confused :/

[ksmusic94]

so basically i'm an 18 year old girl, who is really confused about my sexuality..

I’m attracted to both girls and guys; sometimes I see a guy and I would love to get to know him. And the idea of being with him makes me want to be more feminine and more of a ‘girly-girl’ - like i do find guys physically attractive and think yeah i'd like a boyfriend

But then other times, I look at women and think how pretty they are and how much I find women attractive - I like the idea of looking after a girl and protecting her, being the one that she looks to for support and the only one she wants to be with, the one she wants to protect her and cuddle her

I look up to people who don’t let their sexuality define who they are, or who they want to be; those who are not afraid to admit they are bisexual and show people that love is based things rather than gender

I don't know if i'm bisexual or if i'm just curious, but I mean how can you really know if your bisexual if you’ve never experienced being with a girl? I’ve never really been in a serious relationship with either a guy or a girl, so how can I possibly know, or even for that matter have these thoughts and feelings about even dating a girl when I’ve never been in a real serious relationship?

I think about this all the time and I constantly wonder who I really am, or who I’m meant to be, whether I’m bisexual or curious..
I feel so confused all the time about this, and i'm scared of what and how people will think of me if they knew the truth; if they knew how I really feel, would they treat me different?

thank you to anyone to maybe able to help

[Croconaw]

People will not betray you if they know the truth. If they do, they're assholes. You would deserve better. There are people out there who will accept you for who you are. Never be ashamed of who you are. Don't change for people to accept you. Good luck.

[jayyy-lmao]

I’m attracted to both girls and guys; sometimes I see a guy and I would love to get to know him. And the idea of being with him makes me want to be more feminine and more of a ‘girly-girl’ - like i do find guys physically attractive and think yeah i'd like a boyfriend

But then other times, I look at women and think how pretty they are and how much I find women attractive - I like the idea of looking after a girl and protecting her, being the one that she looks to for support and the only one she wants to be with, the one she wants to protect her and cuddle her


Girl, I know exactly how you feel. Literally. I feel very overprotective, like a big brother, of my crush.


I look up to people who don’t let their sexuality define who they are, or who they want to be; those who are not afraid to admit they are bisexual and show people that love is based things rather than gender


So do I. Sounds funny because it means I look up to myself.


I don't know if i'm bisexual or if i'm just curious, but I mean how can you really know if your bisexual if you’ve never experienced being with a girl? I’ve never really been in a serious relationship with either a guy or a girl, so how can I possibly know, or even for that matter have these thoughts and feelings about even dating a girl when I’ve never been in a real serious relationship?

I think about this all the time and I constantly wonder who I really am, or who I’m meant to be, whether I’m bisexual or curious..
I feel so confused all the time about this, and i'm scared of what and how people will think of me if they knew the truth; if they knew how I really feel, would they treat me different?

thank you to anyone to maybe able to help

I know how you feel; I'm thirteen so I've never been in a serious relationship, full stop. But just think. Look at that girl that sets your heart racing, your mind running in circles and your stomach filled with butterflies. Can you see yourself kissing her? Dating her? Living with her? Marrying her? Just think about that.

And people shouldn't treat you differently. If they do, ignore them. They shouldn't treat you badly because of this, don't be embarrassed of it. True friends will care no matter what you are.
Good luck with all this. :)

[ksmusic94]

jojo1189 - thanks for the reply, hope you don't mind if i ask you some questions about it?
like was it difficult coming out to people?
how did you cope with it?

[jayyy-lmao]

jojo1189 - thanks for the reply, hope you don't mind if i ask you some questions about it?
like was it difficult coming out to people?
how did you cope with it?

Was it difficult- A little. Parents are the hardest. If you tell a total gossip then everyone'll know. But friends generally just look at you and say "That's okay"
Coping wasn't that bad. Where I am, no one really gave a shit.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

I’m attracted to both girls and guys; sometimes I see a guy and I would love to get to know him. And the idea of being with him makes me want to be more feminine and more of a ‘girly-girl’ - like i do find guys physically attractive and think yeah i'd like a boyfriend

But then other times, I look at women and think how pretty they are and how much I find women attractive - I like the idea of looking after a girl and protecting her, being the one that she looks to for support and the only one she wants to be with, the one she wants to protect her and cuddle her

This is fairly similar to the way I feel. In fact, nearly the same. But don't let this junk define you, (which I'm prettty sure you mention later).

I look up to people who don’t let their sexuality define who they are, or who they want to be; those who are not afraid to admit they are bisexual and show people that love is based things rather than gender

Yes, It is mentioned right here. You need to be like those people. Yet again, sexuality is only a part of a person. Not the whole thing.

I don't know if i'm bisexual or if i'm just curious, but I mean how can you really know if your bisexual if you’ve never experienced being with a girl? I’ve never really been in a serious relationship with either a guy or a girl, so how can I possibly know, or even for that matter have these thoughts and feelings about even dating a girl when I’ve never been in a real serious relationship?

I hate putting this point out here a third time, but the gender(s) you like is only part of you, and to add to this repeated point, nothing to do with what you are.

In my case, a boy, but I know because I've felt enough compassion for a boy to wish for his hand in marriage. But in your case, don't label yourself. You know more about yourself than anyone else, especially me, because I hardly know you :P But possibly, the same reason as I know of my own sexuality.

I think about this all the time and I constantly wonder who I really am, or who I’m meant to be, whether I’m bisexual or curious..


It doesn't really matter. I really shouldn't repeat.

I feel so confused all the time about this, and i'm scared of what and how people will think of me if they knew the truth; if they knew how I really feel, would they treat me different?

MOST people will treat you the way they have all the time you've known them, but some homophobes will treat you like you believe in the devil (I hate to offend any Wiccans that might be reading this, but it is the truth), in other words, they'll treat you with complete disrespect and hatred.

[ksmusic94]

I really do appreciate the responses that people write :) so thank you! I think at the moment the hardest part is admitting it to myself really. I'm only really just coming to terms with it....
It's something that in the past I've just tried to ignore and push to the back of my mind! :/

[jayyy-lmao]

I really do appreciate the responses that people write :) so thank you! I think at the moment the hardest part is admitting it to myself really. I'm only really just coming to terms with it....
It's something that in the past I've just tried to ignore and push to the back of my mind! :/

I understand this feeling. Like, "I can't be. No way."
But you are.
And guess what?
WHO GIVES A DAMN?
No one!

[Extreme586]

Anyone who would treat you any different based on who you like is not the type of person you want to invest anything into.

[emily-candace]

It could be that you just want to experience with a girl and you only may do it once and it will be over. But I do agree with others, no matter what the outcome, your true friends will always be there for you. I just say do what you feel.

[ksmusic94]

I think that I'm just nervous on how people would react if I tell them... I'm not normally a person who tells people things... I tend to bottle things up quite a lot.. this the first time I have spoken to anybody about this, and really addressed how I feel