Girls be honest, what makes a guy attractive?

[sontar]

It seems like all girls at my school seem to just be interested in guys who are total douchebags, abusive, on drugs, one direction lookalikes, ect. Why is that? Ladies, what honestly makes a guy attractive to you? It seems like being loyal, kind, holding doors open, and having a sense of humor isnt working anymore :what: I'm literally the nicest guy at our school, I have so much respect for girls, I don't look at them like slabs of meat, I don't call them ugly or fat, I'm just nice. But then when I have the courage to ask a girl out, I either get friend zoned, or rudely rejected (they could at least be nice about it :mad:) What is it? Is it a guys looks, clothes, personality, money? Be honest please, I'm incredibly confused right now................

[Elysium]

Maturity is the most attractive thing for me, first and foremost. Chivalry is charming as well.

[GigglyAbby]

being loyal and kind -- holding doors open -- and having a sense of humor are some things that I seek in a person I'd date -- yet here's more:


Level of confidence balance as I don't like one who is too confident and think I'm there's and I don't want one who doubts themselves when it comes to dating me
One who respects themselves [always clean & presentable -- free from illegal drugs] and it shows
One who respects me and my decisions and won't pressure me in anyway
Have similar interests or beliefs than I do
Emotionally mature

[workingatperfect]

The major things for me are kind of a mean sense of humor (but not in a truly mean way, just like, teasing and stuff. I've always been attracted to guys that aren't afraid to make fun of me in a flirty way) and reasonably good looking. And respect as well. Being disrespected does not fly with me lol.

[bluebird_11]

I suppose it depends on the girl.

Personally, I like guys who are quiet and polite. Not too in-your-face all the time, and with a good sense of humour. One who doesn't oggle other girls in front of you is essential. -.-

I'm not really sure where you're going wrong, but I suppose you could just not be their type :/

Good luck for the future!

[lyrical]

I Love The Smile And Eyes Of Any Human Being But Mostly A Boy. I Also Love The Sense Of Humor. Looks Play A Part But Its Not As Big As The Personality:)

[Taryn98]

confident, intelligent, funny, outgoing, athletic

[StayBeautiful33]

To me an attractive guy is
- Geeky/Nerdy
- Loyal
- Goofy sense of humor
- Not afraid to be himself no matter who is around
- Sensitive
- A Sweetheart
- And of course physically attractive but there are so many different types of attractive what may be attractive to me is definitely not attractive to another girl everybody's tastes are different.

[badthoughts]

I'm not really sure where you're going wrong, but I suppose you could just not be their type
Addressing the first part of that statement, I'm not convinced that he's necessarily going wrong, as in doing the wrong things, or to put it another way - doing things that are opposite of what he should be doing. But I'm also not convinced that he is actually doing the things that he should be doing.

Addressing the second part, I agree with that. Men and women both have a type of person to which they are attracted. I believe that there are some universal traits that apply to what each sex finds attractive, but the details vary from person to person. Unfortunately, I think the girls that he finds attractive just don't reciprocate the attraction, and I'm willing to bet that we could turn the tables on him and find some girls that are attracted to him but alas, they just aren't his type.

I'm literally the nicest guy at our school, I have so much respect for girls
How about for yourself? Do you have as much or more respect for yourself? You don't have to answer that, it's kinda rhetorical. You see, being super duper nice really doesn't cut it. For example, if some jerk is being mean to someone, do you punch him in the mouth and tell him to stop that shit or do you ignore it? Well, if you punched his teeth out, would you be considered the nicest guy at your school? Nope, not at all, but you'd probably have some girls oogling over you for being brave and standing up for someone weaker, and you would feel good about yourself for doing what is right.

Now, I am absolutely not encouraging you to punch somebody. No way. I'm just using that as a hypothetical example to make my point. Women are attracted to men who exhibit confidence, and while that does not mean that you can be an ass or douchebag, sometimes it does mean that you need to not be such a nice guy. Good luck.

[agirl555]

I like guys who are calm but dominent and protective. Also ones that are nice and care for me.

[HollisterGirl98]

The most attractive quality that a guy can have in my opinion is compassion. If a guy cares about the relationship and is sensitive, then he's golden. It's a bonus if he's physically good looking

[Chris Daniels]

Hmm.... I don't know, too. I also have that thought why some girls likes that type of guys but if I am asked what is attractive to me, I don't know, too, again. I don't remember getting attracted to men, same to the other gender. I guess in your case, the type of girl who will be attracted to you isn't in your school, just wait. *thumbs up* :D