Ive f*cked up my brothers lives

[NiaBlew]

My father has custody of me (16) and my 2 little brothers (6 and 9).
We stay with our mother every weekend and every summer (Since my Parents divorce 4 1/2 years ago)

My mothers husband (the guy she left dad for) is on the sex offender registry, and isn't supposed to be around my brothers and I at all.

We have been telling our father he wasn't around when we went to stay with mom because she told us if we didnt lie that we would never get to see her again. Our father doesn't even have her adress, so when we are with her he has no clue where we really are.

My mom has had us lying about her husband since I was 12 and my brothers were 2 and 5 (we were very easy to manipulate at these ages). Last week I got the courage to tell her that I wasn't lying for her anymore.

She won't speak to me now...

I don't care if my mother hates me now or not. Her husband has raped two underaged people (she knows this). I just really hate myself now because I couldn't stand up to her earlier. I've made my little brothers suffer for almost 5 years. They have had to lie to their father and be around a drunk abusive step father for most of their lives....they aren't even out of elementary school. I should have realized earlier, and now they are both emotionally scarred and its my fault.

[Matt_2012]

Don't hate yourself for not standing up to her earlier. you did the right thing and your in a heavy situation. I don't think i would have handled a situation like that as well.

I mean this in no offence but the only people that should feel bad is your mum and your step dad. Your mum for telling you to lie and your step dad to stand by and let it happen.

[Captain Who]

Have you told your dad yet? Surely you should have called the police or seen the police at one point. What I would do is keep a close eye on your little brothers and make sure you stay close by them when you are at your mums, maybe even take them outside to prevent it from happening again.

[NiaBlew]

Have you told your dad yet? Surely you should have called the police or seen the police at one point. What I would do is keep a close eye on your little brothers and make sure you stay close by them when you are at your mums, maybe even take them outside to prevent it from happening again.

I just found out that in my state I'm legally old enough to decide not to go over my moms house anymore so I'm not going back and I'm not letting my brothers go either. And about the police thing, my dad is a cop. The police couldn't do anything until I spoke up about what was going on and I just spoke up last week.

[NiaBlew]

Don't hate yourself for not standing up to her earlier. you did the right thing and your in a heavy situation. I don't think i would have handled a situation like that as well.

I mean this in no offence but the only people that should feel bad is your mum and your step dad. Your mum for telling you to lie and your step dad to stand by and let it happen.

I know I shouldn't hate myself, but I'm supposed to be looking out for my brothers...I'm supposed to be the big sister and I couldn't even do that right.

[Matt_2012]

Yes but the fact that you spoke out is what matters and no ones perfect. Hope everything works out for you and your brothers.

[Cece14]

It will all get better

[Horatio Nelson]

You made the right choice. Things should be better from here on out. :)

[pimpin aint easy]

I was raped when I was 9 and I think your being the best sister anyone could have for speaking up
what I went through was traumatizing and made me a ptsd patient (post traumatic stess disorder) and I did not have anyone that could speak up for me
thanks for saving your bros
if I could see you I would hug you...
god damn I stated crying

[NiaBlew]

I was raped when I was 9 and I think your being the best sister anyone could have for speaking up
what I went through was traumatizing and made me a ptsd patient (post traumatic stess disorder) and I did not have anyone that could speak up for me
thanks for saving your bros
if I could see you I would hug you...
god damn I stated crying

Thankyou :3

[xXl0sth0peXx]

You did the right thing. It's incredibly hard, but you did and that's a hell of a good thing. Most people wouldn't be able to work up the courage to tell someone, but you did.

You can't change the past, sadly. You can't fix your mom's mistakes. But you can be there for and support your brothers now. You haven't fucked up their lives. They'll thank you someday, because you DID tell them. It's not about what you didn't do, it's about what you did do. <3