Help! First time anal sex.

[Vladik]

Hey guys and girls, so here's what's up, me and my gf want to try anal sex on our first time when we have sex. We are both virgins and we talked about it and she said she wants to try basically everything in one night (multiple rounds) and she kinda emphasized on anal sex saying she wants to try that. Im not to worried about the vaginal sex but the anal sex. I know I read here you need to use a lot of lube ( we have two bottles ) my main question is the preparation, so far I'm thinking of doin this, first one finger, than two, and here's the question should I instead three afterwards and than my penis? Or could I insert after I stretched her out with two fingers? I really don't want to hurt her cuz it's gonna be a special night and it would be nice if it goes "perfect".
Btw it's her bday soon and her parents are leaving for a while so that's why she wants to try every thing in one night :)
If you need anymore info please comment bellow.
Sorry if this is against the rules for asking for sex help, if it is than please tell me and ill delete it.

[dvd333]

Get her relaxed. It help if you use your fingers before hand. Slowly insert when she is ready. It is normal and common to hurt the first time. Just thrust slowly and have her guide you. It will get better.

[Swagging god]

Well I can't share techniques but I can give you advice and my and advice is start small and see how it goes the best thing to remember is that preparation and communication. She will let you know what she likes, or her body will. Just trust each other and something that is equally important relax. Good luck!!! This is a time you'll remember forever. Nova78 is right its everything I said but shortened.

[Nomad_X]

Lots of lube, and lots of communication.

[HockeyLovesMe]

sry dude i cant help ya here :)

[justin 13]

sry dude i cant help ya here :)

Y NOT? LMAO:yeah::lol:

[SniperKing]

Just make sure she's comfortable the whooolleee time. It may not fit.... And make sure she cleans ;)

[GigglyAbby]

Well I can't share techniques but I can give you advice and my and advice is start small and see how it goes the best thing to remember is that preparation and communication. She will let you know what she likes, or her body will. Just trust each other and something that is equally important relax. Good luck!!! This is a time you'll remember forever. Nova78 is right its everything I said but shortened.

Agreed! Side notes -- to prevent a mess -- strongly consider using a condom -- also please make sure your lube is water based. Consider cleaning her anus out prior to this. Go slow and be gentle too

[LitBlackRose]

It's gonna hurt no matter what but the best thing is lots and lots of lube so it doesnt hurt to much and stretch and prepare her slowly until 3 fingers the do it slowly very slowly and gental going in

[Deep Blue Sea]

I just had anal sex for the first time the other night with my bf. We read about how to do it right online. You use lots of lube and you put one finger in, then two, then three. All very slowly to stretch out and relax the sphincter. Then when the penis is going inside you need to push your sphincter out like you are trying to poop. That's what helps it slide in. We both had very little pain with it going in the first time. But it has to go in real slow. And you have to keep it all the way in without pulling it back out until all the anus muscles relax. And then go in and out really slowly and gently. Then you can pick up speed as the person becomes more used to having your penis in them. Feels so good both giving it and getting it.

[johnsmith1]

I just had anal sex for the first time the other night with my bf. We read about how to do it right online. You use lots of lube and you put one finger in, then two, then three. All very slowly to stretch out and relax the sphincter. Then when the penis is going inside you need to push your sphincter out like you are trying to poop. That's what helps it slide in. We both had very little pain with it going in the first time. But it has to go in real slow. And you have to keep it all the way in without pulling it back out until all the anus muscles relax. And then go in and out really slowly and gently. Then you can pick up speed as the person becomes more used to having your penis in them. Feels so good both giving it and getting it.

Out of all the hreads on this I've seen, that's about the best way to sum it up I've seen.

[Deep Blue Sea]

Out of all the hreads on this I've seen, that's about the best way to sum it up I've seen.

Thank you :wub: Most people here have been admonishing me for us making love to each other, all I have to say to that is :P

[darthearth]

I just had anal sex for the first time the other night with my bf. We read about how to do it right online. You use lots of lube and you put one finger in, then two, then three. All very slowly to stretch out and relax the sphincter. Then when the penis is going inside you need to push your sphincter out like you are trying to poop. That's what helps it slide in. We both had very little pain with it going in the first time. But it has to go in real slow. And you have to keep it all the way in without pulling it back out until all the anus muscles relax. And then go in and out really slowly and gently. Then you can pick up speed as the person becomes more used to having your penis in them. Feels so good both giving it and getting it.

This. And learn how to poop good every time you sit on the pot so you can always be ready lol (hint: may involve sitting back further on the seat)

[agirl555]

Is it oossible to get pregnant through anal?

[justinglives]

I just had anal sex for the first time the other night with my bf. We read about how to do it right online. You use lots of lube and you put one finger in, then two, then three. All very slowly to stretch out and relax the sphincter. Then when the penis is going inside you need to push your sphincter out like you are trying to poop. That's what helps it slide in. We both had very little pain with it going in the first time. But it has to go in real slow. And you have to keep it all the way in without pulling it back out until all the anus muscles relax. And then go in and out really slowly and gently. Then you can pick up speed as the person becomes more used to having your penis in them. Feels so good both giving it and getting it.

Exactly.what Evan said!
This is the best advice ever.

[Deep Blue Sea]

R u sure ure only 13 cuz dude.......u have so much insight and sound so friggin mature its UN canny!

I'm a gifted kid. I can operate close to a college level, and I do tons of reading, so that's what it is. If you've ever seen the TV show Malcolm In The Middle, I'm a Malcolm.

[Maria_Lopez]

But it has to go in real slow. And you have to keep it all the way in without pulling it back out until all the anus muscles relax. And then go in and out really slowly and gently. Then you can pick up speed as the person becomes more used to having your penis in them.

This is a great point. From the perspective of a girl that has done this. Everyone talks about the stretching with fingers first and going slow. To me the most critical thing is that when you do use your penis, when your head goes in for the first moment. Do not just keep pushing like in the vagina. Stop for a moment or two and hold still and allow her bum to get used to the sensation. Once that is done then slowly push the rest of way in. Also, do not pull all the way out for awhile. To me the actual ouch part is the entering, not the trusting. When i first started. No i'm fine with whatever.

[snowtrax]

Just make sure you insert it really slow. You'll want to just shove it right in but hold back.

[MrROGERS]

just dont let her eat too much
too much eat=stomach ache
stomach ache=poop
poop while anal sex=your screwed

[jenna99]

It sounds weird but someone told me that a girl should try to push out when you're first going in and it will help it be loose.

[Poopsie do]

You are going to use a condom right. You could get an infection if you have anal sex.

[Maria72k]

i say make sure and use those three fingers first