of not being able to have a family or have kids, how realistic is that fear? if he's afraid of being rejected by friends and family, how realistic is that fear? nothing will change who he is in the end, but living and coping with the realistic fears is something he will need to work on IF he's gay.

[coder]

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[Lovelife090994]

And who are you exactly to decide what's "normal" or what's "wrong". What gave you the idea that your belief should have any affect on anyone else's lives without their consent.

Most of all, why would you want to be someone who stands in the way of another person's rights, or even their happiness.

Yes, hello? Anything else?

[teen.jpg]

Yes, hello? Anything else?

-_- Just say what you're going to say. A pointless rant that'll most likely end up with you abandoning the thread as soon as you realize how ridiculous your ideas on homosexuality are.

[Elysium]

You can still have kids and a family with another man, if not via adoption, then via surrogate.

[Lovelife090994]

-_- Just say what you're going to say. A pointless rant that'll most likely end up with you abandoning the thread as soon as you realize how ridiculous your ideas on homosexuality are.

Will you quit with that only one is right attitude? Not everyone thinks the same. Why can't I disagree with homosexuality? It doesn't mean I hate the homosexual, in fact I don't hate anyone except Hitler, Lucifer, Murder. You can love someone without agreeing with or condoning all they do. Like a parent whose child occasionally gets in trouble with the law or with a child that is homosexual and the parents extremely religious: Does either parent or parents hate their child(ren)? No, they love them in spite of everything they do but they don't conform to or accept the undesireable acts in their view as right, they disagree but love anyway.

But I shall ask one more time before you blow things out of proportion and begin insulting again. What is so bad about disagreeing with homosexuality if I am not hating anyone? I could care less if you're this way or that way or nothing at all, I just have my opinion on it. So, tell me, is it that you love to agree with people until they disagree with you? If so take this, "agree to disagree rather than argue to argue endlessly."

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Will you quit with that only one is right attitude? Not everyone thinks the same. Why can't I disagree with homosexuality? It doesn't mean I hate the homosexual, in fact I don't hate anyone except Hitler, Lucifer, Murder. You can love someone without agreeing with or condoning all they do. Like a parent whose child occasionally gets in trouble with the law or with a child that is homosexual and the parents extremely religious: Does either parent or parents hate their child(ren)? No, they love them in spite of everything they do but they don't conform to or accept the undesireable acts in their view as right, they disagree but love anyway.

But I shall ask one more time before you blow things out of proportion and begin insulting again. What is so bad about disagreeing with homosexuality if I am not hating anyone? I could care less if you're this way or that way or nothing at all, I just have my opinion on it. So, tell me, is it that you love to agree with people until they disagree with you? If so take this, "agree to disagree rather than argue to argue endlessly."

What do I have against people who disagree with homosexuality? Well, maybe because they insist on forcing their ideas on people who never asked for them? Forcing their morals on people who have their own to live by.

And you say I love to argue? No, no I don't. But I don't think you realize how many times you've said the same exact speech on how you "disagree with it, but aren't homophobic." As long as you are here to preach about the beliefs that some of us disagree with, is as long as I'll be here to defend them.

[JonasBe]

Will you quit with that only one is right attitude? Not everyone thinks the same. Why can't I disagree with homosexuality? It doesn't mean I hate the homosexual, in fact I don't hate anyone except Hitler, Lucifer, Murder. You can love someone without agreeing with or condoning all they do. Like a parent whose child occasionally gets in trouble with the law or with a child that is homosexual and the parents extremely religious: Does either parent or parents hate their child(ren)? No, they love them in spite of everything they do but they don't conform to or accept the undesireable acts in their view as right, they disagree but love anyway.

But I shall ask one more time before you blow things out of proportion and begin insulting again. What is so bad about disagreeing with homosexuality if I am not hating anyone? I could care less if you're this way or that way or nothing at all, I just have my opinion on it. So, tell me, is it that you love to agree with people until they disagree with you? If so take this, "agree to disagree rather than argue to argue endlessly."

Who's insulting?
Calling gay love self fabricated and perverted?
My first real boyfriend died in a horseback riding accident, now 3,5 years ago, for 6 months I lived as a f*cking plant in my room, barely going outside.
I was destroyed by it and I still carry the scars of that. We even hadn't have sex yet, so your "perverted" kind of love theory doesn't sum up. So you saying gay love is self fabricated and perverted, now sir, THAT is an insult that goes straight through my core and is an insult to him as well.

I don't mind people having an opinion about homosexuality, but calling our love fake and perverted, that is a bridge to far and the biggest insult you can give to gay people imaginable. Some people die in countries where homosexuality isn't allowed for expressing their so called fake love.

I know some people get an image about gay people only partying and having sex with everyone in night clubs etc, yes it happens, but that also happens in straight circles. I myself am a true romantic and stay away from all that oversexed behavior.

But I can't imagine that someone can even be THIS shallow to call gay love fake and perverted. Kiss my bisexual ass.

[MickeyMouse]

1. You will grow out of it.
2. To stop those thoughts, you can start by not ever watching gay porn or even guys in porn. Watch just the girls.
3. Don't just go with it! You just said you are afraid of being gay and you love women. So guys shouldn't be a turn on for you.
4. If you are straight, you'd have no desire to try something with a gay guy!
5. if you're straight, you won't enjoy it at all. it will be gross.

I advise you to put your efforts towards girls, not boys because you don't want to be gay and you're afraid of it.

For this specific topic, and for what OP has described, I would say in all this is the most useful advice given.

How is it normal to be afraid to be gay? What is there to be afraid of? That's like being afraid of having green eyes, or ginger hair. Sounds ridiculous right? Because it is.

You may be gay, you might not be. No one can tell you what you are, you gotta figure it out yourself, sad to say. Eventually you'll come to the answer you've been looking for.

Sorry but who gave you the right to judge which fears are normal and abnormal? If he's afraid of being gay then he is, don't make him out to be abnormal because of his fears.

So you disagree with 2 people of the same sex living together and loving each other and even wanting to have a family together?
How can someone disagree with true love?

And who are you exactly to decide what's "normal" or what's "wrong". What gave you the idea that your belief should have any affect on anyone else's lives without their consent.

Most of all, why would you want to be someone who stands in the way of another person's rights, or even their happiness.

Maybe he does, personally I don't support homosexuality but neither am I against it, people are entitled to their own opinion and if he believes that being gay is wrong, that is his right.

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For this specific topic, and for what OP has described, I would say in all this is the most useful advice given.



Sorry but who gave you the right to judge which fears are normal and abnormal? If he's afraid of being gay then he is, don't make him out to be abnormal because of his fears.





Maybe he does, personally I don't support homosexuality but neither am I against it, people are entitled to their own opinion and if he believes that being gay is wrong, that is his right.

Oh please, you don't have a good idea what you're talking about, do you?

Did I specifically say his "fear" was abnormal. No, no I did not. It's irrational. Most of all, it's unnatural. Yup, I just pulled the "unnatural" card. I'm sure it's very familiar to you.

There is no "belief" that gay is wrong. The opinion doesn't even matter in this case, because there is no basis for the opinion, or valid arguement for the opinion. Nor is there going to be any progress with that arguement.

P.S. there is no "fear" of homosexuals. You aren't afraid of same-sex couples. You just have an irrational dislike for them stemming from beliefs that aren't even your own, but from somebody else who you've been leeching off of.

[confusedteen33]

I completely understand your pain here. I have a girlfriend, and I love her with all my heart, possibly would want a family with her, but there is one thing holding me back. I'm physically, not emotionally, attracted to guys. Im attracted both physically and mentally to girls, but I really want to experiment with a guy. Thing is, I could never cheat on my gf. I've been with her for 7 months today, I love her, and we have done it, but I still want to try with a guy. I'm completely lost on what to do...

[MickeyMouse]

Oh please, you don't have a good idea what you're talking about, do you?

Did I specifically say his "fear" was abnormal. No, no I did not. It's irrational. Most of all, it's unnatural. Yup, I just pulled the "unnatural" card. I'm sure it's very familiar to you.

There is no "belief" that gay is wrong. The opinion doesn't even matter in this case, because there is no basis for the opinion, or valid arguement for the opinion. Nor is there going to be any progress with that arguement.

P.S. there is no "fear" of homosexuals. You aren't afraid of same-sex couples. You just have an irrational dislike for them stemming from beliefs that aren't even your own, but from somebody else who you've been leeching off of.

Right, so you want to get techical. That's fine; you should know that irrational thoughts are the cause of phobias, so by this basis, his thoughts may be irrational, but the fear can very much be real. If you want to know how these fears occur, I suggest taking up psychology as a subject and learning for yourself, then maybe you can have the right to call his belief 'unnatural'

Secondly, you should also know that 50-60 years ago, homosexuality was actually seen as a mental disorder, the point here is that you can not pinpoint a belief as being natural, unnatural, abnormal or real, as there are too many factors to consider.

But this is going off track, once again, you're calling his fear unnatural, which is your opinion. How do you know his belief isn't his own? If he truly believes that he does not want to be gay, that is his personal choice, and why should he have to go against his own beliefs? It's rather narrow minded calling insulting his believes in an attempt to force him to accept what he clearly find unpleasant. What you need to do is stop believing that everyone must accept homosexuality, because they don't.

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Right, so you want to get techical. That's fine; you should know that irrational thoughts are the cause of phobias, so by this basis, his thoughts may be irrational, but the fear can very much be real. If you want to know how these fears occur, I suggest taking up psychology as a subject and learning for yourself, then maybe you can have the right to call his belief 'unnatural'

Secondly, you should also know that 50-60 years ago, homosexuality was actually seen as a mental disorder, the point here is that you can not pinpoint a belief as being natural, unnatural, abnormal or real, as there are too many factors to consider.

But this is going off track, once again, you're calling his fear unnatural, which is your opinion. How do you know his belief isn't his own? If he truly believes that he does not want to be gay, that is his personal choice, and why should he have to go against his own beliefs? It's rather narrow minded calling insulting his believes in an attempt to force him to accept what he clearly find unpleasant. What you need to do is stop believing that everyone must accept homosexuality, because they don't.

None of that made any sense. You flip-flopped your ideas so much in that post I don't even know what you're trying to say.

[DVNO]

And you disagree with my opinion my questioning? Love may be blind in some ways but it is not perverse, my belief and my reasons. There are so many types of love, but that love of which I believe you are refering to is lust and perverted love, even normal couples have this but homosexual couples do as well to the point that their self-fabricated love isn't love at all. I said I disagree with homosexuality, this is an opinion forum. You can have yours and hate me, just let me have my opinion and not hate you.

So only straight, "normal" couples can truly love each other, and homosexual love is self-fabricated, nonexistent and consumed by lust?

That makes you sound like a pretty disgusting human being but I do feel sorry for you, there must have been some pretty heavy brainwashing done to give you that much of a warped and sick view of homosexuality.

[CharlieHorse]

So only straight, "normal" couples can truly love each other, and homosexual love is self-fabricated, nonexistent and consumed by lust?

That makes you sound like a pretty disgusting human being but I do feel sorry for you, there must have been some pretty heavy brainwashing done to give you that much of a warped and sick view of homosexuality.

Agreed

[MickeyMouse]

None of that made any sense. You flip-flopped your ideas so much in that post I don't even know what you're trying to say.

Clearly you haven't haven't been fully educated in English, which is understandable seeing as you're 14.

To put it in a simpler form, you don't have the right to say his beliefs are unnatural, as you yourself can not make that judgement. He has his beliefs, you have yours. There is no point in you trying to make him believe that being gay is okay if his personal beliefs go against that.

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Clearly you haven't haven't been fully educated in English, which is understandable seeing as you're 14.

To put it in a simpler form, you don't have the right to say his beliefs are unnatural, as you yourself can not make that judgement. He has his beliefs, you have yours. There is no point in you trying to make him believe that being gay is okay if his personal beliefs go against that.

Okay, first of all, my age/education have nothing to do with the fact that you have no idea what you're even talking about.

Second of all, his beliefs on homosexuality are completely irrelevent and pointless. Honestly, there is no belief or opinion to have. You can sit there behind your little computer and spew this crap that being gay is wrong, when you would never say it in person. You're safe where you are, so you feel like you can say anything and get away with it. That's not how it works.

Why should anyone care if you don't like if someone is gay or is in love with someone of the same gender. News flash, it isn't for you to worry about, or even have an opinion on. You won't be able to make someone's REAL love seem fake, because all your doing is promoting hate.

[MickeyMouse]

Okay, first of all, my age/education have nothing to do with the fact that you have no idea what you're even talking about.

Second of all, his beliefs on homosexuality are completely irrelevent and pointless. Honestly, there is no belief or opinion to have. You can sit there behind your little computer and spew this crap that being gay is wrong, when you would never say it in person. You're safe where you are, so you feel like you can say anything and get away with it. That's not how it works.

Why should anyone care if you don't like if someone is gay or is in love with someone of the same gender. News flash, it isn't for you to worry about, or even have an opinion on. You won't be able to make someone's REAL love seem fake, because all your doing is promoting hate.

You're mistaken, I think you're getting very confused here, so I'm going to try and write this in a form that you might understand:

1. I never said that homosexuality is wrong
2. This whole post is ABOUT his beliefs and so they are infact VERY relevant.
3. This was my exact point from the beggining. I simply stated that you should not call his believs abnormal (or unnatural) just because they go against yours; he thinks being gay is wrong, you think being gay is right, don't interfere with eachothers beliefs.
4. You don't even know my opinion on homosexuality and so your argument against me is void.

[Cicero]

It's alright to fear. No one who's gay said "Yes I'm gay!" When they found out.

You could be gay, or you could be bi, or you could be just curious. I can't say that you are just curious, cause I don't know and even you don't know. For all I know, you could be gay. But wait to label your sexuality, by the age of 25 you should definitely know what you are.

-_- Just say what you're going to say. A pointless rant that'll most likely end up with you abandoning the thread as soon as you realize how ridiculous your ideas on homosexuality are.

You can love the person and hate the act. You don't have to love everything about someone to like them. You can hate homosexuality yet love the person. Just how you can love the person, yet hate how jealous they get. Or you can love the person, hate their attitude.


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[Mob Boss]

This is not a debate thread, and a select few need to realize that. Someone is asking for help, not to have different beliefs and bickering stuffed down his throat. Go to ROTW if you feel the need to go back and forth with each other, but this OP deserves actual answers.


OP, I understand you're scared you're going to miss out on a normal life, but same-sex couples achieve every bit of normalcy as any other couple these days. There are options for children, when it comes that time, but that is in the future and you shouldn't be worried about that. If you're sexually attracted to other guys, you're sexually attracted to other guys; big whoop. It's one small part of who you are and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. You will be the same person regardless of whom you find attractive. Don't base this all on hormones, you actually might be gay and there is nothing wrong with that. This is the 21st century, and we haven't been more accepting of others than we are right now. People finally seem to realize that it's okay to be different. It seems to me, however, that you're the only one that has a problem with your sexuality; whatever it may be. You have to understand that you can't stop yourself from liking what you do or try to stop the thoughts. You also can't "watch girls in porn" and it magically make you stop being attracted to guys, it doesn't work that way. Stop trying to change yourself. Just accept that "hey, I may not know what I am right now and that's okay". Whatever you are/whatever you like doesn't matter, it's the kind of person you are that matters.

[Deep Blue Sea]

Hi guys! I'm new to this and I basically just wanted your opinion on this.
I am scared of being gay. Not so much homophobic, just scared. I want to have kids someday and have a family of my own. I love women. No doubt about it. But sometimes (mainly when I'm horny) I will fantasize about guys and about sucking them of or being sucked off by a guy. The thing is, it's almost ALWAYS when I'm horny. So I was wondering if it was just a hormonal thing? and will I grow out of it? and what is the best way to stop these kinds of thoughts? Is it best to just go with it? I've been approached by one of my gay friends at school, should I try anything with him? See if I enjoy it? Really scared and confused at the moment. Would love your feedback! Thanks heaps! :D

I'm 13 and have a boyfriend and we suck each other off all the time and are in love with each other and tongue kiss a lot... But we also like women and both plan to have wife and kids when we grow up.

[justin 13]

OMG, dude I think u dont need 2 close the door. U have the right to experiment and get a better understanding of urself. let me tel u a secret, first I am gay IM SURE, but yesterday I was chatting with a friend on skipe and we xchange some chick pics, and I got hard watching the girls..so..idk ... I guess is part of the teen years.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

Just calm down. Sexuality doesn't define you.

[Trenton_]

Don't listen to him, this is bullshit.
He makes it sound like being gay is wrong and like it is a choice... :rolleyes:

I understand your fears, I myself am bi but lately I'm only interested in boys anymore... But I also want a family and kids of my own. But nowadays for gay people it's possible to marry and have kids, so that's something you don't have to worry about right now. And by the time you're at the age of wanting kids, hopefully and probably there will be even less homophobic thoughts in society.

There is a chance it are just hormones, so don't really worry too much about it. You'll turn out fine whatever you are. But you sure could experiment with your gay friend. It's actually an ideal situation... He's a friend so it's not like you would have a date and feel shy or something, and you could try it out.
A lot of people your age experiment with same sex, and a lot of them are straight! It's part of being a teenager and being young.

So I would say go for it. If you really enjoy it that might be a sign. But don't be afraid of it being gross or something, just relax and have fun!

Hope this helps ;)

Wow! Try addressing the questions he posed. Face it, if you don't want to be something, then don't do it, look at it or be around it or seek it out etc. If you don't want to be a baseball player or gay, do the above. If you ignore everything there is about baseball, it's impossible to like it.

[JonasBe]

sigh. People don't seem to understand sexual orientation is NOT a choice...
You just can't choose for not being gay or bi, you just can't.
You might TRY to ignore everything but then your life would be one big fat lie and in the end you wouldn't be happy.

Best advice remains try it and see what you like. And go on from there.

[coder]

sigh. People don't seem to understand sexual orientation is NOT a choice...
You just can't choose for not being gay or bi, you just can't.
You might TRY to ignore everything but then your life would be one big fat lie and in the end you wouldn't be happy.

Best advice remains try it and see what you like. And go on from there.


STFU, and dont push your opinion on others! Sexual orientation maybe choice for some people (like me), and for some people not. You can also do Controversial therapy, im gonna do it.

http://www.doctoroz.com/episode/gay-straight-controversial-therapy

There is also primal therapy.

[JonasBe]

Controversial therapy?

Hahahaha this is the biggest bullshit I ever heard. There is no such therapy that can magically change your sexual orientation. Stupid homophobic religious redneck mentality. Sigh.

Ow well, believe what you want, I'm having a blast.

[coder]

Controversial therapy?

Hahahaha this is the biggest bullshit I ever heard. There is no such therapy that can magically change your sexual orientation. Stupid homophobic religious redneck mentality. Sigh.

Ow well, believe what you want, I'm having a blast.

Study it. Who are you to say that it doesn't work? I agree it wont work on all people. You should watch the video link i gave, start watching from part 1.

I do not have homophobic mentality... Just look at the video, 2 men are talking about it how they changed, I'm just like them i know i am not gay.

[teen.jpg]

Study it. Who are you to say that it doesn't work? I agree it wont work on all people. You should watch the video link i gave, start watching from part 1.

I do not have homophobic mentality... Just look at the video, 2 men are talking about it how they changed, I'm just like them i know i am not gay.

Oh please, that's got to be the biggest load of bullshit I've read/seen in quite a while. Anyone can SAY that they aren't gay, but they are. The less time you feel sorry for yourself (for no valid reason, might I add) the easier you realize that you can't change your sexuality.

Think of it this way. You're straight, I'm assuming. Would you believe that some random guy is just going to magically make you gay by TALKING to you? That the love for the opposite gender your whole entire life will just disappear because some guy said some words?

Does that not sound ridiculous to you?

[coder]

Oh please, that's got to be the biggest load of bullshit I've read/seen in quite a while. Anyone can SAY that they aren't gay, but they are. The less time you feel sorry for yourself (for no valid reason, might I add) the easier you realize that you can't change your sexuality.

Think of it this way. You're straight, I'm assuming. Would you believe that some random guy is just going to magically make you gay by TALKING to you? That the love for the opposite gender your whole entire life will just disappear because some guy said some words?

Does that not sound ridiculous to you?

You are so stupid, but i guess if you study psychotherapy and science then maybe you will change your mind... "Anyone can SAY that they aren't gay, but they are." - lol? Proved by who? A 14yo kid.

[dilly623]

Experimenting is normal How old are you? makes a difference.. Experimenting doesnt mean you are gay just want know what its like.. could change then again you could like both

[DVNO]

You are so stupid, but i guess if you study psychotherapy and science then maybe you will change your mind... "Anyone can SAY that they aren't gay, but they are." - lol? Proved by who? A 14yo kid.
First of all I see no valid reason why someone would want to change their sexual preference, you cannot change who you are. Secondly, that 14 year old is correct, age doesn't change that fact. You obviously didn't understand what he said, read this again and form a proper response:
You're straight, I'm assuming. Would you believe that some random guy is just going to magically make you gay by TALKING to you? That the love for the opposite gender your whole entire life will just disappear because some guy said some words?

Does that not sound ridiculous to you?

[Lovelife090994]

Oh God, will you stop the debate and just give advice to the commentator? Honestly!

[Lovelife090994]

Study it. Who are you to say that it doesn't work? I agree it wont work on all people. You should watch the video link i gave, start watching from part 1.

I do not have homophobic mentality... Just look at the video, 2 men are talking about it how they changed, I'm just like them i know i am not gay.

It can help many people, regardless of what the naysayers say.

[steellord321]

Well the advice I give is fearing it won't make any difference in the outcome. There is NO reason you can't have kids and marry if your gay. That's seriously the worst reason of any. I mean, you can get married in a dozen states and that # is only going up. There's reasons for this change: being gay is OK and beyond your control! Go experiment if you want. Again it won't make any difference in the outcome. So calm down, maybe you'll grow out of it, maybe not, just relax.