I don't know what to do...

[Jordan181]

Hi, first post here, I need some expert advice because I'm torn!

Basically, me and a few friends have been planning to go to the cinema on Friday for ages now. Last night I decided to ask the girl I like to come and she said she can't make it, so I said we could go Saturday before asking everyone else if they could do Saturday - they can't. She also wants to bring one of her friends so I'm worried it might be a bit awkward because I don't really know her friend.

So what do I do? My friends are a bit annoyed that I'm ditching them for a girl and I know if I went with them it would be so funny and we'd have a great time. But on the other hand, I might get the girl!!

Please help :(

[Tylergp]

Go for the girl! Without a doubt, if they're real friends they will be there for next time, if you don't take the chance with her now she might not be there for a second chance... Also with the friend tagging along, make sure to involve her in conversations and jokes as well to make it less of an awkward situation and make her not feel like she's third wheeling. If you act friendly to both of them then she (the girl you like) will want to hangout with you more. Hope this helps I'm here if you need any more advice!

[Fanta_Lover44]

Hi, first post here, I need some expert advice because I'm torn!

Basically, me and a few friends have been planning to go to the cinema on Friday for ages now. Last night I decided to ask the girl I like to come and she said she can't make it, so I said we could go Saturday before asking everyone else if they could do Saturday - they can't. She also wants to bring one of her friends so I'm worried it might be a bit awkward because I don't really know her friend.

So what do I do? My friends are a bit annoyed that I'm ditching them for a girl and I know if I went with them it would be so funny and we'd have a great time. But on the other hand, I might get the girl!!

Please help :(

My advice would be to go along! You might find that her friend is really nice and likes you as a friend, you will probably get along fine, if not you can always just hang out as a 3 even know you may not like her as it makes the other person happy and it will also look as your the mature one.

I've been in the situation with a friend thing... Here if you need me :)

[Jordan181]

Thanks guys, I'm definitely going with the girl!

Just one quick thing, if I offer to pay for her ticket, would it be rude not to offer for her friend as well?

And if the perfect opportunity for the first kiss comes up, should I take it, even if her friend is there?

Thank you! :)

[Croconaw]

Yes kiss her when you can

[Tylergp]

Offer to pay for the friend but chances are she will say no thankyou.. Either way, make sure you have to cash for all three tickets and for snacks with a little left over..

[Jordan181]

Because of my age I can't get a job so I'm not going to able to pay for all 3 of us!

[justin 13]

yeah dude go 4 it.

[Tylergp]

Well try and get some money from your dad, either way make sure you have enough for her

[Jordan181]

Yeah I've got enough to pay for us two and snacks, just not all 3.

What would be the best way to tell her I'll pay? Sounds really stupid but this is my first ever date and I don't want to mess up! Should I wait until she's about to pay then step in or tell her beforehand?

[Tylergp]

If you can time it right, sure, if not just get in line ahead of her and buy two tickets. Additionally, make sure you open the door for her and when you go to your seats in the movie get 3 seats on the edge of the row, step up past the seat to let her friend in then her and then you sit at the edge with her I between you and her friend

[Jordan181]

****!!!!!! So annoyed with myself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Turns out her friend couldn't make it so it was just me and her - brilliant. So I picked her up from her house and everything was going fine, in the cinema it was great, we were laughing and talking like we were best friends everything was going smooth. But then on the car journey back, when we got to her house, I panicked and didn't know what to do so I just sat there said goodbye, she got out and went inside! Have I just blown everything?!

I text her straight after saying tonight was really good and I know I didn't say goodbye properly but do you want to do something again soon? And she replied saying it was funny and yeah maybe.

What should I interpret from this?!

[Tylergp]

You didn't blow it I promise! Pull it off with some flattery and then next time be confident, pull up to her house, get out and walk around to open her door then walk her to her front door and tell her you had a great night then look into her eyes and start to lean in a bit and if she goes with it kiss her :p

[Jordan181]

Okay thanks! Her best friend is in a relationship with one of my friends and she was talking about going bowling together, do you think this is a good idea?

[Tylergp]

It a great idea! And don't be afraid to be a doofus while bowling, go for ridiculous shots and stuff just be funny haha

[Jordan181]

I don't think it's going to happen any time soon. Just got a text this morning saying "last night was really good but I wanna keep things as friends".

I guess there's nothing I can do now... :(

[Tylergp]

How did you reply to it? Make sure you don't freak out, just say " oh, that's unfortunate. Well thanks for the good time though:)" and then go from there. Basically don't make a big deal out of it.

[Gazmo]

im sorry it didnt work out, but they'll always be other girls

[Jordan181]

Yeah I just said "it was good, thank you, and that's fine"

[Jordan181]

Okay I really don't know what's going on in her head. Today at school she was constantly avoiding me, we are in all the same lessons and whenever I looked in her direction she would turn her head the other way. We ended up standing next to each other waiting outside a classroom and she was just standing there looking straight ahead and it felt really awkward and I don't know why!

I want to carry on being friends as we were but I don't understand why she is acting like this! :confused: