Questions for Bi/Gay guys/girls

[jayyy-lmao]

So, would you like your same-sex partner to be the, I dunno, more manly one or would you like to be the manlier one?
I mean, even in same-sex couples, there's normally the guy in the relationship. If you guys get me.

Edit: Seen as so many people are taking this the wrong way, I'm not asking in a stereotypical way. To put it as another guy said, would you want to be the big spoon or the little spoon?

If it was me, I'd rather be the manly one. I'd just live to sweep a girl off her feet with romance and stuff. It'd be so cute.

[Elysium]

I read an article a while ago from a woman discussing being lesbian. People kept asking her who the man was in her relationship. She responded with something along the lines of this:

Isn't the whole point that they're both girls or both guys? Why does one need to be more masculine?

[jayyy-lmao]

I read an article a while ago from a woman discussing being lesbian. People kept asking her who the man was in her relationship. She responded with something along the lines of this:

Isn't the whole point that they're both girls or both guys? Why does one need to be more masculine?

Yeah, I get this, but you know how some girls are girlier than others? It's just like that. Who would be the prince in the couple? Like, I've always had the desire to be the one saving the girl, not being saved. I've always wanted to be the romantic guy who turns up at your door with his guitar and sings for you, or climbs up the vines on your wall to get to you. What I'm asking is, would you like to do that for someone, or for someone to do it to you?

[Elysium]

Yeah, I get this, but you know how some girls are girlier than others? It's just like that. Who would be the prince in the couple? Like, I've always had the desire to be the one saving the girl, not being saved. I've always wanted to be the romantic guy who turns up at your door with his guitar and sings for you, or climbs up the vines on your wall to get to you. What I'm asking is, would you like to do that for someone, or for someone to do it to you?
Yes, I understand. I am completely and wholly female, though I'm not of a very feminine or masculine persuasion, so I guess you could say that at times, behaviorally, I'm more androgynous. I don't care who's doing the "masculine" or "feminine" things in the relationship. For different people, I'd probably act a little differently.

[Hermes96]

see the one thing i hated about my Ex was that he acted like the man in the relationship and i had to do as he said. although i do love the idea of having a night in shining armor coming to my rescue.

[justin 13]

I like guys acting like a boys, older ones, caring about me and being sweet BUT Im not a girly boy.

[jacktheawesome]

Id b the manly one

[teen.jpg]

That's such a stereotype, and it shouldn't always be like that. Both people in the relationship should be themselves, no "masculine" or "feminine" label matters. Just the love they have.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

I'll just be myself. A wierd combination of manly and womanly. :P

[jacktheawesome]

Manilee

[Faolan]

I've never been in a relationship, but I'm much more in touch with my feminine side, so I would most likely not be the "man" in the relationship.

[jayyy-lmao]

That's such a stereotype, and it shouldn't always be like that. Both people in the relationship should be themselves, no "masculine" or "feminine" label matters. Just the love they have.

Yes, I understand. But I'm not asking in the stereotypical way. I'm asking would you like to be treated with romantic things more than you treat him/her?

[lukene]

I'm not the most masculine guy but I'm not that girly (I don't think), when I think of being with a guy I want him to be the one who will hug me from behind, I'll put my head in his lap and lean on his shoulder and cuddle up to him. In no way do I want to be the girl but I wanna be the little spoon so to speak

[indoxyl]

I dont act feminine at all, but i think i would want my partner to be the 'masculine' one. i love being taken care of. it comforts me.

[Biscuithead13]

I like to be cuddled like a guy cuz It makes me feel safe and secure :3 and I've normally been considered the girl in my relationships xD

[kenoloor]

That's such a stereotype, and it shouldn't always be like that. Both people in the relationship should be themselves, no "masculine" or "feminine" label matters. Just the love they have.

uh yeah this

gender roles are so 2000s

[teen.jpg]

Yes, I understand. But I'm not asking in the stereotypical way. I'm asking would you like to be treated with romantic things more than you treat him/her?

That's STILL stereotypical because you assumed that every female in a relationship shoukd be submissive, and vice versa.

Really, it doesn't matter regardless. It shoukd be a mix of both in the relationship.

[jayyy-lmao]

That's STILL stereotypical because you assumed that every female in a relationship shoukd be submissive, and vice versa.

Really, it doesn't matter regardless. It shoukd be a mix of both in the relationship.

I wasn't trying. I apologise, it wasn't meant to be stereotypical. As I have rephrased, would you rather be the big spoon or the little spoon?

[Faolan]

That's STILL stereotypical because you assumed that every female in a relationship shoukd be submissive, and vice versa.

Really, it doesn't matter regardless. It shoukd be a mix of both in the relationship.

It shouldn't be about masculinity or femininity, since those are bad words to use in this case. It would be better to explain it with personality types, dismissive of gender stereotypes. If someone has a more "dominant" personality, they would be the "man." Note that I put quotation marks around "man."

[indoxyl]

Oh good lord. Why is everybody getting so worked up other this??? Obviously not every same sex relationship has feminine or masculine roles but there are some that do abd its seriously not a big deal. Everybody needs to chill out. It was just a simple question.

[The LOLer]

I wouldn't care as long as I can receive blowjobs. 0_0 what?

[Magenta]

Asking which one is the man is like asking which chopstick is the fork.

My ex-girlfriend and I had rather interchangeable 'roles'. It's not so much about being the 'man' or the 'woman', it's just personality. I don't prefer one or the other really. It depends on the person I'm with and the chemistry I have with them.

[Bath]

So, would you like your same-sex partner to be the, I dunno, more manly one or would you like to be the manlier one?
I mean, even in same-sex couples, there's normally the guy in the relationship. If you guys get me.

Edit: Seen as so many people are taking this the wrong way, I'm not asking in a stereotypical way. To put it as another guy said, would you want to be the big spoon or the little spoon?

If it was me, I'd rather be the manly one. I'd just live to sweep a girl off her feet with romance and stuff. It'd be so cute.

The reason why this is offensive is because you are comparing same-sex relationships to "normal" straight couples. Because it's "normal" to have a "masculine" one and a "feminine" one, and "weird" for both parties to be fems or butches or in between or neither.

By applying that one should be masculine or feminine in the first place is placing the requirements of cis straight couples as the normality.

I know you didn't mean to be offensive by this, but that's why.

[GigglyAbby]

I prefer her to be the more dominant one.

[Danny.Robertson]

Personally, I think I'd prefer to be the more submissive one.

[peaceNlove]

Oh good lord. Why is everybody getting so worked up other this??? Obviously not every same sex relationship has feminine or masculine roles but there are some that do abd its seriously not a big deal. Everybody needs to chill out. It was just a simple question.

When i saw this i started to wish that there was a "like" button on here. I completely agree, people are getting too worked up over a simple question. I guess by replying to this im "liking" your comment c: lol

[Abyssal Echo]

I prefer guys that are masculine...act like a guy but are loving. someone that will hug, kiss, hold me and cuddle with me.

[peaceNlove]

I think I'd want to be the "manly" one. I've haven't been in a relationship with a girl yet but i think i would want to be the dominant one in a way. I'd want to be the one to buy the girl flowers and comfort her, make her feel better, stuff like that. Although in no way do i have a manly personality lol (im not too girly but im more girly than i am not, i think) But I totally get what you mean by there being a more dominant person in a same sex relationship.