View Full Version : How can I make friends when I'm incredibly upopular??
omgitsgrace
May 28th, 2013, 05:29 PM
So basically I have 1 friend, and to be honest she's boring as hell, everyday she drags me to the library and I feel like I'm just there to sit and wait for her to finish reading :/ When I leave her in the library (I don't think she realizes ¬.¬) I just walk around the school alone.
I see people I used to talk to aswell but I just don't have the gut's to say hi, they're all in big groups of friends anyway and I think I'd be introuding or just annoying.
Also my reputation isn't great, I have a friend I only ever talk to online and I was saying how a Welsh guy I knew messaged me and I was happy and she just said:
' you have friends o.o !'
then in a message one second later:
'Jk'
No shame.
Which is just kind of sad for me because I was trying to talk to her in Spanish a few days ago and be more friends, it was just awkward though and I think she thinks I'm annoying or something. I really don't know what to do, people online say get talking but I feel like I can't because I'm not part of anyone's social circle so I feel like I shouldn't bother. .¬. I just feel so lonely all the time.
Croconaw
May 28th, 2013, 05:46 PM
I feel like that all the time, so I can definitely relate. It seems to me that you were hanging out with this person because you felt lonely. You are not unpopular, by the way. Popularity is a joke. Just because someone has a lot of friends; it doesn't automatically make them popular. You can try finding someone that is nice, respectful, and shares interests. You can start by saying hi when you see them in the hallway, classroom, etc... Then what you can do is after doing that a few times, ask them how their day was. Maybe you can start up a conversation then.
omgitsgrace
May 28th, 2013, 06:09 PM
thankyou! :) I'm glad others can relate and I'm not alone!! :)))) I will definatley try this as soon as possible.
Cygnus
May 28th, 2013, 06:18 PM
Let me tell you this, as you go through school popularity is a thing that starts mattering less, ive always had this thing where I can know who I could be friends with and make the attempt to talk to them, if you are too afraid to talk sit next to extroverted people in class, that might help.
gipsy danger
May 29th, 2013, 04:36 AM
I didn't know how this felt before I came to the US but before I was a well known guy because I was a straight A student, I was in choir and theatre, and I threw a lot of parties. but while I'm here my friends go out without me and then tell me I should of went. but it does suck. but my advice is join one of the school clubs and pick something that seems fun and new. in classes when put in groups just be more open. just loosen up and just have fun and network around. when I was in school my best friend was a really smart guy that had no friends when I met him now he is the most social guy you'll ever meet
omgitsgrace
May 29th, 2013, 06:31 AM
Thanks for the advice everyone. But in class when we're in groups everyone just instantly goes to their friends anyway and when me or my friend ask to go with anyone they say that they have too many in their group , last time in RE my teacher threatned to cancel the group work or do silent written work if no one let us in their group :/ it was awkward because I just really wanted to cry at that moment. I think in group work I'll just have to stick to going with people if they're missing a partner and such. I used to go to drama club but I stopped saying I couldn't afford the train fare home, I did have people who liked me there but we never spoke outside of drama. What I really want to join is an Art club but I'm not sure if there is at this time of year. I'll look into it. And I might look into a lunchtime club so I'm not bored all lunch You've all been very helpful, thanks. ;D
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