suuphy
May 27th, 2013, 04:32 PM
Oh my god I hate that song but it seems so relevant.
First off, hello, this is my first post to VT. I've never been involved in any kind of forum but wanted to discuss my most recent dilemma with a non judgmental group of strangers. So here it is:
Recently, I've been pursuing this boy who is 6 years older than me. The moment I met him, there seemed to be "sparks" between us. Or at least I definitely felt them, which was a first for me. I have been in previous relationships but in most of them I felt little or no connection to my partner, I was almost resigned to labeling myself as aromantic/asexual until I met said boy. It was an amazing feeling at first, I was so happy to find I was capable of attraction that, in my ignorance, I assumed he would respond to my feelings. While our relationship is very new, we have casually hung-out, chatted on the phone, messaged on facebook, etc. Nothing that would constitute a romantic relationship but enjoyable none the less. I think about him on the daily and wish to take our relationship to the next level, but recently realized that I am the only one reaching out. Our date's are set up by me, phone calls are initiated by me, it goes on. Although there have been a few instances where he seemed to care, I am very unsure. I've been ignoring my strong urges to call him to see if he will reach out for once but it’s so difficult. I’ve been checking my facebook every five minutes to see if he’s messaged me yet and it’s keeping me from enjoying my weekend and getting things done.
Am I completely blinded by infatuation? Is it wrong for me to test him so early in our relationship? Am I damaging any chance we have by backing off? Is there some factor I'm missing? Possibly our age gap is scaring him off? WHAT SHOULD I DO??
ANY feedback would be heplful. I’m just trying to untangle this mess in my head.
Sophia
:):)
First off, hello, this is my first post to VT. I've never been involved in any kind of forum but wanted to discuss my most recent dilemma with a non judgmental group of strangers. So here it is:
Recently, I've been pursuing this boy who is 6 years older than me. The moment I met him, there seemed to be "sparks" between us. Or at least I definitely felt them, which was a first for me. I have been in previous relationships but in most of them I felt little or no connection to my partner, I was almost resigned to labeling myself as aromantic/asexual until I met said boy. It was an amazing feeling at first, I was so happy to find I was capable of attraction that, in my ignorance, I assumed he would respond to my feelings. While our relationship is very new, we have casually hung-out, chatted on the phone, messaged on facebook, etc. Nothing that would constitute a romantic relationship but enjoyable none the less. I think about him on the daily and wish to take our relationship to the next level, but recently realized that I am the only one reaching out. Our date's are set up by me, phone calls are initiated by me, it goes on. Although there have been a few instances where he seemed to care, I am very unsure. I've been ignoring my strong urges to call him to see if he will reach out for once but it’s so difficult. I’ve been checking my facebook every five minutes to see if he’s messaged me yet and it’s keeping me from enjoying my weekend and getting things done.
Am I completely blinded by infatuation? Is it wrong for me to test him so early in our relationship? Am I damaging any chance we have by backing off? Is there some factor I'm missing? Possibly our age gap is scaring him off? WHAT SHOULD I DO??
ANY feedback would be heplful. I’m just trying to untangle this mess in my head.
Sophia
:):)